So you’ve decided to do something new…
It always starts well, doesn’t it? You feel good about it. You get excited. You know you’re ready to commit. You’re hungry for change.
You say YES to that thing. You prepare to set sail for that new horizon.
But between the space of thinking about that thing, and actually getting there, we always hit a place where the waters flows more slowly, or where we might even find ourselves becalmed. Even when we do get into flow it can look mighty strange to new eyes.
Doubt. That’s what.
We start to notice a little niggle. Maybe the niggle becomes a quiet voice.
“I don’t think this is for me.”
“I won’t be able to do it.”
“I’m going to let everyone down.”
“This feels all wrong.”
The more you pay attention, the more you begin to talk yourself out of it.
“I don’t feel good about this,” you say to yourself. “It’s a sign. I must learn to listen to my intuition. My intuition is telling me no.”
You begin to back away.
You end up back where you started, and the thing that set your soul on fire, the thing that called your name, drifts further and further out of reach.
Let me share something with you. That wasn’t your intuition calling to you. That was fear. It was your intuition that first lit you up with excitement about that new idea. It was your intuition that led you to that thing you thought you wanted.
Because you did want it!
But our ego is designed to keep us safe. And every time we extend our limits, it gets uncomfortable. Our ego freaks out a little and then it freaks us out!
The bigger the gap between where we are and where we want to be, the louder our ego will protest. It’s only doing its job. Your ego is going to get uncomfortable any time you try and grow. It creates big clouds of doubt and fear, and it hopes you pay attention. It wants to keep you safe, and stuck, and right where you are.
So don’t confuse fear with intuition. Anytime we try something that’s going to grow us, we move into the unknown, and it feels unfamiliar and strange. Even a little scary. But if we sit with it a while, we find that we’re okay. And before we know it we’ll feel good about this new place. Down the track we’ll become so familiar with the new place that we’ll get the urge to grow, and this process will start all over again.
“Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness concerning all acts of initiative and creation. There is one elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans; that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen events, meetings and material assistance which no one could have dreamed would have come their way. I have learned a deep respect for one of Goethe’s couplets: “Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it. Begin it now!”
~ W.H. Murray