It’s Okay To Choose For Yourself


“Look to your heart and soul first, rather than looking to your head first, when choosing. Rather than what you think, consider instead how you feel. Look to the nature of things. Feel your choices and decisions. It just might change everything.” 
~ Jeffrey R. Anderson

Hello, Lovelies.

Today I have a favour to ask of you. Today I’d like you to choose for yourself.

You might think that’s an odd request. You might also think it doesn’t apply to you. But if you are in love, empathic, sensitive, a parent, a partner, a people-pleaser or a soother of others I think it does.

You see, so many of us (myself included), will make choices in life with another person in mind. Your sweetheart loves the apple pastry so you take the lemon one. Your friends love sci-fi so you go see the latest movie with them even though it’s a genre you’re not fussed about. Your partner doesn’t eat seafood so you just don’t cook that anymore. When a family member offers to make dinner for you, you ask for spaghetti because that’s the kids’ favourite. You make choices that make others happy. And it’s not a drag for you, honestly. You don’t mind the lemon pastry. It’s good just to hang with your friends. Chicken’s as tasty as fish. It’s just nice to have someone else cook. No biggie, right?

Still. what if you constantly make small choices – ones that don’t really matter to you – that suit the preferences of other people over your own?

It might seem inconsequential but it soon stacks up. How many decisions and choices will you make in a day that completely negate what you might want? What message does that send to the Universe?

Each time you put the well-being and happiness of someone else over your own you are asserting to the Universe that they matter more than you, that their happiness and positive life experience matters more than your own. And even though you may start out being happy to have made someone else happy that joy will eventually wear off if your own needs never get any airplay. What’s worse, you train the people around you that these decisions you make are okay for you, or even great for you. So how will they ever know what you really want? How will they ever know you’d have preferred an apple pastry too? Trust me, this is the kind of behaviour that eventually breeds simmering resentment and misery where the only person who’ll be suffering is you.

So, just for today, I’m asking you to choose for yourself. Choose the cooking show over the football. Choose to hang out at the art gallery while everyone else goes to the museum. Eat pasta when the gang has burgers. Choose what you really wanted to say yes to, even if that means you go on your own or eat on your own.

That’s okay. Your life is valuable too. Your choices and happiness matter too. This is your one shot at this precious life. Don’t waste it by never giving yourself the chance to experience all the longings of your heart.

Much love, Nicole ❤ xx

Refuelling Your Soul

“The soul always knows what to do to heal itself. The challenge is to silence the mind.” ~ Caroline Myss

Feeling tired, flat or a bit lost? That’s okay – I have some tips to help you manage that.

Or perhaps it’s worse than a little fatigue. Maybe you feel utterly smashed by life right now. My advice is still going to be the same. There are three steps to follow.

  1. Find some quiet time. Here are some of my favourite ways to do that:
  • Take a long country drive somewhere, or sit on your commute with some headphones on.
  • Go for a walk or a run or a bike ride or a swim
  • Try some yoga or stretching
  • Make a cup of tea and sit on the balcony, or on a comfy sofa
  • Find a quiet cafe and grab your favourite brew and sit in a quiet corner.
  • Hang out in a library
  • Close the bedroom door and light some incense or diffuse some essential oils
  • Take a long shower or bath
  • Get up early, while everyone is asleep and you can have the house to yourself
  • Water the garden
  • Sit on a swing and then… swing!
  • Take an early mark from work
  • Go find a lookout with a view – views help put everything in perspective

2. Allow yourself to relax. Slow your breathing or, if you are exercising, get it into a steady rhythm. Let the tension unwind from your muscles and consciously relax yourself. Really feel yourself soften and calm. This might take a while if you’re stressed. That’s okay. Take as long as you need.

3. Feel into what you need most right now in order to refill your empty tanks and boost your energy levels, resilience and inner peace. Trust that you already hold that wisdom inside you. Ask yourself the question, ‘What do I most need to come back into balance know right now?’ Explore it via your imagination, in meditation or through journalling or writing. Let clarity come to you in the form of ideas, thoughts, images and feelings. You may also want to pull an oracle or tarot card to give you further inspiration.

Commit to using this wisdom to gently transform your life.

