How to Find The Silver Lining To The Storm Clouds In Your Life


“Let us rise up and be thankful, for if we didn’t learn a lot today, at least we learned a little, and if we didn’t learn a little, at least we didn’t get sick, and if we got sick, at least we didn’t die; so, let us all be thankful. “ ~ Buddha

This week’s energies support leaning in to our emotions. Writing is a powerful tool for self-discovery, healing and expansion.  In fact, it’s one of my favourite things to do. Today I’m sharing some journal starters for exploring things I have considered to be negative in my life, in order that I might mine that situation or relationship to find the positives and gifts within it.  I’ve found this activity to be a great comfort over the years, and it has enabled me at times to radically shift my perspective to one which is much more positive.

Let’s be clear about this before we start. I am not saying that every terrible situation in your life, and every awful thing that has happened is a gift, or is a blessing. That kind of reductionist New Age thinking is the kind of thing I call b*llshit on regularly. No, I am saying that one of the best coping strategies for these kinds of situations is to find something positive in the struggle and suffering we have endured. Ways that we have grown, or changed or evolved. The kindness of strangers. Some other unexpected small gift.

The one thing that is non-negotiable in this exercise is that you MUST look for a positive – that silver lining on the thundercloud in your life.

One of the things that still stands out for me is the day I heard that a dear friend of Ben’s and mine had been badly injured in a parachuting accident (from which he later died). It marked the beginning of a series of terrible and unforeseen events in our life.  But it also gave me an insight that left me better able to cope with what lay ahead.

What happened on that day remains one of my most precious memories.  Ben and I were in shock, but I had organised for my grandmothers to come for lunch, and I needed to pick one of them up from across town. Life still went on, and the lunch had been planned and looked forward to for months. It was the middle of an Australian summer,  a heatwave no less, and the weekend before Christmas.  I pulled into the madness of a suburban shopping centre to buy cream before I collected Nana.

As I stepped out of the car I was almost bowled over by two things, the heat and my grief. The world slowed right down.  I remember thinking that John must be dying. I stood beside my car as if I was suspended in time. Around me shoppers rushed on in the Christmas chaos, ignorant of the fact that this dear man was taking his last breaths. How could the world keep turning, I wondered.  Why didn’t it look any different?

I felt suddenly connected to an unseen group of people around Brisbane, around the world, who were similarly out of the flow of time, locked into grief or despair or helplessness or loss.  I became acutely aware of the heat, the smell of the melting tar beneath my feet and the gum-leaves on the nearby trees.  Green parrots squawked and fought above my head, and tiny clusters of blossom fell at my feet, like some strange sort of summer snow.  I was struck by the intense beauty of the moment, and of how everyone around me was oblivious to it.  I heard my own heart beating in my chest, was aware of every breath, and felt as if I was seeing the world with new eyes. I became overwhelmed with a sense of how precious and fragile and miraculous our existence is, and my despair was replaced with an avalanche of gratitude.

The intensity and gratitude of that moment has never left me.  It became the silver lining to an awful time on my life.

Here are my journal starters.  Use one, any or all of them to get you into writing flow, and to help you focus on the silver lining rather than the cloud.

On relationships that failed:

  • One good thing about (insert person’s name) that I am still grateful for is…
  • If I hadn’t met (insert person’s name) I never would have…
  • One positive thing I learned about myself from that relationship is…
  • One thing I won’t ever do again is…
  • The best thing about this relationship ending is that…

On death, loss and sorrow:

  • One of the happiest memories of (insert person’s name) that I cherish is…
  • (Insert person’s name) taught me…
  • Because of (insert person’s name) I have learned…
  • One thing I will always carry with me in my heart is…
  • We always laughed about…
  • One crazy thing that always reminds me of (insert person’s name) is…
  • One way I can honour their memory is to…
  • One way I can make the most of my own life is…

On making mistakes:

  • The thing I learned from all of this is…
  • If I hadn’t stuffed up I never would have been able to…
  • The one thing this has clarified for me is…
  • One person who’s been really great in all of this is…
  • The thing I’ll do differently next time is…
  • At least I’ve realised…

On diminishment (you being somehow made smaller or less able)  and disappointment:

  • I may not be able to (insert the diminishment) but I can still…
  • I still have the power to…
  • For now I can focus my energies on…
  • This gives me more time to…
  • For now this door is closed to me.  Other doors that are open include…
  • If I’m being made to stop, or slow down, at least I can use this change of pace to…

On people who’ve treated you badly:

  • Because of you, I’ve decided to never…
  • You’ve made me realise that I am better than that because…
  • You’ve shown me how NOT to be in the world.  I’ve learned that…
  • Because you couldn’t give me (love, respect, attention, guidance, honesty, kindness – insert whatever was missing in your relationship) I’ve discovered and grown this great strength in me.  I learned to be the thing you could not do for me.  I have become…
  • The good thing to come out of all of this is…
  • I deserve more because…
  • I believe that the right way to treat people is to…

Summaries:

  • From the hard times in my life I’ve learned that…
  • My greatest personal strengths are…
  • I’m proud of myself that…
  • I’m amazed that I have been able to…
  • One of the best things to come from all of this is…
  • The way I can now help others is…

I hope you can find some comfort too, in these simple activities that can help you reframe suffering on your terms. Holding you, as ever, in my prayers and meditations,

Nicole ❤ xx

Feeling Wiped Out?


“The moon does not fight. It attacks no one. It does not worry. It does not try to crush others. It keeps to its course, but by its very nature, it gently influences. What other body could pull an entire ocean from shore to shore? The moon is faithful to its nature and its power is never diminished.” 
~ Deng Ming-Dao

Hello, Lovelies!

I just wanted to send a little reassurance your way this morning. You see, my inbox is overflowing with panicked messages from people who are suddenly exhausted, smashed, so stupidly tired that they can hardly function. For no apparent reason…

Have you checked out that big moon above us?

It’s super close right now (cos, Supermoon!) and we’ve also just had a very big lunar eclipse.

Add to that some extreme weather and the fact that most of my readers are sensitives, empaths, intuitives and psychics. It’s your nature to be affected by the energies around you, and the energies around you right now are HUGE. Also, you’re composed largely of water, which is the very thing over which the moon exerts her powers.

So it’s only natural that you’re suddenly tired.

It’s okay. It will pass. Right now rest and stay well hydrated. Use this quiet time for sleep, journalling, meditation and soulful connection. Expect insights and answers. Expect clarity and direction.

Embrace your sensitivity. See it as a strength rather than a weakness. Explore this energetic connection and the feelings it brings up for you.

Moon Goddess by Josephine Wall

Guided Meditation Bundle

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The material in the Stardust Connection Meditation Bundle can be used at any time over the next four years, and beyond. My intention with this bundle is to help you become confident in your direction, your intuition, and your contribution to the unfolding history of the world and humanity. To access the bundle or to learn more about it go to my store or click on this link.

Go gently this week, simplify where you can, and remember to take some time for yourself and what matters to you.

Lots of love, Nicole ❤ xoxo

The Owl and the Moon by Christy Patino

Opening To The Shifting Energies


“The first peace, which is the most important, is that which comes within the souls of people when they realize their relationship, their oneness with the universe and all its powers, and when they realize at the center of the universe dwells the Great Spirit, and that its center is really everywhere, it is within each of us.” 
― Black Elk

The energy of 2019 has come quietly in, unannounced, in these last days of 2018.

It began its transition yesterday and today it is anchored here, waiting for us to acknowledge the shift.

But I’m sure you already feel it in your bodies.

Empaths, intuitives, sensitives and people who are more deeply connected to the moment will have noticed.

Maybe yesterday you felt alive and hopeful for the first time in a long while. Or perhaps you felt bone-weary.

Did you suddenly notice the extra weight you are carrying, or the reduced flexibility or mobility of your body? Did you notice the dryness of your skin, your belly’s bloated protest at the food you were eating, or have an urgent craving for something more healthy? Did you want to dance or run or swim or hike? Or sleep? Did you crave company? Or solitude?

Did it feel like you had woken up in a stranger’s body, only to find it was your own?

The energies of 2019 are grounded, practical and more than a little magical. And they bring with them a reorientation of ourselves – back into our bodies and back into connection with the Earth.

That’s a very good thing indeed.

So, tune in today. What’s your body telling you? Listen to it, and then act on it. Let it be the start of a beautiful time of healing, reconnection and empowerment for you as the year unfolds.

