Some Thoughts On Friendship

 

A friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you.
― Elbert Hubbard

Hey, Lovelies.
Have you ever found friendship perplexing?

When I was young my Nana wrote in my autograph book ‘True friends like diamonds are precious and rare, false friends like autumn leaves are found everywhere.’ As an eight-year-old I didn’t really get that. And anyway, wasn’t it better if you had a  LOT of friends? Real friends, Nana tried to explain to me. Not everyone is a real friend.

Now I’m older, I finally understand what characterises a real friend.
I don’t have adequate words to express what’s in my heart about real friendship. It fills the empty spaces, and leaves you satisfied and content.

Real friendship? Yes, real. Real friends understand when you’re not up to disco dancing, bright lights and mad crowds. Real friends care. When you’re with real friends you don’t have to worry about how you look, if you get parsley stuck in your teeth, spill food on your clothes, or make an embarrassing social gaffe. Real friends don’t mind if you need to act like a Nana, eat early dinner and be home in bed before most people are even in their pyjamas. Real friendship understands that life is messy and sometimes hard, but that it is also better shared. Real friendship isn’t tied to physical proximity, and it can stretch to fit you both in – however you make that work for you. It’s laughter and tears and connection and a genuine desire to understand and support each other.

Real friends share their real lives with you, and you are safe to share your real life with them. Real friendship is based on you being yourself, and your friend being themselves too.

As someone with disability and chronic illness it can be very hard to make, and then maintain, friendships. That’s why my real friends are so precious to me. Some of them are old friends – from my childhood or university days. Some came later. Some are people I have never met in person, but whom I have forged connections with through my work or blog. What they all have in common is that we share, and we make space for one another and the messiness of our lives. Real friends are there for the ups and the downs. They can weather differences in opinion or philosophy, uncomfortable conversations, and make room for growth, change and the occasional disagreement. Real friends remind me of the best bits of myself – the bits that sometimes get overshadowed by illness, fatigue or despair. I hope I do the same for them.

I’d rather have a handful of real friends than an army of casual acquaintances, social media ‘followers’, party friends and ‘friends’ who only call you when they want something.
Do you feel like that too?
Here’s to real friendship, real community, and real heart!
Love, hugs and gratitude for sharing this journey with me, Nicole xx

Hi! I'm Nicole Cody. I am a writer, psychic, metaphysical teacher and organic farmer. I love to read, cook, walk on the beach, dance in the rain and grow things. Sometimes, to entertain my cows, I dance in my gumboots. Gumboot dancing is very under-rated.
Posts created 3092

8 thoughts on “Some Thoughts On Friendship

  1. This really gave me a moment of contemplation on a Sunday afternoon. A friend once said to me “friends can be easy to make, but true/good friends are hard to keep.” I no longer know the person who said that to me. Hhhmm.

  2. There is an old saying that goes something like this: “a friend of many, is a friend to none”. I have experienced this first hand, let down, and badly hurt by one such shallow “friend”.

  3. How pertinent is today’s post…friends are important to us all. The words of your post gave food for thought and were the very ones I needed to read. Always your posts fit in with the order or lack of, in my days. Blessings and gratitude to you. Marguerite💕

    1. Thanks Nicole, always good for peaking food and delving inside of your self the importance of reflection and contemplation. The quiet spaces!
      With Gratitude
      🙏

  4. I lost two friends this past year..And ,I have not seen my dearest friend since prior to Covid.I am so grateful for phones and emails that keep us connected and for her love and support.Don’t know how I could have managed these difficult times without her..Barbara

Leave a Reply

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

Related Posts

Begin typing your search term above and press enter to search. Press ESC to cancel.

Back To Top
%d bloggers like this: