Saving Dudley Dog!

“Such short little lives our pets have to spend with us, and they spend most of it waiting for us to come home each day.” ~  John Grogan

 

Australia is in the grip of a ferocious heatwave right now. Late yesterday afternoon I lay down on my bed in our air-conditioned bedroom, thoroughly exhausted and grateful to be in the cool. I’ve worked a few big days, and been on call outside work hours too. So many people have been affected by the moon, and the energies of February. It’s been a time of high stress and peak transformation for many. Even my spare hours have been crowded with lending support to others. But that’s okay – it’s why I’m here.

As I was almost asleep I heard a loud but insistent voice. A squeaky, childlike voice.

“Wake up, wake up!” the voice said. “Dudley Dog is in trouble.”

It was my fairy friend, Sokli. She sounded quite agitated.

“Hurry up,” she said. “You have to call his mum. He’s too, too hot and there’s no water and no shade and he’s in big trouble. You have to help him NOW!”

Immediately I thought of a friend, and her dog Dudley. But she would never leave her old dog out in the backyard in a heatwave! I struggled to think who Sokli might be talking about.

“You know his mum,” she said. “The Jo Anne Lady. She just moved houses and she isn’t allowed to have a dog inside. You have to call her!”

Suddenly I did remember a Joanne lady who I haven’t talked to for over a year, possibly longer? Yes, that was the one. I turned on my computer and found her phone number. Joanne was still at work in the middle of the city, and surprised that I was calling her. Did she have a dog called Dudley? Yes, she did, a German Shepherd cross. He was a rescue dog, about four years old. She’d had him for six months and he was the love of her life. How did I know? Joanne’s surprise soon turned to panic as I told her he was having problems with the heat. She promised me she would leave work straight away and go home to her pet.

I hadn’t been off the phone ten minutes when Sokli began yelling in my ear again.

“TOO SLOW. SHE’S TOO SLOW! She has to hurry up or Dudley won’t make it!”

I called Joanne back. She was just leaving work, and still had to catch a bus and then walk the rest of the way home. The trip would take an hour. Maybe more if the traffic was bad.

Joanne moved to this house last weekend, after taking a transfer to a new city. She hadn’t met the neighbours yet. She didn’t know anyone who could check on her dog for her. “Call the RSPCA,” I urged her, “or your closest vet. I promise, it’s a genuine emergency.”

That was all I could do. I did a healing meditation for Dudley, and I called on every energy and entity I could think of to help him until someone turned up at his door. I put a post on my facebook wall, asking my friends to send love and energy to him and his mum too. I figured it would help both Dudley dogs and both mums.

Late last night Joanne rang me back. Someone from the vet’s office had rushed to Joanne’s house and found Dudley collapsed in the back yard. He was dangerously dehydrated and in severe heat distress. If they had found Dudley even an hour later they may not have been able to save him.

Joanne had left two bowls of water out for Dudley before she went to work, and he had a doghouse to shelter in too. But in a heatwave a doghouse becomes like a sauna – and offers no protection from the heat at all. In the late afternoon Dudley had absolutely no shade, and his water was long gone.

Image from www.vetary.com

Image from www.vetary.com

Joanne texted me again this morning. Dudley is being moved from intensive care, and they expect he will make a full recovery. The vets are quite amazed at how well Dudley has bounced back. What a lucky thing that Sokli was paying attention yesterday afternoon, and that so many caring people sent love and energy Dudley’s way. Thank you to all of you who helped. I know it made a difference!

Please, if you are experiencing a heatwave or a hot day, think of your animals and do all you can to provide them with a cool shady place to rest, and lots of water in multiple locations in case one gets knocked over. Shell baths with water or ice are good too. If possible, let your pets come into the cool of the house until the heatwave has passed.

There are some excellent suggestions for keeping your pets cool here.

It’s also a kindness if you can leave bowls of water out for the birds and the wildlife. Everyone is affected by this kind of heat.

Thank you again, and lots of love from Sokli and I,

Nicole ❤ xx

Picture Zak Simmonds - from The Townville Bulletin

Picture Zak Simmonds – from The Townville Bulletin

Acceptance – A Short Documentary about Owning Who You Are

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“The things that make me different are the things that make me.”  ~ A.A. Milne

“You are always welcome at my table.” ~ Nicole Cody

 

Last year I invited my friend Kerry Warnholtz to come spend some time with me as I prepared for and then ran my Chakra Wisdoms retreat.