Much love to you, Nicole ❤ xx

Navigating Christmas Without A Loved One


“You will lose someone you can’t live without, and your heart will be badly broken, and the bad news is that you never completely get over the loss of your beloved. But this is also the good news. They live forever in your broken heart that doesn’t seal back up. And you come through. It’s like having a broken leg that never heals perfectly—that still hurts when the weather gets cold, but you learn to dance with the limp.” 
Anne Lamott

Christmas is not always an easy time. There are many of us for whom Christmas brings stark reminders of families broken, loved ones lost, and empty chairs at our tables.

If you are navigating Christmas this year while also grieving loss or going through great struggle I want to reach out to you. In the midst of the barrage of happy Christmas movies, fairytale endings and Hallmark Moments I want you to know that I am sorry for your pain, and the hardship this time of year can bring. Please also know you’re not alone. There are many of us whose hearts hurt at Christmas, even as we celebrate, because of loss. If your grief is raw and new it’s also okay to put things on hold, to do things differently, or to let the anniversary days like Christmas slide by unacknowledged until you are ready to face them again.

I’d like to share something I do at Christmas that may be useful for you too. I have found it helpful and healing to make a private little Christmas Altar each year. This way I remember the dead, the absent, the lost. An altar is simply a small dedicated spiritual space that is meaningful to you in some way.

On my altar I place fresh flowers, a candle and some favourite crystals. Things that bring me comfort, and a sense of sacred. Then I place photos or objects that represent a loved one who will not be at my table. That way I can still have them near me, and I can flow love to them and have them be part of my life over the festive season.

The beautiful big owl in the photo above was given to me one Christmas by my friend Angela. She passed away a few years ago. It will be central to my display.

I’ll place a tiny wooden boat for my brother, and a ceramic pelican for my dad. A sparkly stone for my sister and roses for my mum and all of the women in her family who have shaped and grown and loved me. My family all live far from me. But now they are here on my altar even if they cannot be here in person.

I’ll add a photo of Ben’s parents from when they were young, and pictures of my grandparents too. I have cupcake-shaped candles for my darling Kate, who passed away too soon in 2010 ( I went back to her facebook page last night and was lost in there for an hour reading her old posts and laughing at what a dag she was and crying cos sometimes I still miss her more than breathing), and Julie who passed away in 2014. My Grandparents, all now passed, are here in photographs too and I will place a glass of sherry, Christmas Cake and some gingernut biscuits out because these are all the things they would have loved to eat, and later I will eat some and think of them. On Christmas Day I will play The Twelve Days of Christmas by the Ray Conniff Singers, because my Pa used to play that for us every year, and shed a few happy-sad tears.

It’s not the same as having them at my table, but it’s the next best thing. People coming to my house will think that I have simply gathered flowers and candles and photographs and a few ornaments together, but for me it is something healing and emotionally significant that helps me to feel the reassuring weight of my loved ones around me.

Perhaps making your own Christmas Altar will help you this Christmas too.

Sending so much love your way, Nicole ❤ xx

Energies of November – 2018

Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.
~  Ralph Waldo 

 

Hello, Lovelies :)

November  is  an  unusual  month, gifting  us  energies  in  two  different  but  interlinked areas. The first area is spiritual development. It’s a great month for all forms of metaphysical work, for clarifying our Life Path and for honouring a life-calling by owning our capacity to share knowledge. The second area is our connection to the natural world, and to the nature spirits of the Earth.

Cards for the Month:

I’ve chosen two cards for November for you: one from Colette Baron-Reid’s Enchanted Map and one from Steven Farmer’s Earth Magic Oracle. Please note I don’t use these cards in a conventional way, but rather as a stimulus for channeled information.

Here is what I have received from each card:

“Share your knowledge.
It’s a way
to achieve immortality.”

~  Dalai Lama, (1357 – 1419, high lama of Tibetan Buddhism)

 

This month we’re in Third  Eye  and  Crown  Chakra  territory  –  November’s energies enhance our  ability  to  have  insight  and  a  higher  perspective  about  ourselves,  our life and  our  direction.  It’s  a  month  for  gaining  clarity  about  our  emerging  life-path,  and for  becoming  clear  about  major  decisions  or  direction  changes  that  are  needed  in our  lives  as  we  seek  to  move  toward  a  way  of  living  and  expressing  ourselves that is  in  greater  alignment  with  our  soul’s  truth. 

