How To Own and Meet Your Own Needs

“From what I’ve seen, it isn’t so much the act of asking that paralyzes us–it’s what lies beneath: the fear of being vulnerable, the fear of rejection, the fear of looking needy or weak. The fear of being seen as a burdensome member of the community instead of a productive one. It points, fundamentally, to […]

My second Challenge for you!

Our Ancestors always operated with a sense of being in a reciprocal relationship with their physical surroundings. Whether they felt that they were being rewarded by Mother Nature or punished by her, at least they were engaged in a constant conversation with her. ~ Elizabeth Gilbert Hello, Lovelies! Are you ready for my second simple […]

I have a challenge for you today!

It is not possible to solve a problem with the same consciousness that produced it. ~ Albert Einstein Hello, Lovelies! Are you ready for my simple challenge? Today I’d like you to gift yourself five quiet minutes. Just five minutes. And I’d like you to do something specific with that five minutes. Put away your […]

Gumboot Adventure and a Lyme Update

“One final paragraph of advice: do not burn yourselves out. Be as I am – a reluctant enthusiast….a part-time crusader, a half-hearted fanatic. Save the other half of yourselves and your lives for pleasure and adventure. It is not enough to fight for the land; it is even more important to enjoy it. While you […]

Choosing Love and Kindness- Monday Oracle 20 May 2019

“The only person who can pull me down is myself, and I’m not going to let myself pull me down anymore.” ~ C. JoyBell C. Hello, Lovelies! May is such a breakthrough month – it’s a time for positive progress, big leaps forward and fine-tuning of your self-awareness. Use experts and wise people to help […]

Why Being ‘Nice’ Can Be Poisonous To Your Soul

“Share your weaknesses. Share your hard moments. Share your real side. It’ll either scare away every fake person in your life or it will inspire them to finally let go of that mirage called “perfection,” which will open the doors to the most important relationships you’ll ever be a part of.” ~ Dan Pearce Lovelies, today I […]

A Week For Truth and Discernment – Monday Oracle 29 April 2019

“We have to dare to be ourselves, however frightening or strange that self may prove to be.” ~ May Sarton Hello, Lovelies! April calls you to live from your heartspace. This month lifts you above your obstacles, or helps you to blaze a trail through them. Expect magical insights and guidance to help light the path ahead. It’s […]

How to Self-Care When Life Is Challenging!

“Self-care is how you take your power back.” ~ Lalah Delia It’s simple enough to be well-intentioned and kind to yourself when life is going smoothly. Or if you are on holidays. Or in a really good head space. But when we are hard up against it – when we have crushing deadlines, or horrible […]

A Week for Empowered Action – Monday Oracle 18 March 2019

“For after all, the best thing one can do when it is raining is let it rain.” ~ Henry Wadsworth Longfellow Hello, Lovelies! March is a month of creativity and inspiration that will propel us forward in new directions and where we can make major progress towards existing goals. Keep that in mind as we […]

Are You Honouring Your Need To Cocoon?

“Most of the things we need to be most fully alive never come in busyness. They grow in rest.” ~ Mark Buchanan The energies of June, and more specifically of this week, call on us to make rest a priority. For many of us, the start of 2018 has been busy. For some, it has been […]

10 Ways To Be Kind to Yourself

“There are days I drop words of comfort on myself like falling leaves and remember that it is enough to be taken care of by myself.“  ~ Brian Andreas Mostly when we think of kindness, we think of how we can act towards others. But today I want to focus on another equally important type […]

10 Acts of Self-Care That Don’t Involve Baths or Beautifying

  “The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide that you are not going to stay where you are.”  ~ J. Pierpont Morgan Hello, Lovelies! Almost everyone who talks to me about self-care seems to think that self-care is about taking long indulgent baths with candles burning and soft music playing in the background. […]

Our Top Five Guided Meditations For You

“if the ocean can calm itself, so can you. we are both salt water mixed with air.”  – Nayyirah Waheed Hi Everyone! Yesterday, Nicole messaged me if I could relay a message to you. As of the moment she has no access to stable internet connection, not even a phone at the farm while it […]

5 Simple Ways To Love Yourself Better

  “Have the courage to love yourself like you always wished someone would.”  ~  Vironika Tugaleva   Everyone knows that self-love is vital to building self-esteem and self-confidence, for setting healthy boundaries and feeling good about yourself. Problem is, if you don’t feel good about yourself to start with, if you don’t like yourself much […]