Thinking of you and sending much love, Nicole ❤️ xx

Nicole Update and a Pep Talk!


“I do not think that there is any other quality so essential to success of any kind as the quality of perseverance. It overcomes almost everything, even nature.”
~ John D. Rockefeller

Hello, Lovelies!
Thanks so much for all the love and positive energy that has flowed my way the past week or so. I’ve felt it, and it has helped.

Firstly, for everyone who asked, the dogs weren’t in the car with us. Thank goodness, because they would have been squashed. The other driver has cracked vertebrae but will be okay. I am stiff and sore but getting better. Ben’s even been back to our wrecked car and retrieved all our personal effects. So that chapter of our lives is over and it’s time to think about new cars, new directions and new eras.

It has been a strange week since the accident. Useful, but strange.

I found that there is a place inside me brimful with fear and memories of prior trauma. It came very close to the surface a few days ago. After seeing the doctor we stopped at the coffee place we had originally been heading to before our car crash. I sat with my coffee in front of me and as I picked it up my hands began shaking so much I had to put the cup down.

My heart raced. My eyes filled with tears. Suddenly, every shitty awful thing that has happened in the past came rushing forward. So many. Too many.

Oh my God, I thought. I’m having a breakdown.

Ben put his big hand on my leg. You okay? he asked.

It broke the spell and I half-laughed with tears running down my face. ‘Just peachy’ I told him. ‘Really, I’m fine.’

Of course I am. I’m still here. Life goes on. Sh*t happens. I roll with it.

It made me see how I have stuffed certain emotions deep down inside me as a coping mechanism. Each time I did it consciously and mindfully so that I could keep existing in the moment – through pain or illness, horror or exhaustion. At each instant I talked to myself (often out loud) and said ‘Come on, Nicole. You can do this. You’ve got this. You’re okay.’ Always at a time when I was most definitely NOT okay.

And do you know what?

Every time I did this I truly was okay. I got through things I never thought I’d survive. I managed. Not always gracefully. Sometimes limping through with no style at all. But I kept going. I kept saying to myself, ‘I’ve got things to do. I’ll deal with this later’.

People have been saying to me lately that they don’t know how I have coped, with so difficult many things one after the other. But the truth is that when you’re deep in the middle of something you find a way through.

Am I going to sit and explore all that pain and trauma stuffed down in me? I’ve already done that on many occasions. I’ve done more self-work and reflection than anyone I know. This is what I’ve discovered. If I endlessly replay all the old hurts and traumas I get stuck there. Instead I always look to HOW I COPED and WHAT I LEARNED.

All that pain in me is actually a strength. From it arises a wild and ferocious warrior women who will carry me through any fire and emerge me out the other side. Sure, maybe battered and singed and partly broken, but still here.

When I came home from the coffee shop I sat in meditation and reached into that place of pain. I saw that beside it and equal to it was a place of calm and wisdom and compassion. That tranquil inner place in me was born of the fire. It didn’t come first, it came as a response. It came BECAUSE I had suffered.

I’m sharing this with you because you may have forgotten that you are stronger than you know. You are stronger than any obstacle, any current circumstance. You’ll get through this too.

Holding you, as ever, in my prayers and meditations, Nicole ❤ xx

Lean In To Your Emotions This Week


“My favourite words are possibilities, opportunities and curiosity. I think if you are curious, you create opportunities, and then if you open the doors, you create possibilities.” ~ Mario Testino

What do you do when your emotional state is not great?

Do you distract yourself, numb yourself, or work furiously at positive affirmations? (Note that common numbing mechanisms can include work, eating, drugs, alcohol, sex and screen time.)

Sometimes a blue mood is simply a lack of sleep, dehydration or something we ate. But sometimes it is a red flag, put there by our subconscious to help us tune in to a deeper truth. This week I’m asking you to lean in to your feelings rather than to numb them or ignore them.

I’m not telling you to give yourself over to your despair or regret or fatigue or depression. I’m asking you to pull up a chair and sit with it awhile. Lean in. Listen to what it has to say. Stay curious. And expect answers and insights.

Keep asking Why do I feel this way? 