It’s  also  a  month  where  you  can  share  your  knowledge,or get ready to. This could be  through  your  role  as  a  parent  or  friend,  through  your  career  or  your own business,  in  your  community  or  for  your  family  or  the  wider  world.  Think  of how you  could  share  your  wisdom:  conversations,  recipes,  photographs,  articles, gifts, projects,  a  letter,  a  blog  post,  a  social  media  sharing,  the  sharing  of  an  item or  artifact  that  has  a  story  to  accompany  it.  In  this  new  era  sharing  and  helping each other  to  grow  by  sharing  what  we  know  is  so  important.  How  can  you  be part  of that  change?

The second card I’ve chosen is Dragonfly. 

The clearest way into the Universe is through a forest wilderness.” 
~ John Muir

November  strengthens our  connection  into  Nature  and the  blessings  of  the  earth. Expect to feel hear or even see earth  spirits  such  as  divas  and  fairies. Tune in to the plants,  trees, rivers  and  rocks, the wind and rain, the sun and moon and stars.

Allow yourself that primal understanding of your own body and its needs. Feel into the world around you using your senses and intuition.

 It’s  a  month  for  strong  anchoring  into  a grounded  and  connected  space  that  is sustainable  and  nurturing  for  us.  

Make  sure to  capitalise  on  this  fabulous  gift  by  spending  some  quiet  time  in  nature spaces, and  by  inviting  nature  into  your  home  in  the  form  of  plants,  floral arrangements, essential  oils,  fresh  food  and  crystals.

Detoxing and decluttering are also well supported in November. You’ll see where you need to let go of things or what needs simplifying!

Best crystals this month?

Que Sera (Vulcanite) and Garnet.

Que Sera (Vulcanite)lifts your vibration and enables you to merge with your own soul knowledge. It’s a stone for personal and spiritual empowerment. 

Garnet connects you into the fairy realms, to trees and the earth and all nature spirits. It also helps you to sit in a vibration of wealth and abundance.

Essential oils to support your journey?

Patchouli essential oil grounds you and opens you to your Higher Self and intuitive wisdom in a gentle and reassuring way. Cedarwood essential oil enhances all forms of spiritual connection, and creates awareness of the natural world and the energies of nature. Arborvitae creates spiritual trust and is grounding and opening – it’s one of my favourite oils, especially when I meditate (use it with a couple of drops of Frankincense and you’ll be flying in your meditations too!). Use these oils in a diffuser, rub on soles of feet or simply drop some into your palms, rub together and inhale.

I’m passionate about essential oils and their capacity to support our wellness journey and our spiritual and emotional wellbeing. If you’d like to know more or want to source the oils I recommend and trust visit this site or contact me at channelnc@gmail.com

Image from juicingforhealth.com

Spend some time between now and the end of the year in reflection on the answers you have journaled. Build on the knowledge that you’ve accessed. Let it shape and inform your future decisions and life direction.

If you’d like extra support and a guidance system for the year ahead consider ordering one of my YOM Planners – which is a system for planning and living a mindful year using techniques similar to what you’ve practiced here. You can read all about those offerings and take advantage of our pre-launch bonuses by clicking here.

You’ll also enjoy my Mystical Manifesting Workshop on November 11, 2018. This workshop, co-facilitated with channelling with my energetic companions Silith and Rollo, utilises all of the rituals I use to close out one year and herald in the new one. We will guide you on a journey to open you up to your highest potential and clearest direction for 2019. You’ll learn:

  • An intuitive card reading to clear and learn from the energies of 2018
  • An intuitive card reading and journaling technique to determine your personal power and mystical energies for 2019
  • Creation of a personalised essential oil blend to support your mystical and personal powers for 2019
  • An intuitive card reading to establish a clear path forward for 2019
  • How to program a crystal as your 2019 Manifestation Stone
  • How to make a sacred symbolic lexicon
  • How to use your sacred symbolic lexicon to create a visionary talisman (like a Vision Board but SO much more powerful!) for 2019

You’ll be given a workbook, manifesting crystal and a personalised essential oil blend during this workshop. You will make your own Visionary Talisman to take home.

