“Unexpressed emotions will never die. They are buried alive and will come forth later in uglier ways.”
~ Sigmund Freud
It’s never healthy to swallow our grief, to stuff down our pain, to ignore our heartache.
And I also know that sometimes you just can’t fall afford to fall apart in the moment. You might be a care-giver. Or there’s no-one else to support you. You have to get to work on time. You got the bad news on a bus. There’s so much going on and it’s just one hit after another. You need to pick up the kids or keep going until you get through your final exams. One of those things. All of those things.
But honey, it’s not healthy to bottle all that stuff up. Eventually those feelings need to be felt.
I have a prescription that works well, and it can be taken at a time that’s convenient to you.
Give yourself a decent length of time. It might be a night. It might be a weekend. It might be a week. You’ll know what feels right.
Get yourself ready by making sure that you’ll be on your own at home. Find some DVDs that you KNOW tap into your emotions and help you to truly feel and to cry. They will allow you to find a way back to your own repressed feelings through the journeys and stories of others.
Have some tissues on hand. Some food. Clean sheets, pyjamas, things that will comfort and nurture you.
Then sit on the couch and watch those movies.
Play the soundtracks that reduce you to tears.
Cry. Wail. Howl. Sob. Blubber like a baby. Scream with grief and rage. Storm around the house in despair and futility. Cry some more.
Get it all out.
Do this until you’re done.
You’ll know it because you’ll feel an easing. Sunshine will begin to pour into that space that’s been cramped and dark and musty. You’ll feel lighter somehow. You’ll come to a space of peace.
Feelings need to be felt.
Maybe it’s time to feel yours.
I’m holding that space for your healing.
All my love, Nicole xx