Think about when the feeling came on. Was there a particular action, person or circumstance? What food and/or beverages did you consume recently? Is there a pattern to how you feel? (Eg. Always blue on Monday mornings but great on Saturday?)

Ask yourself What does this mean for me? and see what comes up for you.

Ask yourself What’s this really all about? How do I really feel?

Eventually you’ll tune in to a deeper truth. You’ll find out where you are stuck in limiting thought patterns or beliefs, where you are doing things that don’t fulfil you, where you are behaving in ways that are out of alignment with your soul’s purpose and energies, or where you are ignoring your physical body.

When you lean in and really listen, you get answers. Those answers and insights, if acted upon, can change your life in positive and magical ways.

So, lean in, my friends. Be brave. Be gentle with yourself. Stay aware. Lean in and learn.

All my love, Nicole ❤ xx

PS – Extra Support For Your Year
Need help to connect to your inner wisdom and soul energy? I have limited hard copies of my beautiful YOM 2019 Planner left. And plenty of copies of the digital version. If you purchase one, or one of the Planner packs (that also have new year direction readings, meditation malas or crystals with them) I’ll gift you a month’s free access to my community and membership site (and a chance to win a year’s free membership!) so you can experience my work, and be well supported to start your year.

You can access the Planner and Planner Packs here in our store or read more about them here.

Guided Meditation Bundle

I’ve also bundled together four powerful guided downloadable meditations and created a companion workbook to support you in your spiritual journey. The Stardust Connection Meditation Bundle will help you to connect with and explore Earth Energies, Ancestor Energies, your Solar Plexus energies and personal power, and the Stardust Energies. There is over an hour’s worth of Guided Meditations and a 38-page workbook. The workbook holds specific instructions for using the four guided meditations, as well as journalling activities and reflection/awareness exercises.

The material in the Stardust Connection Meditation Bundle can be used at any time over the next four years, and beyond. My intention with this bundle is to help you become confident in your direction, your intuition, and your contribution to the unfolding history of the world and humanity. To access the bundle or to learn more about it go to my store or click on this link.

Monday Oracle – 14 January 2019


“ None of us knows what might happen even the next minute, yet still we go forward. Because we trust. Because we have Faith. ” 
~ Paulo Coelho, Brida

Hello, Lovelies!

This year as I present our #MondayOracle I am dividing the year into Quarters, to correspond with all of us in the community who are using my YOM Planner. Each quarter of 2019 has different energetic themes, so I will choose an oracle or tarot deck that best supports those themes. For our First Quarter, which is all about developing your focus, alignment and direction I will be using the Peace Oracle by Toni Carmine Salerno and Leela J. Williams.

January is a month for planning, and for becoming clear about what matters to you. It’s a month for prioritising, honouring your heart and putting routines and acts of self-care into place for the year ahead. Keep that in mind as we look at the gifts of inspiration which the card Trust brings us.

Trust encourages us to get out of our head and back into our body this week. When we live only in our head we can neglect our physical and emotional wellbeing. We can lose connection to our body’s natural wisdom and make choices that are not healthy or supportive. When we live only from our head we do not hear our body’s constant quiet conversation with us – we stop recognising when we are truly hungry or tired or in need of emotional support. We numb ourselves and stuff ourselves and alienate ourselves from this body that is the housing for our soul.

Have you been over-thinking, over-working and living off adrenaline and stress? Trust comes to your aid this week. Her energies support us reconnecting with our bodies, helping us to move to a place of acceptance of ourselves as we are right now, even if we hold an intention of changing from the way we are today.

This week we’re reminded that our body has its own wisdom. When we tune in to that we can begin to reset our natural patterns and preferences. Our body will gravitate towards the food, movements and habits that will nourish and heal it if only we take time to get out of our head and then pay attention to our inner motivators and instincts.

It’s a great week to see health professionals, to get a medical or dental check-up, to start a healthier food or exercise plan, or to detox and embrace a less-stressed life.

Look to schedule regular self-care, beauty and massage sessions, and put healthy routines in place that support your physical, emotional and spiritual well-being.

Supportive crystals this week?