A delicious morning tea, lunch and afternoon tea will also be provided. Bookings Essential!

Cost: $265 adults

For tickets  Click Here

Wishing you a love-filled, satisfying and wonder-full November.

Lots of love, Nicole❤ xoxo

Things to be thankful for…

“Take time daily to reflect on how much you have. It may not be all that you want but remember someone somewhere is dreaming to have what you have.” ~Germany Kent

This morning I’m counting my Blessings. Such a simple thing to do, and it always makes me feel richer. I like to count them off on my fingers – a tangible act, and a way of really anchoring their truth in my life. Blessings to me are always the simple things in life, and often the things we take for granted.  Even on the worst of days we can find something to be grateful for.  Counting blessings gets my attention OFF the things I don’t want, and back on the things I do. It’s an instant mood lifter that keeps things in perspective for me. It never takes much to find something that’s a blessing.

Today I am grateful for:

1. The sound of wind in the trees as I go to sleep, and birdsong as I wake up.

2. The warmth of the fire, and the sweet smell of woodsmoke in the cold morning air. (I’m also grateful for my husband, who chops the wood and loads the wheelbarrow, and stokes the fire for me!)

3. Chai tea, enough for two, sipped from big bowls, with just a dusting of cinnamon.

4. My Meyer Lemon tree, and its abundance of luscious fruit. And the fresh Lemon Curd I can spread on my morning toast!

5. Farmers’ Markets, and the dedication of our local growers to grow or make the best seasonal fresh produce.

6. My Kindle, and being able to snuggle under the doona on a lazy morning, sipping chai and reading books.

7. My dogs, Rufous and Harry, for their love and companionship.

8. Writing. It is my greatest love, and the thing that wakes me up in the middle of the night, brimful of ideas.

9. Red Jasper which grounds and nurtures, and feels wonderful to have tucked up within my aura.

10. Trees. My little farmhouse is cradled by hundred-year-old trees who whisper their secrets, one to another, and add an incredible energy to this place and to me.

How about you? What do you have to be thankful for today? Go on – count them off on your fingers!

Wishing you many Blessings, Nicole  xx

Retro Party Food Catering For the Non-Cook

Carly and me and the Retro Seventies Pineapple ‘Horses Doovers’ Tower

“It is easy to decide on what is wrong to wear to a party, such as deep-sea diving equipment or a pair of large pillows, but deciding what is right is much trickier.” 
Lemony Snicket, The Slippery Slope

 

Are you a party-goer who can’t cook?

Or perhaps you are thinking of a retro-themed get-together with some family or friends? And you are also a domestic disaster or perhaps completely lacking any kind of kitchen equipment beyond a sharpish knife.

Never fear, we have the solution!

My dear friend Carly and I lost a friend suddenly some years ago. Kate was hilarious, madly individual, and the most horrendous cook I have ever met. Nothing she made ever turned out. She mostly lived on fruit, minute noodles, cheese and bread. But she has two dishes for which she was famous – a gala savoury creation she called her ‘Horses Doovers (Hors D’oeuvres)Tower’ which is a Retro 1970s pineapple studded with canapes, and ‘Cupcake Kebabs’.

In honour of Kate’s life and friendship Carly and I recently whipped these up for a very special celebration, and they were very well received.

So, if you can’t cook to save your life but still want to impress at your next party, try Kate’s recipes. You and your food will be a hit!

Sending big Retro hugs to you, Nicole ❤ xx

 

Horses Doovers Tower

Ingredients:

  • one large fresh pineapple that stands up nicely without wobbling
  • cubes of cheese (Cheddar or Colby is good)
  • kabana cut into rounds
  • small pickled onions
  • stuffed olives
  • small dill pickles/cornichons
  • cherry tomatoes cut in half
  • tinned pineapple pieces
  • toothpicks

Method:

Thread toothpicks with a selection of ingredients, one of which must be cheese. Leave space at either end of the toothpick. Press toothpick into pineapple. Cover entire surface of pineapple and then add some additional filled toothpicks to the serving plate at the base of the pineapple. Serve with your favourite party drinks, music and disco dancing.

Cupcake Kebabs

Ingredients:

  • assorted mini cupcakes
  • small wafer biscuits
  • jam roll cakes cut into slices
  • any other small cakes or cake pieces of your choice
  • marshmallows
  • kebab sticks

Method:
Thread cakes, wafers and marshmallows onto skewers. Pile onto a platter and serve with champagne or cups of tea.