Your Wake-Up Call Is Here! – Monday Oracle 24 July 2017

“What is joy without sorrow? What is success without failure? What is a win without a loss? What is health without illness? You have to experience each if you are to appreciate the other. There is always going to be suffering. It’s how you look at your suffering, how you deal with it, that will […]

Stones, Crystals and Meditation Magic

“The soul always knows what to do to heal itself. The challenge is to silence the mind.” ~ Caroline Myss   I have long been a meditator. In fact it has been a daily practice for me since adolescence. Even with my recent bout of ill-health I haven’t missed a day. It’s as much a […]

Loving-Kindness Meditation

“…eventually tides will be the only calendar you believe in… And someone’s face, whom you love, will be as a star Both intimate and ultimate, And you will be heart-shaken and respectful. And you will hear the air itself, like a beloved, whisper Oh let me, for a while longer, enter the two Beautiful bodies […]

Concluding Our Oracle Card Challenge

“The outside world can only trigger or block your experience of your true nature. Each time something beautiful takes your breath away, that’s you experiencing yourself. Each time you fall in love with someone, that’s you experiencing yourself. Each time a child’s smile gives you unspeakable joy, that’s you experiencing yourself. Your true nature is […]

Day 3 – Oracle Card Challenge

“What we call our destiny is truly our character and that character can be altered. The knowledge that we are responsible for our actions and attitudes does not need to be discouraging, because it also means that we are free to change this destiny. One is not in bondage to the past, which has shaped […]

A Christmas Gift for Yourself

“You’re gorgeous, you old hag, and if I could give you just one gift ever for the rest of your life it would be this. Confidence. It would be the gift of confidence. Either that or a scented candle.” ~ David Nicholls, One Day   I was talking with a girlfriend yesterday. A very organised […]

10 Easy Steps For Self Care During Troubled Times

“They called her witch because she knew how to heal herself.” ~ Te’ V. Smith   It’s simple enough to be well-intentioned and kind to yourself when life is going smoothly. Or if you are on holidays. Or in a really good head space. But when we are hard up against it – when we have crushing […]

Looking Back at Me

“We look back on our life as a thing of broken pieces, because our mistakes and failures are always the first to strike us, and outweigh in our imagination what we have accomplished and attained.” ~ Johann Wolfgang von Goethe, Maxims and Reflections   It’s odd, this process of writing about yourself. Seldom do we […]

3 Affirmations to Change Your Life

“Sometimes, little things make a big difference…” ~ Nino Varsimashvili   Every morning when I wake up, before I get out of bed, before I pray or meditate, before I do anything else at all, I say a little affirmation. In fact, sometimes I will chant it like a mantra. In my head, or if […]

How to do a Ten Minute Mini-Retreat

“But this revolutionary act of treating ourselves tenderly can begin to undo the aversive messages of a lifetime.” ~Tara Brach, Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life With the Heart of a Buddha   I have a girlfriend who is about to wing halfway around the world to gift herself a two-month retreat at a health and […]

Poems, Prayers and Promises

“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?” ~ Mary Oliver   I saw a new lyme doctor yesterday. Why a new doctor? It goes like this: The first doctor I saw diagnosed me but wouldn’t treat me because ‘lyme was contentious and he was trying to […]

When I Loved Myself Enough…

“You can be the most beautiful person in the world and everybody sees light and rainbows when they look at you, but if you yourself don’t know it, all of that doesn’t even matter. Every second that you spend on doubting your worth, every moment that you use to criticize yourself; is a second of […]

Will You Join Us for the 2014 Soul Sanctuary Retreat?

“When we pay attention, whatever we are doing – whether it be cooking or cleaning or making love – is transformed and becomes part of our spiritual path. We begin to notice details and textures that we never noticed before; everyday life becomes clearer, sharper and at the same time more spacious.” ~ R. Fields […]

Kindness Challenge – Week Six

“Are we being good ancestors?” ~Jonas Salk   Hello Lovelies! Welcome to the sixth and final of our Kindness Challenge. To participate in today’s challenge all you need to do is select and perform one of the following kindness activities. This week’s challenge is all about leaving a legacy that can benefit others in some way. I encourage you […]

My Whole Life I Was Wrong

“If I am right, Thy grace impart Still in the right to stay; If I am wrong, O, teach my heart To find that better way!” ~ Alexander Pope, Moral Essays   My whole life I was wrong. I laboured under the illusion that I needed to be perfect. More beautiful. Thinner. My relationships harmonious. My […]

Kindness Challenge – Week Four

“You can be the most beautiful person in the world and everybody sees light and rainbows when they look at you, but if you yourself don’t know it, all of that doesn’t even matter. Every second that you spend on doubting your worth, every moment that you use to criticize yourself; is a second of […]

