Unexpected Gifts – Nurse Bert!

Kerry Warnholtz

The talented Kerry Warnholtz, on a recent photo and video shoot at our farm.

“Acts of Kindness:
A random act of kindness, no matter how small, can make a tremendous impact on someone else’s life.”
~ Roy T. Bennett

 

It’s been a hard few weeks, with the loss of our precious dog Bert.

It’s also been rough because I am still fighting the antibiotic-resistant bacterial infection that I picked up in hospital last year. It’s manifested as a persistent urinary tract infection that has made my life quite miserable. Right now I’m on aggressive treatment, which is working, but which also involves regular IV therapy, acupuncture and lots of herbs and essential oils.

So you can imagine that I have been feeling a little glum…

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Ben and Harry and I have been greatly buoyed by all of your kind comments and love, and the outpouring of stories you’ve shared with us of your own pets and loved ones.

Thank you. ❤

It has made a tough time more bearable.

I also received two other gifts on Wednesday which have overwhelmed us with their kindness.

The first was a little book, made by my thoughtful friend Monique Sinclaire. Inside were a collection of pictures of Bert which she must have found online. In an act of deep synchronicity the photo at the beginning and end of the book were the same ones I chose for the beginning and end of Wednesday’s blog about Bert’s passing. Thank you, Monique. We’ll treasure this!

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The other was a short video, made by the ever-kind Kerry Warnholtz. Kerry is an incredibly gifted and heart-centered photographer and videographer. Last year Kerry spent a week at our farm and one of my retreats to shoot footage for a short documentary for me. The aim of the documentary was to capture the work and care we put into preparing for and running our retreats.

I’ll show you the results soon. It’s wonderful!

Of course Kerry shot oodles of footage. Of everything. And somewhere in all of that she had the sweetest piece of video, of Ben, me and Nurse Bert, in the back yard at the end of the day, as we all enjoyed a cup of tea and the leftover treats from our photo shoot. (A big shout out to Jessie and Andrew from Home Amongst The Green, whose delicious treats feature on the plate that Bert can’t take his eyes off!)

It was such a glorious and unexpected wonder, to look at our beautiful boy once more, being his irrepressible food-oriented self. Watch his eyes, which tell you quite repeatedly that he would like a treat please!

Thank you, Kerry. It made us laugh and cry, and all of that is good medicine.

If you’re ever looking for someone to capture the heart and soul of your family or business in images, look no further than Kerry. I can’t recommend her highly enough. You can find her at Truth Seeker Images Multimedia.

And here he is, Nurse Bert, one more time…

Medicine For The Soul

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Polychrome Jasper Heart in earth, sea and sky colours – from my own collection!

“Put ‘im in your bag. Dis lil stone, dis leaf, dis feather. Dem all medicines for you. Your special tings dat make your heart glad. Make your soul remember. Dat good for you. Proper medicine.”

~ Aunty

 

This morning, very early, I woke with a heavy heart. I felt the weight upon it of world events. Of a friend I know who is about to be given devastating health news. Of another friend who is finally reaping the legacy of a genetic illness which is ramping up to destroy life as he has known it.

Those feelings were so big that I could hardly get out of bed. But I did, and I grabbed my Medicine Bag and then sat on cushions on the floor of my lounge room in the quiet pre-dawn.

I lit a candle, listening to the scratch of the matchtip on the rough box end, and then the sudden hiss and flare of the flame. I lit a stick of incense. I spread a cloth on the floor in front of me.

From my bag I took my singing bowl and placed it on the cloth. My mala beads went there too. From my bag I took a few favourite crystals. I held the stones for a moment and then placed them on the cloth. Then I took up the singing bowl and settled into meditation.

Nicole Cody Tibetan Singing Bowl

I let each wave of sound radiate love out into the world. Peace. Calm. Hope. Unity. Love. I breathed this energy in and out. I travelled it with the waves of sound and with my intent.

I sent healing to my friends and their families and carers. And to mine. I sent healing and love to each of you.

I offered up my prayers.

I meditated until a profound peace and reconnection to love was all that I could feel, then returned the bowl to the floor.

I sat a little more in this energy of peace and love, and then reached into my bag for my cards. The room was light enough to see now. I drew a card for the day (these cards are so old and worn and dear to me that I need only hazily glimpse the picture for it to be clear in my mind) and reflected on the meaning for me.

I wrote in my journal.

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I sat awhile with one of my crystals. I packed everything back into my bag, ready for tomorrow, or whenever else I may need these tools again.

And then I got up, refreshed in body and spirit, put the kettle on, and began my day.

That is what my Medicine Bag does for me. Within it is a physical space, a spiritual space, a healing space – which I can unpack and use at any time.