 

Letting Go – Do you need to? How to decide!

“Be brave and let go. Let go of fear, and pain. Stop holding to the thing that is tearing you apart. While you hang on, grimly gripping and clutching this to you, you deny yourself freedom, new gifts, love. It is madness to presume that you are more wise than the Universe. Let go. Trust.” ~ Nicole Cody

 

There are so many reasons why we struggle with letting go.

Some of us don’t like to fail – if we say we’re going to deliver, if we take a marriage vow, sign up for a deadline, have ethics that are all about family or mateship, hold strong religious or spiritual beliefs, made a public proclamation about a certain thing, have other people telling us that this is what we need, then we may hold onto a person or situation longer than necessary.

Sometimes we spend our lives thinking about everyone else; not wanting to let people down, wanting THEM to be happy even if we must sacrifice something or all of ourselves to do that. Perhaps we have been raised to see this as worthy behaviour, or the way to be lovable – earning love through good deeds and sacrifice.

Sometimes we become so fixated on achieving the end goal that we stop asking ourselves the right questions: “Does this still serve me?  Does this still honour me?”  “Did it ever…”

Sometimes we’ve let something define us for so long that we no longer know who we are without that thing in our life. Even if it’s killing us or making us miserable.

Sometimes we let our heart rule our head. Sometimes we let our head rule our heart. And it’s not making us feel good. In fact, it’s quite the opposite.

Or maybe we are afraid. Afraid that if we let go nothing will ever come to replace it.  Afraid that people will judge us or turn away from us, or leave us. Afraid that if we let go, the thing might suddenly come good, and all our struggle will have been worth it.

Sometimes we think we don’t deserve any better.

So how do we know when we need to let go?

When duty is the only thing that drives us and all the joy has faded from our lives. When we’ve forgotten the reason we signed up for this in the first place.  When we’ve become indifferent to life, our relationship, this thing… When our health is in tatters, when the person in the mirror is a stranger, when our finances are in ruins, when we’re choking down anger and resentment on a daily basis, when we are no longer a person we like or believe in, when we’ve lost ourselves, it’s time to let go.

When we have gotten to a place where everything is hard, everything is dark, where we can see no place in our lives for hope, or joy or happiness, then it’s time to let go. When we can no longer keep our eyes open and our hands on the wheel, and we’re popping pills to keep going, white-knuckled from fear and exhaustion, it’s time to let go.

When it’s in the past, where we have no way to change it, we need to let go.

Why do we need to let go?

When we are in struggle, we are out of the flow of Universal Good. In that place where we are battling against the current of life we exhaust ourselves, and often have nothing to show for our efforts. It is all hard, hard, and harder.

When we surrender and let go, we stop swimming against the current. Life picks us up and supports us and begins to move us in a new direction. There is a wisdom and grace in the Universe that far exceeds our own.  It we can only trust and let go, finally, we can begin moving towards a better future, to new opportunities, new relationships, new adventures.  We give ourselves a fresh start.  We give ourselves a chance to be happy, a chance to find ourselves and to open ourselves to bright new possibilities.

Even if that means for a time we must sit alone, hands empty…

How do we let go?

Sometimes we need to ask for help. It’s not important to have the answer, it’s only important to have recognised that we need to change. There are many skilled and caring people in the world who can help you make the shift once you’ve decided that it’s time.

Sometimes we will already know what to do.

All change requires effort, but change is possible. If you know you’re unhappy and you can longer work out why,  imagine the current choices and relationships in your life. Imagine the problems. Now imagine removing them. Is there a sense of loss or panic, or a sense of relief? Sometimes it’s as simple as that.

Sometimes we only need to put our burdens down for a time. When we’ve rested, or found someone to share the load, then we find we want to continue, that we can continue.

So many times we let go of the job, and we land on our feet. We let go of the relationship, and we meet our soul mate. We pack up and go, and an unexpected direction leads us to a happier and more fulfilled life, unlike anything we could have imagined for ourselves.

When not to let go

You’ll know it. It’s as different a feeling as night is to day. This is an energy within you infused with light, hope, clarity, determination, strength, courage.