Kerry is a talented photographer and videographer who sees the world through soulful and ever-watchful eyes. I hoped that she might be able to capture some footage and a few stills for my new website. My brief to her was that I wanted her to somehow show the love and care I put into each event that I run, and how precious each of my students is to me – how much I take that teaching and mentoring responsibility into my heart.

Kerry didn’t just capture that – she captured me – a little snapshot into my life, and the struggles I have had in coming to a place of self-acceptance. This short film speaks a lot to my WHY – why I do what I do – and I thought many of you might relate to the struggles I had in my earlier life to accept myself as I am.

What I want you to know, more than anything, is that I believe in you and that I want you to be who you are and be true to yourself. Being you is the most important thing you can do, and it’s time. The world needs us to stop pretending to be who we are not or to represent ourselves in the world as less than we are. It’s time to embrace ourselves and each other in all of our glorious diversity and similarity.

So, watch this little documentary. Come meet me at my farm, and in my life, and know that you are always welcome at my table.

You are among friends here.

Thanks for sharing the journey with me,

Nicole ❤ xx

 

PS – If you want to see more of Kerry’s wonderful work you can find her at www.tsi-multimedia.com

The Strange Dream

“Dreams are today’s answers to tomorrow’s questions.” ~ Edgar Cayce

 

I had the strangest dream last night.

A dream that seemed less like a dream and more like a garden party.

My grandfather was there, handsome and charming as ever. Dressed in his best summer nautical whites.

My grandfather passed away some years ago. I knew instinctively that all of the other people in the dream had also died. But there was no solemnity or sadness. We were celebrating something, waiting for an honored guest, and it was very social.

My grandfather introduced me to an older woman, and a girl in her early twenties perhaps.

We chatted for a moment, and then the happy young girl fixed her eyes on me in a way I could not ignore. She asked me to give her mother a message for me. She told me her mother’s name and where she was from.

And then she gave me the message, which was short but clear.

The message was in two parts. Both for her ‘mom’, but one private and one I could share.

Here’s the share message.

God is love, and love is everywhere.

So this morning I am looking for Dani’s mom. I hope I find her…

 

January 1, 2017 – Guidance for the Year Ahead

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“The best way to not feel hopeless is to get up and do something. Don’t wait for good things to happen to you. If you go out and make some good things happen, you will fill the world with hope, you will fill yourself with hope.”
~ Barack Obama

 

Happy New Year, and welcome to the energies of 2017!

New Year’s Day is always a special time for me. I like to welcome the day with meditation, and then spend some time over the course of the day contemplating my year ahead, asking for spiritual guidance, and writing in my journal and my Year of ME Planner.  For me it is a day of planning and dreaming, and spending time with people and activities that matter to me.

I have one tarot deck that I use only for the first day of the new year.  For over 25 years I have worked with this deck as a touchstone to set the themes of my year ahead so that I might live with greater awareness and understanding.  I don’t use the cards as a predictive tool – rather I use them for reflection, and to seek guidance about qualities, actions and perspectives that might benefit me over the next twelve months.

I also ask for one card for you – to give YOU guidance over the year ahead.  This is my personal interpretation of that card for you, and the energies of 2017 as they unfold in front of us.

Take what resonates as truth for you, and discard the rest.

 

 

THE PRINCE OF DISKS – Insights for 2017

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“Why do I talk about the benefits of failure? Simply because failure meant a stripping away of the inessential. I stopped pretending to myself that I was anything other than what I was, and began to direct all my energy into finishing the only work that mattered to me.” ~ J. K. Rowling

 

“It’s not what we do once—it’s what we do once a day… day in and day out… every day that brings lasting change into our lives.”
~ Toni Sorenson

 

What a big, big year of endings and shift we experienced in 2016. It was also a year of closing out age-old energies, and preparing ourselves for the new energetic era and the first energetic cycle within this era that 2017 represents.

2016 was a year of clarification, endings, beginnings, decisions and breakthroughs. It was a year for dealing with big issues and neglected areas of our lives. For family dramas and ancestral healing. It was also a time for sowing the seeds of who we want to become as the energy of a new cycle unfolds.

2017 is the first year in this new cycle, and the Prince of Disks is showing us the way. The Prince of Disks reminds us of the importance of holding to our vision, even if we are only at the beginning of a long journey. It’s a card of great hope.

There are so many determined souls stepping forward now, and being born, who hold within their hearts the blueprint for positive change. This change may not come quickly. The way to change may at times be hard, but the Prince of Disks holds to the course and keeps making slow steady progress in the direction of his dreams.

Prince of Disks reassures us. Life might be difficult, and there may be many problems facing us, but there are souls among us who are striving for solutions to the problems in our world. Prince of Disks represents all the souls who are committed to creating a better world, one determined step at a time. We all have our part to play now.