Ten Ways to find ‘Me’ Time

“There comes a time when the world gets quiet and the only thing left is your own heart. So you’d better learn the sound of it. Otherwise you’ll never understand what it’s saying.” ~ Sarah Dessen, Just Listen   No matter how committed we are the love and care of others, no matter how much is on our […]

Steps Towards Loving and Accepting Yourself

“Your problem is you’re … too busy holding onto your unworthiness.” 
~ Ram Dass “Your task is not to seek for Love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” ~ Rumi   Most of us believe that to be truly loved by another, their love […]

Saying No to Conditional Love

“You can be the most beautiful person in the world and everybody sees light and rainbows when they look at you, but if you yourself don’t know it, all of that doesn’t even matter. Every second that you spend on doubting your worth, every moment that you use to criticize yourself; is a second of […]

Sometimes You Need to Be The Lighthouse

“There are times when the ocean is not the ocean – not blue, not even water, but some violent explosion of energy and danger: ferocity on a scale only gods can summon. It hurls itself at the island, sending spray right over the top of the lighthouse, biting pieces off the cliff. And the sound […]

Who’s your Support Crew in 2014?

“Oh, I get by with a little help from my friends Mm, I get high with a little help from my friends Mm, gonna try with a little help from my friends” ~ John Lennon and Paul McCartney Few of us get there on our own. The journey is always made easier when we have […]

What to do if you’re on your own at Christmas

“The most terrible poverty is loneliness, and the feeling of being unloved.”  ~ Mother Teresa   Christmas isn’t always an easy time. In fact it can be one of the hardest holidays of the year. Not every family is close, you might be a long way from home, some families are small – there might be […]

Living my Sacred Promise

“You protect your being when you love yourself better. That’s the secret.” ~ Isabelle Adjani It’s the final day of Retreat, and I’m profoundly grateful that my body has held up for the duration. Just at dinner last night my Lymey eye began to pulse and pain, and I ended up running our after-dinner channelling session […]

How to Have a Heart-Centred Year

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection”  ~ Gautama Buddha “I care for myself. The more solitary, the more friendless, the more unsustained I am, the more I will respect myself.” ~ Charlotte Brontë, Jane Eyre   I’m betting you’ve never had a year where you made yourself – your wants […]

A Starting Point For Change

“She had discovered early that what we want out of life can change; that the important thing is to learn to recognize or even simply just to admit what we really want, and then to have the courage to reach for it.”  ~ Candice Proctor, Whispers of Heaven “The question is: how bad do things have to […]

A little Solitude is good for the Soul

“Language… has created the word “loneliness” to express the pain of being alone.  And it has created the word “solitude” to express the glory of being alone.”  ~ Paul Johannes Tillich, The Eternal Now   If you’re energetically sensitive like me, then you might already understand the importance of time on your own. Interacting with others draws […]

5 Ways to Be Kind to Yourself Today

“To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all.”  ~ Oscar Wilde I’m working today, conducting some psychic appointments. There’s such a joy for me in that – both the joy of spiritual connection, and the joy of being of service. And I’m also choosing to be extra kind to […]

Your Magical Free Ticket – Claim Now!

“Love yourself first, and everything else falls in line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.” ~ Lucille Ball This Free Ticket grants you permission to gift yourself an entire hour of your day. This hour is yours to use as you want. Here are the rules: You can […]

Why do you keep running from the thing you want?

“If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.”   ~ Henry David Thoreau     It’s a simple enough question. And today I’m asking you. Why? Why do you keep running in the […]

Self Care isn’t Selfish

“Nourishing yourself in a way that helps you blossom in the direction you want to go is attainable, and you are worth the effort.” ~ Deborah Day   A friend of mine has finally taken time out from her crazy over-giving-to-everyone-else-but-herself life to focus on her health. She’s run herself ragged, and her poor body […]

My story, interrupted!

“Nourishing yourself in a way that helps you blossom in the direction you want to go is attainable, and you are worth the effort.” ~ Deborah Day I was going to keep writing about owls and fairies and those sorts of things, but I can’t this morning.  Instead I have to go to work. Psychic […]

Monday Morning Pledge

“The beginning is always today.”  ~ Mary Shelley There’s a great energy in the air for positive change and growth right now. And momentum can be created from the humblest of starts. This week I encourage you to take a pledge with me, to enable that change, and to get your life back on track. You […]

Finding moments for yourself

“You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection.” ~ Buddha   Life can be hectic. Sometimes we just have […]

How to take a Blessings Bath

“The unthankful heart discovers no mercies; but the thankful heart will find, in every hour, some heavenly blessings.”  ~ Henry Ward Beecher Today’s post is all about nurture. I want to share with you a process that I call a Blessings Bath.  I usually take a Blessings Bath when I am feeling anything but blessed; when […]

Loving myself lopsided…

“The play is done – the curtain drops, Slow falling to the prompter’s bell; A moment yet the actor stops, And looks around, to say farewell. It is an irksome word and task; And, when he’s laughed, and had his say, He shows, as he removes his mask, A face that’s anything but gay.” ~ […]

Ditch those Toxic Friends!