It’s the thing that helps you keep swimming, towing a drowning soul with their head above water, when you are both exhausted. It’s the thing that helps mothers lift a car to release their trapped child. It’s the voice inside you that tells you to call someone, or turn up at their house, or dash into a burning building. It’s the conviction that helps you stand by someone when you believe in a better outcome for them but they are in a place where they can’t yet see it for themselves.

That’s the energy of Love. That’s the feel of God as our wings. That’s Divine Grace working through us. There is something within us that will not give up the fight, something within us that KNOWS we can do it, that we will do it. That we would rather do this and die trying than to walk away. This is a feeling of being energised, vital, alive, burning with a seering focus.

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Tune in.  How are you feeling? Answer yourself honestly.  Make a decision.  Trust…

I’m holding you in my daily prayers and meditations. You’re not alone in this. I’m with you, and I believe in you,

All my love, Nicole ❤ xx

Wishing for Good Veins

“I have druggie veins. After so much intubation they are scarred and flat and tired and difficult to handle. It’s an odd thing to confess but the truth is all I notice is people’s hands and their veins these days. I have as much vein envy as any junkie. Oh, I think. Look how fat and juicy that vein is. I could get a cannula into that myself!” ~ Nicole Cody

 

It’s IV day for me. A regular practice, and one that keeps me upright and functioning. These IVs have kept my immune system boosted, they’ve helped me overcome life-threatening infections on more than one occasion, and they allow me to stay functional despite having chronic late-stage Lyme disease. Right now I’m battling an ongoing sinus infection left over from my horror flu earlier this year. It’s slowly wearing me down and I need to get on top of it. Hence the IV.

As much as I put on my happy face, I don’t enjoy them. With each year it has become that little bit more difficult to get an easy insertion or a bruise-free/trauma-free spot after the previous session. My doctor is a dream – so clever and patient, and he and his team work marvels. I know today will be a good day. But still, I’m always anxious until the needle is in the vein, and the fluids are flowing, and everything is proceeding well.

Afterwards, I’ll call my friend Carly, who also has recalcitrant veins (both of us have experienced the joys of having multiple attempts that resulted in nothing but bruises or the inglorious humiliation of having to have your IV line go through a vein in your foot – like all the best druggies who have destroyed all their other useable spots). Carls understands, and we unpack our latest experiences and share notes and support. Two friends with chronic illness finding solace in having someone else who has walked a similar path.

Wish me luck! See it all happening easily and well for me. Thanks a million,

Nicole ❤ xx

Using The Energies of The Blood Moon Lunar Eclipse – July 2018

 “Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakens.” ~ Carl Jung

 

Tonight (or the early hours of Saturday morning, depending on where you live) we will be witness to the longest total lunar eclipse of the 21st century! Australia is particularly well positioned to see this event, and you can use this link to look up the time it will be visible from your location here.

This kind of event is sometimes known as a Blood Moon because of the refracted energy from the earth giving the moon a red glow.

The energies of this eclipse are strong and will work in your favour although they may make you feel a little uncomfortable over the next few weeks.

The main power of the eclipse is in its capacity to help you release old fears, pain, limiting behaviours and beliefs in order to live more fully from your heart. That’s a good thing! But you may find yourself feeling quite emotional and a little off-balance for a few days while this cleansing and rebirthing energy moves through your life.

If you are interested in doing some big shift and personal growth try the following activities to help you make the most of the moon’s dynamics:

Life Direction:

Charge up a crystal to use as a focus stone for meditation and journalling. Place the stone outside under the open sky overnight on the night of the eclipse. Hold the stone in your hands first, cleanse it by visualising white light running through it, and then hold the intention that this stone be used for personal clarity and life direction. Best crystals for this are clear quartz, smoky quartz, citrine, amethyst or rutilated quartz. Any configuration will be okay, including points, towers, tumbles, clusters and jewellery pieces. Then place the stone out overnight and remove when the sun is high in the sky the following day. Now the stone is charged hold it or place it nearby when you meditate and when you journal or use cards to gain clarity for your personal questions.