The ritual connects me to my Aboriginal Aunties, to my Grandmothers and to myself. It centers me in love. It reminds me to live from love, and from my heart, no matter what is happening in the wider world. It gifts me guidance and perspective. It brings me back to what matters when my mind has run away with its worries.

My Medicine Bag

On Saturday 26 November I’ll be running an afternoon workshop in Brisbane to teach you how to create your own Medicine Bag. I will give you the basic spiritual foundation practices to use this bag the way I use my own.

I will also cover the practices and tools that can help you to develop a regular spiritual practice and strengthen your intuitive and psychic ability. We will look at the fundamentals of working with crystals, connecting with your guides, simple meditation techniques, using oracle and tarot cards to give yourself an intuitive reading, and some foundation metaphysical principles for raising your vibration. These are all the things I used at the beginning of my own journey, and that have led me to where I am today.

There are just a few places left – more details here.

Online Option: If you’re not able to attend, but would like to learn how to craft and use your own Medicine Bag, please contact Dana, my wonderful PA at nicolecodyinfo@gmail.com and ask to be put on our Medicine Bag mailing list. I’m currently putting this together as an online course with an optional materials package (of the things we will be using in our physical workshop). We’ll let you know as soon as the course is available, and those of you on our list will get a special discount!

Here’s a sneak peek of some of our Medicine Bag workshop materials (if you look closely you’ll see oodles of crystals in the corner too!), as well as my friend Carly who has been looking after me as I recover from my recent surgery (And I’m doing VERY well, thank you ❤ ) and helping me with my workshop preparation.

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Carly Jay Metcalf

Not Exactly Happy!

“She looked as if she were about to burst into tears, but she was wonderful at catching the ball of her own mood in mid-air.”
~ Rebecca West

 

Thanks for all of your positive thoughts and wishes.

Yesterday kinda sucked. But I’d known it would, so no surprises there.

I could have been up all night writing out my angst in some edgy post, but I was preoccupied and couldn’t sleep and wasn’t really in a space to write. I shook my fist at the heavens, I cried, I muttered, I was stupidly angry – at God, the Universe, my body, myself, my life, the census, all of my lost opportunities and broken dreams etc etc.

After which I got over myself. Because it starts to sound like self-pity after a while, and we can’t have that.

I still couldn’t sleep. I played so much Candy Crush Soda (in the dark on my iPad) so that I wouldn’t wake anyone up that I won heaps of bonus playing time which I then used up because I wasn’t sleeping anyway.

So this morning I am levelled up, I am the Candy Crush Soda Queen, I am sleep deprived and begrudgingly resigned to the fact that, thanks to lyme, my body still has major issues that can only be resolved by major surgery and more drugs. After which, I hope, I’ll eventually feel and function a whole lot better.

I’m okay, and I’ll be okay.

 

Although my current internal dialogue hasn’t quite caught up with that news yet.

Internal dialogue…

*insert big swears*

*insert happy face*

*a bit more swearing*

 

Okay. That’s better. I’ll go make a cup of tea and my day will proceed and life will go on and my bad mood will dissipate. My doctors have charted a path and I will walk that path.

There are still some things to be done before surgery, so it has been scheduled for the day before my birthday. Whoot!

How can you not laugh?

 

Weekend Roasts, Owls and My Email Address!

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“Are you still forgetting things?” “I don’t know, I can’t remember,” I said.”
~ Stephen King, Duma Key

 

Last night Angela’s husband came around to the farm for a roast dinner. It’s only a week since Angela passed away, and everything is so hard and new for him. Before her breast cancer diagnosis Ange had also suffered from lyme disease, and the tick which bit her left her with a profound red meat allergy. It’s been years since they’ve had red meat at their house. I promised her I would cook plenty of lamb roasts and steak barbeques for her husband, who has always loved that kind of food.

He arrived early enough that we could go check out the tawny frogmouth owl and her chicks in her precarious nest in the teak tree beside the kitchen, after which we ate well, drank red wine, told stories, problem-solved and let all of our collective dogs roam around the house or collapse at our feet in sandy heaps (after their beach adventures yesterday morning!).

The grief of Angela’s loss is raw for us all. But saying her name, laughing and remembering, and letting it be okay for tears to fall was good medicine.

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It’s been a hectic month or so for me, and somehow when I sent out my blog post early yesterday with all of my coming courses and workshops I put the wrong email address on there. It’s all fixed on the post now, but for those of you who missed it here it is again. In fact, here are numerous contact details. I promise at least one of these will work:

You can contact me by email, via my wonderful PA, Dana at: nicolecodyinfo@gmail.com

and the link is nicolecodyinfo@gmail.com Dana works part-time and is a busy mum, so you won’t always get an instantaneous response, but she is awesome at getting back to people promptly and at helping you with whatever you might need.

My official website (forgive it, as it is old and in the process of being revamped for launch in 2016) is www.nicolecody.com and the contact form is here.