“How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours.” ~ Wayne Dyer A woman I’ve known since school rang me in tears yesterday, totally confused about who she is, and what she is capable of.  She’s depressed, lost and about to give up on a dream that once upon a time was […]

Crystals for Highly Sensitive People

“Treating myself like a precious object makes me strong.” ~ Julia Cameron I love working with crystals, and my gorgeous fairy companion Sokli is completely nuts for them. Because we’ve had such positive and strong reactions whenever we have blogged about being sensitive, we thought we might give you some suggestions for crystals to help […]

Dragging your tail into 2013? Maybe its not you…

“When you get into a tight place and everything goes against you, till it seems as though you could not hang on a minute longer, never give up then, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn.”  ~ Harriet Beecher Stowe   So here we are in 2013. It’s shaping […]

10 Ways To Be Kind to Yourself

“Kindness is the greatest wisdom.”  ~ Author Unknown Mostly when we think of kindness, we think of how we can act towards others. But today I want to focus on another equally important type of kindness – that which we extend to ourselves. The beginning of the year is an opportune time for setting up […]

Gifts to Give Yourself this Christmas

“And the Grinch, with his Grinch-feet ice cold in the snow, stood puzzling and puzzling, how could it be so? It came without ribbons. It came without tags. It came without packages, boxes or bags. And he puzzled and puzzled ’till his puzzler was sore. Then the Grinch thought of something he hadn’t before. What if […]

When your Heart says No…

“We need to find the courage to say ‘NO’ to the things and people that are not serving us if we want to rediscover ourselves and live our lives with authenticity.”  ~ Barbara De Angelis We’ve all been there.  The place that ticks all the boxes.  The partner our friends and parents love.  The dream job. […]

Choosing Crystals to Attract Love ♥ Part 1

“We accept the love we think we deserve.”  ~ Stephen Chbosky So it seems that many of you like crystals, and the idea of working with crystals. And many of you have been asking me lately about love – how to love yourselves more, how to love others more, and how to attract love into your […]

Closing the Door on Abusive Relationships

“You show others how to treat you.” ~ Dr Phil This week I have seen two of the people I love most in the world finally end abusive relationships.  One walked away from a long-term love relationship.  One walked away from their ‘dream job’. The woman who closed the door on an abusive relationship had […]

Loving my dinged up life-battered Self – Part 2

“Real isn’t how you are made,’ said the Skin Horse. ‘It’s a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real.’ ‘Does it hurt?’ asked the Rabbit.  ‘Sometimes,’ said the Skin Horse, for he was always […]

Will you do something for me today?

Will you do something for me today? Hug the ones you love. Tell them you love them. If they aren’t close enough to hug, pick up the phone and let them know you care. Take a minute, stop, and just appreciate this gift of life.  Smell the roses.  That’s why they’re there. Look after yourself. […]

Don’t Play the Rescue Game!

I tried to carry you And make you whole But it was never enough I must go Lyrics from Watch Over You, Alter Bridge Many of my friends and clients are kind-hearted and compassionate souls, who feel compelled to help people.  In fact many are healers, counsellors and lightworkers by trade. But no matter what […]

Your Life is YOURS to Live!

“To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all.”  ― Oscar Wilde Life is a precious gift, and one that can be all too brief. Before you came to this life, you had a deliberate intent to be here.  You chose your parents.  You packed your bag.  You came forth […]

Are you too NICE?

Kindness is a loving balm, understanding is a mental tonic, compassion grows our hearts, love is food for the soul, but niceness? Far too often niceness is a poison administered to ourselves by our own hand. There is a trend (and I recognise it because I once was in that same place!) where people beginning […]

When is it okay to break a promise?