2017 is our Ground Zero. Our new beginning. This is our year for tending to the gardens of our souls. First we must plant any seeds not yet in our gardens, so that we can create a life of our conscious choosing. Then we need to be the caretakers of that garden. We need to nurture and feed our dreams. We need to weed out self-doubt and any limiting behaviours or attitudes. This needs constant gentle attention. It can sometimes be monotonous work, tending to these young seedlings that represent our hopes and dreams. We might not see results straight away. We will realise that our vision may take years to come to fruition, but we also understand something as we toil away at this thing we believe in. It feels good to help things grow.

That’s what 2017 is all about – GROWTH. It is a year of rich potential and new beginnings. A year of coming unstuck and moving towards the light. It is a year of change and of hope. It’s a year where you can remake yourself, put
yourself back together, renew yourself, grow. You can do this for yourself. You can do this for the world.

Your feet are already on the path. Your heart knows which way it wants to go. The Prince of Disks calls you on. There is much power in starting. Starting creates movement. Movement creates momentum.

Prince of Disks advises us that we can overcome limiting beliefs and behaviours. We can have dominion and authority in our own lives. It’s a time to break free of addictions. It’s a time to step away from the old, and to embrace the new.

It is also a year that promotes strong intuitive and psychic development, and a strengthened ability to connect to our own inner voice and personal wisdom.

We’re reminded that routine gives us structure and strong foundations. We’re reminded that small steps can take us a very long way indeed if these same small steps become consistent.

2017 becomes a foundation year on which so many good and true things can be built.

What will you begin this year? What will you craft for yourself, your family, your community or the wider world?

 

I’m wishing you a year rich with meaning, and filled with love, support, kindness, well-being and flow. Go be the change. Go be yourself. We need you more than ever.

Bless ♥ Nicole xx

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Image from riverlife.org.sg

PS – Want a system and support to help you make 2017 a great year for you? In life or in business? Check out my Year of ME Planner – 2017 and community. It has everything you need! And you’ll be among friends. We’d love to welcome you in, and share this journey together.

Doing The Scary Thing Is Good For Us!

 

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“There is no illusion greater than fear.”
~ Lao Tzu

 

I did the scary thing last night.

In front of quite a large group of people I sat in trance and brought my Guides through so that they could address the group directly.

I wasn’t sure how it would go. I wasn’t sure if anyone would even want to come. But I decided to be brave and put it out there and then see what happened.

 

I’m no stranger to channelling. I’ve been doing this for almost thirty years. I teach it. I spend hours in this state every week.

But still…

I always have a dialogue in my head before I begin.

What if nothing comes through?

What if I make a fool of myself?

What if personal things about me end up being disclosed that I may not have wanted known?

What f I stuff it up?

You’d think that after all this time those voices would be quiet by now, but no. I have learned to let the dialogue happen, and to ignore it at the same time.

 

Last night I channelled in front of a group and something wonderful happened. Like it always does, every time I channel in front of a group. People in the audience heard messages just for them. My Guides were able to speak and get their messages out in ways that truly helped other people. My audience had a good time. They found some things out about themselves that will help them to continue on their own path.

Yes, Sokli managed to find a way to talk about poo. Yes, Rollo was his usual cheeky self and said things that would have made me blush and disclosed personal stories about me. It was still okay. It was okay because it was real, and I was able to be vulnerable and to trust this big group to be gentle with me in my vulnerability – and they were.

Thank you to everyone who came last night! It was a terrific evening, and I’m looking forward to having more evening channelling sessions next year.

 

What are you holding back because of fear? What do you fear to put forward, in case it doesn’t work, or you are judged for it, or _________________ (insert your own list of fears and worries)

Until mid December we have this wonderful opportunity to plant seeds of goals and dreams for the future by taking some small action step towards that thing now.

What could you do to take you closer to your dream? To take you closer to living a more authentic and satisfying life?

Take that tiny step. I promise it will be worth it.

Holding space for you to be all you came here to be,

Nicole ❤ xoxo

Supporting Your Loved One at the End Stage of Life

“And then we ease him out of that worn-out body with a kiss, and he’s gone like a whisper, the easiest breath.”
~ Mark Doty

 

Welcome to the second post in my Wednesday series on death and dying.

Today I’d like to talk about the end stage of life, and what you might expect as a loved one or carer. Death is something we have become less familiar with in our modern, western world. Most of us are quite removed from the process of dying, and of being with the dead after death has occurred.