You can reach us by phone at +61 7 3256 0815 or at 0438 438 775 (that’s +61 438 438 775 for international callers)

We’re on facebook here: Cauldrons and Cupcakes and you can leave a message for me anytime!

and if you get really stuck, there is this email cauldronsandcupcakes@gmail.com – although it might take me a few days to get back to you as I am usually swamped with messages and emails. 🙂

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It’s a bright sunny morning here at the farm, after days of broody skies and gloom, so my washing machine is busy turning muddy farm clothes and sandy couch covers back to clean. A day of chores and writing for me, and some gardening later, in the cool of the afternoon. But now it’s off to breakfast with Cafe Dog, who needs his daily fix of social. That’s him yesterday morning at the beach BEFORE he became one big sand monster!

Sending much,love to you all, Nicole (((HUGS))) xoxo

10 Easy Steps For Self Care During Troubled Times

“They called her witch because she knew how to heal herself.”
~ Te’ V. Smith

 

It’s simple enough to be well-intentioned and kind to yourself when life is going smoothly. Or if you are on holidays. Or in a really good head space.

But when we are hard up against it – when we have crushing deadlines, or horrible dramas, or the people around us are treating us badly, when we’re ill, depressed or in pain – that’s the time where we most need good self-care, and it is usually the time where we are least inclined to give it to ourselves.

After years of illness, and in my line of work (as a psychic and a support for many people going through their own hardships) where there is no ‘off-switch’, I’ve learned the hard way that self-care is essential. Always. Fortunately I’ve also discovered that it isn’t such a difficult ask of ourselves, and that a little self-awareness and kindness towards ourselves goes a long way towards keeping us resilient and coping in the most troubled of times.

Here are my top ten tips for getting yourself through whatever you might be facing right now:

1. Drink enough water. When we are well hydrated our body is less acidic, we can flush toxins and stress hormones from our system better, we sleep more deeply and our brains work more clearly.

2. Have a shower, wash your hair and put on some clean clothes. For an additional touch of self-love use a perfume, scented moisturiser, aftershave or essential oil whose fragrance lifts your spirits or reminds you of someone you love. If washing your hair is just too hard, pull it back neatly, plait it, or tuck it under a scarf or cap. When I was at my most ill, I’d make myself bathe and put clean pyjamas on. It helped. A lot. And it was always worth the effort, even when I was exhausted. Clean sheets can do wonders for the soul too!

3. Find five minutes for meditation. Meditation calms and centres us, and helps us find our way back to ourselves, our soul and to Spirit. Try any of these simple techniques: Easy Five Minute Meditation, Three Minute Essential Oil Meditation, Taking Energy From Trees, Eating The Sun Meditation.

4. Dance. To one uplifting song. Sing along, and let your body move to the beat. Dance in your lounge room. Dance in the car. Of if you’re confined to bed, sway, tap your hands, draw that music deep into your body and belt out the lyrics.

5. Have a plan, and then work the plan. Choose a time when you can sit down for ten minutes with a cup of tea or a cold drink and your diary. Think of something you want to get done and then break it down into steps and assign those steps to the coming days, weeks or months. Allow more time than you need – because in troubled times we need to allow ourselves extra flexibility. No need to give yourself more pressure when you’re already under the pump. Plans enacted help us to take control back in our lives, and give us something to work towards. It’s okay if your plan is for completing something small. Every time we act instead of procrastinate something strengthens within  us.

6. Go for a walk in nature. Can’t walk? Then try to simply earth yourself instead. If you’re confined to bed or unable to get outside sit by an open window or door. Use your eyes and ears. Use your skin. Let your mind wander outside even if your body can’t.

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Image from funnystack.com

7. Eat something healthy that will nurture and strengthen your body. Choose foods that you know support you. Food gives us energy and helps our bodies work  better. Eating irregular meals and junk food slows us down and makes us feel worse instead of better. Sometimes poor food choices are all we will have. Don’t beat yourself up and don’t sit in guilt. Eating is better than not eating. Decide to make a better choice or plan to bring healthy food tomorrow.

8. Hugs and the company of friends can be healing. In hard times we often feel that the only way to cope is to withdraw. But in that space of social isolation life becomes even more difficult. While it is important to take time to be on your own, you need emotional support too. You can get this from online groups, phone calls, coffee or meal dates, craft dates, pets, good friends and supportive family. Reaching out to others can make a world of difference when life is filled with difficulty.

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9. Learn something new, or escape for a time into another world. A book, a movie, a newspaper, a short course. A trip to a new part of town. Stay curious. When we’re in something for the long haul we create emotional space and better coping capacity for ourselves by having something new or interesting to think about that takes us away from our troubles.

10. Get enough sleep. Sleep is a healing balm that restores the best parts of us. Shut yourself away for an early night, or spend the weekend in bed catching up on your rest. An epsom salts bath, some lavender essential oil or a relaxing herbal tea at night will all help get you into that restful space.