I take giving my word very seriously. Promises made are never made lightly, and since childhood I have rarely needed to break one. But I’m going to break one now. This isn’t information I’d normally share, but I have given so much thought to this that I felt my musings might be helpful to someone […]

Advice for strong people who aren’t coping…

Strong people are used to coping. They are used to leading.  They are used to taking charge.  Strong people are able to put their own hurt and exhaustion aside when others rely them, or the job needs to get done. They are not good at sharing their pain or asking for help. You know who […]

What to do when you don’t know where you’re going…

You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself in any direction you choose. You’re on your own, and you know what you know. And you are the guy who’ll decide where to go. ~ Dr. Seuss Feeling lost is a very normal human emotion. And it is […]

A Cup of Tea and Comfort…

Living and working as a psychic can be quite draining, although I love what I do. It’s not dissimilar to any other ‘caring’ profession, where you are totally focused on the needs of others, in a way that leaves little time for yourself. I’ve learned that the best way to avoid burnout for me is […]

Journal for Spiritual Clarity and Connection 4 – All about my Soul

You don’t have a soul.  You are a Soul.  You have a body.  ~C.S. Lewis Week 4:  All About My Soul We are all Spiritual Beings.  We cannot separate ourselves from our Spirituality, just as we cannot separate ourselves from our Physicality.  However, just as we can become physically unfit and unhealthy, we can also […]

Journal for Clarity and Connection 1 – All about my Body

Week 1:  All About My Body This week we are focussing on our physical bodies and all that entails for us.  Our plan is to understand and connect with our physical selves, a part of us often ignored as we rush through our busy lives. Journaling Exercise: Buy a journal if you don’t already have […]

The Broken Robot Repair Shop

There is an alarming trend I’m seeing, of broken people wanting to be fixed so that they can keep doing the things that broke them. I call it Broken Robot Syndrome – people so busy, so stretched, so weighed down by debt and responsibility and complexity that they are deep in fatigue, immersed in exhaustion, […]

Attracting Love – Part 1

There is only one happiness in life—to love and be loved. ~ George Sands (Image by Idea Go) Love is one of the essential things that all humans need to sustain us, and to make life worthwhile. What is the heart chakra for, if not to give and receive love? We need to make ourselves […]

Healing the Heart Chakra

  “Tears are words the heart can’t express” ~ Anon “The soul would have no rainbow if the eyes had no tears” Native American Saying Often we look outside ourselves to find comfort, and to release and heal emotional and energetic blockages and traumas.  While there are many loving and qualified people available to help […]

Working with the energy of forgiveness

“Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself.” Suzanne Somers Negative emotions can disrupt the flow of your heart chakra just as easily as boulders in a stream. How many boulders have piled up in your heart over time? Each boulder represents a major hurt, a major resentment, a major betrayal or disappointment, a deep wounding, […]

How to nurture Inner Peace

“Peace of mind is not a goal I need achieve.  It’s a place inside I never want to leave.  Close my eyes, I still my thoughts and then I say I will choose to live in peace today.” – Robert Alan           (Beautiful image by anankkml) Most of us live bombarded by […]

How to Nurture your sense of Self-Love

When we feel good about ourselves, when we can view ourselves with kindness and treat ourselves well, this becomes the basis by which we attract relationships of a similar vibration into our lives.  Love begets love.  But what do you do when you don’t love yourself very much?  How can you change your relationship to […]

How to Nurture your Creativity

“Why sometimes I believed as many as six impossible things before breakfast!” The Queen, from Alice in Wonderland by Lewis Carroll There is a winged dragon waiting at the edge of your conscious mind, and her name is Creativity.  If you climb into the jewelled saddle, and nudge her with your heels she shall take […]

A week’s worth of Self-Nurture Tips

Most people know they need to look after themselves, and that by nurturing themselves they will promote self-love and healthier self-worth and self-esteem.  But many people don’t actually know how to go about doing that. Over the next week I’m going to look at practical ways you can begin to make a stronger connection with […]

The importance of time on your own

There is a difference between being lonely and being alone.  For many people, the idea of spending an extended period of time with just themselves for company is an uncomfortable prospect.  Most of us fill every waking moment with activities, chores and people.  Time for ourselves is often the lowest priority. (image by chrisroll) We […]

What to do if you can’t love yourself… 5 steps towards healing

Everyone knows that self-love is vital to building self-esteem and self-confidence, for setting healthy boundaries and feeling good about yourself. Problem is, if you don’t feel good about yourself to start with, if you don’t like yourself much and you’re feeling pretty depressed and miserable, then trying to love yourself is like holding onto a […]

Homemade Rocky Road for life’s bumpy bits

I was torn between writing a post with a delicious Christmas recipe and writing a post about self-love and nurture.  In the end I’ve decided to do both.  Fingers crossed this combo will work out. I’m dedicating this post to my Nana, Joyce, who is in her nineties, and who continues to be a wonderful […]

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