 

Physical healing:

Charge up a crystal to use as a focus stone for physical healing. Place the stone outside under the open sky overnight on the night of the eclipse. Hold the stone in your hands first, cleanse it by visualising white light running through it, and then hold the intention that this stone be used for physical healing, immune strengthening, pain management or any other specific issue you care to name. Feel free to charge one up for a loved one too if you want! Best crystals for this are bloodstone, carnelian, hematite, fire agate, red jasper and green jade. Any configuration will be okay, including points, towers, tumbles and jewellery pieces. Then place the stone out overnight and remove when the sun is high in the sky the following day. Now the stone is charged hold it in meditation, wear it or place in pocket, or put under your pillow when you sleep.

 

Emotional and Spiritual healing:

Charge up a crystal to use as a focus stone for meditation and journalling. Place the stone outside under the open sky overnight on the night of the eclipse. Hold the stone in your hands first, cleanse it by visualising white light running through it, and then hold the intention that this stone be used for releasing old pains, patterns and limitations and for healing emotional and spiritual wounds so that you can grow and change in positive ways. Best crystals for this are rose quartz, green aventurine, turquoise, amazonite, smoky quartz, moonstone, pearls or opal. Any configuration will be okay, including points, towers, tumbles, clusters and jewellery pieces. Then place the stone out overnight and remove when the sun is high in the sky the following day. Now the stone is charged hold it, wear it or place it nearby when you meditate and when you journal or use cards to gain clarity for your personal questions.

Moon Goddess by Josephine Wall

Questions to explore in your journal, with meditation, or using Oracle/tarot cards:

1. Start by holding your crystal if you have chosen one, and close your eyes. Allow your breathing to become calm, and let yourself relax. Then breathe in white light or draw it in through the crown chakra at the top of your head. Offer up a prayer that everything you do be for the Highest Good. Ask your Highest Self, Guides, Angels, Ancestors or God to guide you. Say or think the intention ‘Show me why I am stuck, and help me see what to do next.’

2. Open your eyes. Hold your crystal or place it beside you while you work (feel free to pick it up and hold it again if you need some energy or encouragement). Take your journal and a pen and write whatever comes, using any of the following prompts. Write your prompt into your journal and then keep writing in response to that prompt. Don’t edit yourself. Just let the words flow.

  • I’m stuck because…
  • I hate my life right now because…
  • What I really don’t like is…
  • What I really want is…
  • What do I need to tell myself right now…
  • What do I really need to know right now…
  • Who am I?
  • What do I want?
  • Where am I going?
  • What’s better for me?
  • I’d rather be doing…

3. If you’re super stuck, and nothing is coming, keep asking yourself Why? Give yourself every Why question you can think of. If you ask Why am I stuck? and then write This is stupid! ask yourself Why is this stupid? Eventually, one of the Why questions will pry free all of the feelings and thoughts and answers that are stuck within you. Why are you stuck? Why can’t you do this? Why isn’t this working? Why don’t you know? Why is this a dumb exercise? Why? Why? Why?

4. You’ll end up with words on the page. Hooray! That’s the beginning of unstuckness. Go back over what you’ve written with a highlighter or a pen in another colour where you can underline key words and phrases. Highlight anything that stands out to you.

5. Now choose one of those highlighted areas to investigate further. (This eclipse really supports diving deep.) Write the words you’ve highlighted into your journal again as a new entry, Eg: My relationship with Steve. Close your eyes again, breathe deeply and bring yourself to a place of calm. Feel your energetic team and your Higher Self ready to guide you. Fill yourself with white light and really feel into that support and connection. When you’re ready open your eyes again and pick up your oracle or tarot cards. Shuffle them, thinking about your relationship with Steve. Then choose three cards. The first card shows you where you are now. The second card shows you what the issue or limitation is. The final card shows you your opportunity or outcome. Look at the first card, and really pay attention to whatever thoughts, emotions or ideas come to you, and what the imagery of the card says to you in relation to where you are now with this situation. Then write what comes to you from looking at the card. Repeat this process for the second card, looking to understand what the issues or limitations are. Now use the final card to explore what the opportunities or outcomes can be.

Be open to situations where you may now need to find a coach, mentor or qualified therapist. Sometimes we can own and understand the problem but need help framing up a solution.

Our heart knows what it wants. Our soul can guide us. All we ever need to do is make time for that questing and connection.

As you begin to get unstuck again expect more answers, more flow and a return to inspiration. You’ve got this!

Much love, Nicole  xx

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