Compassionate people ask for what they need. They say no when they need to, and when they say yes, they mean it. They’re compassionate because their boundaries keep them out of resentment.
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Hello, Lovelies!
This Quarter I am using Angels and Ancestors Oracle Cards by Kyle Gray, with artwork by Lily Moses, for my weekly oracle readings.
Our card to guide us for the week ahead is SHIELD MAIDEN – Make Plans And Focus.
2023 is a year for change, creating solid foundations, and for spiritual journeying. It’s a year for personal growth, and for clarifying who you are, what you want, and why you are here.
June heralds a return to hope and heart, where we can find direction, optimism, fun and friendship. We are empowered to own our individuality and to find joy in self-expression.
SHIELD MAIDEN – Make Plans And Focus
This week SHIELD MAIDEN reminds us that we have the power within us, and we access that when we set boundaries, make plans, and focus!
This week you can move forward, breaking old patterns and moving in new and better directions OR you can spin back into the same old cycle and repeat that cycle over, one more time, for however many months or years that takes.
Think about that for a moment. Think about the months and years you have just had. Are they working for you? Are they worth repeating?
If the answer is YES, then work out how to make that pattern even better.
If the answer is NO, then stop. Catch your breath. Reflect on what didn’t work. Think about what needs to happen for you to live this next cycle differently. Then make changes. Act differently. Think differently. BE different. And start making those changes NOW.
SHIELD MAIDEN encourages you to say YES to the things that your soul craves, that your heart yearns for, the things that give you a sense of comfort or relief or joy. It also encourages you to say NO to the things that stress and upset you, and that exhaust you or where you feel you’d be going against your values and needs. This is a week to meet your own needs.
This can be especially hard for empaths, intuitives and highly sensitive souls, because we are naturally wired to be aware of the needs of others, and to help wherever we can. In helping others we often forget to take care of ourselves. Often, it also makes us pleasers – where we put the happiness of others before our own, because we think that’s what love is.
Let’s get that sorted, shall we? Just follow these simple steps:
- Tune in to yourself right now. How are you feeling? How much energy do you have? What are you worried about? What are you excited or curious about?
- What do you need? Are you hungry, thirsty, tired, overwhelmed? Do you have a project that just isn’t getting done? Is there something you said yes to, but in your heart it was always a no? Is there something you said no to, but your heart is secretly longing to say yes?
- What do you need to do to meet that need? Is it something you can do for yourself? Do you need to stop doing something? Do you need to start doing something? Do you need to ask for help? Do you need to schedule time for this thing, or consult an expert?
- Go ahead and speak your truth. Ask for help. Say yes. Say no. Make time. Set boundaries. Do the thing. Don’t do the thing. You know what you need. Honour that with your actions, not just your thoughts.
Why Do You Need To Do This For Yourself?
No-one else is responsible for your happiness. No-one is coming to save you, or to sort you out. This isn’t a test to see how much someone truly loves you, because if they loved you they would just KNOW what you need. (Please, don’t ever do that – that’s just screwed up thinking!) This is your job. You already have practice in helping others, encouraging them, guiding them or meeting their needs. So, you know how it’s done.
This week is the perfect time to start owning your needs and meeting them for yourself.
If not now, when?
If not you, who?
It’s time. By looking after yourself and your needs you can become more authentically yourself, more empowered, happier, stronger and more resilient. You become a better version of yourself.
I’m cheering you on.
My Top Tip For The Week Ahead:
Give yourself the gift of The Pause. Pause for a moment, before you speak, before you commit, and tune in. Is this what you really want? Go with your gut and your inner wisdom every time!
Stuck with creating a satisfying life for yourself or understanding your best direction forward? Maybe you need a session with me to bring some extra clarity and direction. Details here
Crystals to support you this week – Clear Quartz, Black Tourmaline or Tourmaline in Quartz, Pyrite, Labradorite, Amazonite
I know, I know, you’re expecting great things to have happened here at the Treehouse in the past week. They have – but not in all the areas we might have hoped. It’s week seven of Ben’s ute being trapped in our squashed shed, so that’s a bummer, but our insurance company does seem to have made a little more progress.
I am happily writing course material for later this year and next, we’re about to start work on a new website, we signed off on the printer’s Proof Copy of the 2024 Planner and printing and binding is well underway, (I might share a sneak peek below), and I’m still managing to do both my slow yoga and my early morning writing – even though I have to rug up and wear fingerless gloves now that it’s winter.
In the midst of all of this I am continuing to give myself time, resting as I need to and clearing space in my calendar. That feels like the biggest area of progress of them all.
Here’s to a week of more healthy boundaries, love and hugs, Nicole xx
So grateful for your Monday emails and guidance Nicole. You have definitely helped me these last months with your weekly card and readings. You’ve given me a different perspective, strength, understanding and hope. Thankyou so very much X ❤️🙏
Insurance companies can take there own sweet time with a claim or they can snap to it depends on someone’s mood