Valentine’s Day, Unplugged

2014-10-22 06.31.14

“We have to allow ourselves to be loved by the people who really love us, the people who really matter. Too much of the time, we are blinded by our own pursuits of people to love us, people that don’t even matter, while all that time we waste and the people who do love us have to stand on the sidewalk and watch us beg in the streets! It’s time to put an end to this. It’s time for us to let ourselves be loved.”
~ C. JoyBell C.

“If you love someone but rarely make yourself available to him or her, that is not true love.”
~ Thích Nhất Hạnh


We’ve never been a couple who have traded romantic gestures for the sake of it. Flashy dinners in expensive restaurants, hothouse flowers, jewels, that’s for other people on Valentine’s Day, not for us.

But I am giving my beloved Ben a Valentine’s gift today.

I’m giving him me. For twenty-four hours he’ll be my sole focus. There will be no distractions, no visitors, no work, no blogging, no texts or emails. Instead our day will be us, together, hanging out. Talking. Laughing. Holding hands. Telling stories. Sharing a good coffee or a simple meal. Doing whatever we feel like. Doing everything or nothing. Together.

And tomorrow? A Sunday Morning sleep-in. No sneaking out of bed to meditate or to write. Just some us time.

When you have the thing you want most in the world, there’s no need for anything else.

Whether you’re on your own, or with someone you love this Valentine’s day, I hope you do something to nurture your heart and feed your dreams.

See you Monday!

Much love, Nicole xx

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Hi! I'm Nicole Cody. I am a writer, psychic, metaphysical teacher and organic farmer. I love to read, cook, walk on the beach, dance in the rain and grow things. Sometimes, to entertain my cows, I dance in my gumboots. Gumboot dancing is very under-rated.
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6 thoughts on “Valentine’s Day, Unplugged

  1. Love Your Story, Sounds Like Mine.

    I no longer feel out of place reading your story. At times I have felt intimidated by my own story, I believed I was just old fashioned. But my real story comes from ~You don`t know love until you lose it~ I wish I did not have to find out the way I did but it was my wake up call. I once took some one for granted because I believed they would always be there. Some one older than their time used to send me a valentines car every year. From 11 years old onwards. Until like the movie `Suddenly 30` which I got led to by my deceased friend, at which point I had no idea he was gone. I watched the movie and had a huge reaction to it like I had lost someone, and the movie was me and him at school immediately it reminded me of him. It has been ten years since and I have never been the same since. My story I write mildly but it affected me intensely, however, I have been with someone for the last seven years and this is the truest most real relationship I have ever had. I closed off and withdrew from life for a long time and the change has affected me. I cried immensely that I did not even get to hold his hand, kiss him or even self express properly what I really felt. I have dreams and go back in time and change what I never did. It was the dreams I had that also affected me because I would wake up from heaven to be in my bed on earth, which then led me to not wanting to be here on my waking. I used to be a reflexologist and did all this stuff for others and their deceased loved ones, yet when it comes to me, why do I become this non believing human, its insane. Yet I am blessed with the opportunity to talk with him, and I am this kid again who ignores him, I wish I would just grow up out of this reaction, why does he intimidate me so much, is it because I don`t value you my own self worth inside and that I always did believe he was too good for me. Who knows.

    I feel like I have just exploded to you. Sorry, I was only writing to tell You I appreciate your story.


  2. Enjoy your true love day, Nicole & Ben. <3 <3 Beautiful stories are meant to be told and we hold yours dear knowing that you haven't always been able to choose to celebrate. 🙂

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