I’ve been privileged to sit with and support over thirty people now as they transitioned from this world and this has taught me a great deal about the process of the letting go of our physical bodies.

I have learned that we each die in our own way, and in our own time. Someone who dies quickly, as a result of an accident or sudden illness will have a different journey to someone who is dying slowly – such as might happen with a terminal illness or old age.
The only thing that’s ever important is to help the dying person to be as comfortable as possible, to touch and reassure them, and to be with them. Love and care is what matters.
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The physical aspects of dying:
As a person enters this last stage they gradually begin to withdraw from the activities of daily life, even things that once held interest for them. They begin to sleep more. Conversation often becomes taxing. Appetite decreases and then leaves. There is simply less energy as the body begins to slow down and then shut down. They will become less responsive to your touch. Less responsive to your voice. Even in the middle of all of this the dying person may rally and be more ‘with it’ for periods of time. They may engage with you, or regain a little appetite. These windows of clarity and strength are quite normal. But they are windows. Please do not raise your hopes that this is a sign of some dramatic turn-around.
I have seen a woman who had been unresponsive for days suddenly become alert and sit up in bed for a final conversation with her brother, who had travelled for two days from across the globe to be at her bedside. She died shortly after, peacefully and easily.
The morning before my grandmother Marga’s death she was suddenly hungry, after days with little or no food or liquid. She ate one last meal of a few small mouthfuls of soft food – a soup, a little of some lamb roast and vegetables, followed by stewed apple and custard. She enjoyed it immensely, telling us over and over again that it was good. Food had always been one of my grandmother’s great pleasures. Then she talked with my mother and sister and I for an hour or so, breathless and fragile as she was, to tell us that she was surprised to still be ‘here’ and alive. She had been sure she was ‘almost gone’. A day later, she was.
As a person moves towards death their digestion closes down, swallowing becomes difficult, bowel and bladder function changes and slows (there can be loss of bowel and bladder function), and eventually they will only want just a sip of water, or a sponge soaked in a soothing liquid to moisten the mouth and lips. You can also use a balm to keep the lips moist. The body no longer needs nourishment. This is normal, and part of the withdrawal process.
The eyes become heavy lidded, or may stay half-open. The mouth might gape open too. Everything is relaxing and letting go. Your loved one’s skin tone will change. They may become mottled. They may become more pale, more ashen, more waxen. They may become momentarily hotter, or colder. Their skin may feel much cooler to the touch. Your loved one may look much less like themselves.
Closer to death the breathing becomes laboured and the mucous thickens, which can create congestion in the airways or mouth. Breathing can become noisy, and a rattling noise is quite common. This is often referred to as the death rattle, and is an indication that the end of life is very near. Breathing will become erratic, until a breath is taken only every so often. Eventually breathing will cease. This can take some time. It is not painful for the dying person, but it may sound scary or distressing to friends and family who have not been with a dying person before.
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On a metaphysical level:
 As your loved one moves closer to dying they move in and out of a place where they can feel, see, hear and connect with souls who have already crossed over. This is a very comforting and reassuring space. I have heard some doctors and nurses pass this phenomena off as ‘hallucinations’, but as a psychic, I know this is not true. (More information on this, and on people with dementia and alzheimers here.)
Some people use the end of their life, over weeks or days, as a time of review. In their dreams, in their mind, in their inner journey they go back to people and places long since gone, to make sense of what has happened, or to make peace with what has gone before. While they are doing this they will seem to be sleeping most of the time, or rambling in their thoughts and words. Please support and love them as they journey. Don’t try to criticize, correct or judge them, or tell them that what they are experiencing isn’t real. For them it is, and it is an important and healing part of their journey.
The act of death itself is simply a shedding of the skin, and a return to another way of existing. The act of dying and the transition back to being ‘a soul’ is always, in the end, a joyful and love-filled one.
Metaphysically you can help by sending love and light to the dying person. Feel the love move from your heart to theirs. Surround them with white light, or whatever other colour feels good to you. You can also call upon God (or whatever you know that energy as), your loved one’s guides, angels and others who have already crossed over (such as family members or friends) – to come and support and guide your loved one for this final part of their journey. Tell them that it’s okay, and that they can go whenever they are ready. Remind them of the great love that is here on earth for them, and that will greet them where they are going next.
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What can you do to support your loved one?

Simply, just be with them. Hold their hand, sit in their space, touch them and let them feel you near them. You might want to stroke their hair, or press a cool, damp cloth to their forehead and arms. Moisten their mouth for them. Rearrange their pillows. You might want to massage some cream into their skin or brush their hair. 