Are You In Survival Mode For No Good Reason?

“Oh! that gentleness! how far more potent is it than force!”
~ Charlotte Brontë, Jane Eyre

 

Most of us are used to pushing, to working hard, to gritting our teeth and carrying on.

If there is a crisis in your life, that is often the only thing to be done. But sometimes, it seems that we become used to living as though all of our life is a crisis.

Friends, that’s not a great plan.

When we constantly push ourselves, and stress ourselves, we begin to alter our body’s chemistry. We normalise a state that is supposed to be about emergencies – living on our adrenalin and cortisol for a ‘fight or flight’ situation. In that state our digestion slows, our body is flooded with hormones that burden our livers, inflame our bodies, suppress our libidos and play havoc with sleep patterns. In that state we convert energy to fat, storing it for the coming crisis. We exhaust our adrenals, ruin our thyroids and put ourselves into chronic fatigue, emotional depletion and a place where everything becomes monochrome. We lose our joy. We lose ourselves.

If you are genuinely in crisis, with an abnormal amount of stress due to external conditions and circumstances, I wish you well and I pray for you the strength to get through these times the best that you can.

But if your whole life looks like a crisis, and you’re tired to the bones, numb from the grind of it all – maybe it’s time to change something. Because you are no longer living, you’re existing. You’re in survival mode. And that is no way to live a life.

When we get to that place we stop making good decisions and default to auto-pilot. We become broken robots.

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Here are my top tips for moving back to a place of flow and balance so that you can begin enjoying life, and health, again:

  • Simplify. Let go of some of your responsibilities so that you can free up some time in your schedule.
  • Get a health check. If you’re exhausted/struggling/unwell all the time and your life looks pretty normal demand-wise, maybe there’s something else going on.
  • Delegate. Seriously, no one can do it all themselves. Get a team together.
  • Walk away. Sometimes the only thing left to be done is to walk away from the relationship, the job, or the situation. An ending, or a failure to complete, might actually be what’s needed to turn this around.
  • Change your job.
  • Take a holiday, or some time away from it all. Camping and house sitting are great options if finances are tight.
  • Postpone some of your projects, or lengthen out the timeframes.
  • Hire someone capable to sort it/fix it/build it for you.
  • Schedule catch-up sleep and downtime into your calendar as regular events.
  • Get your finances under control. Or get help to do this. No-one can get out from under that feeling of crisis if they are always worrying about where the next dollar is coming from, or how to pay off a mountain of debt. Make a plan and work the plan.
  • Downsize. Sell stuff. Make things more manageable.
  • Do the things that are important to YOU and quit doing things to please others or gain approval.
  • Make exercise and a healthy diet a priority.
  • Choose a hobby and make time for it by stopping something you don’t enjoy, or that doesn’t fill you up.
  • Stop taking new stuff on and get the backlog completed.
  • Say no to people and events. Create some room in your life for you.

Life is not always easy. Crazy stuff happens. Crisis sometimes too. But if your world has devolved into exhaustion and all the joy has been sucked out of living, it’s time for a change. It’s time to be kind to yourself and sort this mess out!

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3 Affirmations to Change Your Life

“Sometimes, little things make a big difference…”
~ Nino Varsimashvili

 

Every morning when I wake up, before I get out of bed, before I pray or meditate, before I do anything else at all, I say a little affirmation.

In fact, sometimes I will chant it like a mantra. In my head, or if I really need the energy boost, out loud.

I have three favourites to choose from, and all of them have been life changing for me.

Let me share them with you:

  1. Something wonderful will happen to me today.
  2. Every day in every way I am getting better and better.
  3. I am stronger than this.

Three short and simple sentences that can change your life too.

I love the magical feel of number one. Something wonderful will happen to me today. It has brought many joyful opportunities and synchronicities into my life. It’s fun. It helps you celebrate life. It sets up a vibration of joyful anticipation, honing focus and gratitude.

Number two also opens me up to allowing. It unlocks my ability to expand and grow. It has attracted teachers, new directions, inspiration, breakthroughs, healing and miracles. Every day in every way I am getting better and better.

When I am in the hole, when life is weighing me down and my coping abilities are stretched to the limit I pull out number three. I am stronger than this. I am stronger than negative people. I am stronger than trauma or tragedy. I am stronger than ignorance or lyme disease or whatever other crappy life circumstances I am currently dealing with. I am stronger than this.

I also have an embarrassing affirmation confession. One of my most spectacular self-evident affirmation successes came from a challenge I set out to the Universe from a place of great skepticism. You can read about my ‘secret power’ affirmation here.

My Embarrassing Affirmation Confession.

Why not work with these affirmations over the following week and see how they work for you?

Lots of love, Nicole ❤ xoxo