Talk with them, even if you think they can’t hear you. They can. Please keep talking when it feels right –  even when someone is in their final hours and are non-responsive they hear you. Speak quietly and soothingly. No abrupt noises or movements, and keep the room lighting soft so that the person doesn’t startle.

It’s okay to cry and show emotion. It’s also very normal to laugh and to reminisce. There is often no need for words at all.

Do tell your loved one that you love them. Let them know you are there. Let them know you care.

If it feels right to talk, share some happy memories. Talk about things you have shared together over the years. Tell them about the things you learned from them. What have they passed on to you? Why are you a better person because of them? What can you acknowledge about them that you respect or admire?

Tell them about yourself. Share your life. If there are issues between you say what needs to be said with a spirit of forgiveness and kindness.

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Even when we have had a difficult relationship with someone it helps both people to be able to find something that you can share which helps the dying person to feel that their life had purpose and that somehow, in some small way they were loved, made a difference or were noticed in a positive way. We all need to know that we matter.

It’s also enough just to be in their space, just to sit with them, just to be by their side. Read a book, curl up beside them, it doesn’t matter what you do – it matters that you are there.

It’s okay to say goodbye. Whether yours will be a short visit, or a long period of support, saying goodbye is a soothing and healing thing to do, for both of you, no matter how hard that goodbye might be.

Let your loved one know that it’s okay for them to go. Reassure them. Sometimes they will linger, hanging on for you. I’ve seen many a person pass after their loved ones have left the room. It’s okay to let your loved one know that you are leaving the room. It might be what they need to finally let go.

Above all, ensure that your loved one is comfortable. There is no need for anyone to be in pain, and there are so many options to help you and your loved one manage this final transition so that dying and death are pain-free.

Make sure you look after yourself in all of this too. Take a break if you need one. Ask for help. Call on doctors, nurses and care-givers. Step away when it gets too much. Remember to eat, and to get enough sleep.

If you would like to use essential oils, I have found Young Living’s Peace and Calming soothing for everyone in the room. Place a drop on the back of the hands or the inside of the wrists of your loved one, and a drop on the chest or the back of the neck. A little on the edge of the ear is good too. If you don’t have this oil Lavender essential oil will do nicely.

If there is distress in your loved one (or yourself) use Lavender and Frankincense. Apply a drop of each of these at the wrists, temples, back of neck, throat, heart, and soles of feet.

Yes, you can use all three of these oils together.

Use these oils hourly, or follow your intuition. They can truly transform a situation, and help bring peace and comfort at what can be an emotional and difficult time for everyone in the room. I used this combination when my friend Angela passed over last year, and the difference they made – for Ange, for her loved ones, and for the nursing staff – was truly remarkable.

The combination of Lavender and Frankincense also helps the soul to let go.

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I truly believe that death is not the end of our being.  I know that love endures. I am looking forward to sharing more of what I know of this journey, and I’m sure you will find it comforting.

Thanks for reading. Next week I’ll be talking about sitting with a person after they die, and what happens in these moments after death for the person who died. If you have any questions you’d like me to cover in this series, please contact me here on the blog or at cauldronsandcupcakes@gmail.com

Wherever you are, go in peace today, and know that you are in my thoughts, prayers and meditations. I’m wishing you well. I’m sending you love,

Nicole ❤ xoxo

 

 

Blowing Up Everything I Touch

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Image from www.reference.com Credit: Alexander Gabrysch Picture Press Getty Images

“I am somewhat exhausted; I wonder how a battery feels when it pours electricity into a non-conductor?”
~ Arthur Conan Doyle

 

The past few days I have blown up almost everything I have touched.

It happens occasionally. I don’t know why. I reach out to turn on a light switch and the bulb explodes. I host a webinar and instead of looking normal on the screen I look like a cosmic green disco figure with energy waves radiating off me. All green. All cosmic. So unprofessional. After which energy spikes render my webinar recording useless.The technicians can’t tell me what went wrong. They haven’t ever seen anything like this before. My computers melt down. My phone screen freezes. Electric doors at shopping malls refuse to open for me, or else go haywire. Street lights blow when I walk beneath them.

It’s confronting. And messy. And embarrassing. And expensive.

‘Don’t touch that!’ my husband will yell at me. ‘Let me turn that on. You go and sit down in the corner. Read a book or something. Have a nap.’

It always goes away eventually, this strange accumulation and disbursement of energy. But until it does, I am a liability to all things electrical.

Has that ever happened to you?

My life is so odd sometimes…

Today I shall work with pen and paper, and drink tea, and wait for this to pass.