Green Jade (pictured) works with your Heart Chakra to bring balance and integration of Body, Mind and Spirit. It is positive and nurturing, strengthening self-worth. Citrine supports your Solar Plexus Chakra and sense of identity. It is a stone of abundance, clearing blocks of low self-worth and creating flow. Ruby Zoisite is a stone of transformation, helping you to be empowered in your life. It elevates your confidence and authority, and improves fertility, imagination and innovation. Green Aventurine supports you to be playful, joyful and optimistic about life. 

Helpful essential oils?

Magnolia essential oil helps you to reconnect to your body, and promotes self-acceptance and positive body image. Its fruity, floral aroma is calming and nurturing. Use it on the soles of your feet, and to your pulse points at wrist, neck and over heart like a perfume.

Palmarosa stabilises your emotions and rejuvenates you when you are feeling tired or emotionally battered and bruised. Its gentle nature will help recenter you when you’ve lost your way. Add a few drops to your bath with a little Magnolia or Lavender for a peaceful soak.

Lemongrass helps with being open to change and for pattern-breaking.  It’s a beautiful oil to diffuse to promote fresh and positive mental perspectives.

I’m passionate about essential oils and their capacity to support our wellness journey and our spiritual and emotional wellbeing. If you’d like to know more or want to source the oils I recommend and trust visit this site or contact me at channelnc@gmail.com

Extra Support For Your Year
I have limited hard copies of my beautiful YOM 2019 Planner left. If you purchase one, or one of the Planner packs (that also have new year direction readings, meditation malas or crystals with them) I’ll gift you a month’s free access to my community and membership site (and a chance to win a year’s free membership!) so you can experience my work, and be well supported to start your year.

You can access the Planner and Planner Packs here in our store or read more about them here.

Go gently this week, and honour your body, which makes possible all that you do and all that you are.

Lots of love, Nicole ❤ xoxo

PS: Monday’s oracle card, ‘Trust’, is from the Peace Oracle. I use any cards shown as a prompt for channelled messages and my own own intuitive wisdom, so my take is sometimes quite different to the meaning found in a book. 

It’s almost #GeSHiDoMo time! – 2018

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Ninjas don’t wish upon a star, they throw them.
~ Jarius Raphel

“While others were dreaming about it – I was getting it done.” 
~  Nathan W. Morris

 

As the year races towards December are you shaking your head at the list of tasks you’d hoped would be done by now? Here we are in the final quarter of 2018. It’s a great time for planning for the year ahead, and a very good time indeed for getting stuff done. Which is handy, because it’s almost #GeSHiDoMo time. Some of you will remember that last year we ran a month-long challenge called #GeSHiDoMo. It was such a success that we’re doing it again!

Join Our Thirty-Day Challenge Here!

#GeSHiDoMo stands for ‘Get Sh*t Done Month’ – and I am dedicating the month of November to #GeSHiDoMo, so that we can arrive at December with a bunch of stuff ticked off and completed.

Maybe you’ve got a goal you wanted to achieve, and now Christmas is almost here and you still haven’t made much progress. Perhaps you’ve got a To-Do List as long as your arm, and nothing finished yet. You might have One Big Thing, or a mass of smaller and unrelated things, or maybe you’ve wrecked yourself this year trying to get all the things done and your self-care has fallen by the wayside.

That, my friends, is why I have created #GeSHiDoMo. Whether you have a lot to do, a problem with organising and motivating yourself, or if you actually need to schedule some time-out, we’ve got you covered.

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I’m launching the #GeSHiDoMo challenge on Sunday 28 October. The program is online, which means that no matter where you are you’ll be able to join in.

What will you get when you join #GeSHiDoMo 2018?

  • A #GeSHiDoMo Planner workbook to download. This Planner will help you to create your goals and tasks to complete in November. You’ll be able to work out what your priorities are and what kind of #GeSHiDoMo Ninja you will be. Based on your Ninja ranking you then get a proper system for organising and completing these tasks, so you can finally Get Sh*t Done.
  • #GeSHiDoMo Bingo Sheets – sounds crazy, I know, but wait ’til you see them. Suddenly getting organised has become fun!
  • #GeSHiDoMo Weekly Planner Sheets – if you’re not a Bingo fan, if you’ve got a mass of stuff to do or easily move into overwhelm, or if you are a List kind of person you’ll love this approach to Getting Sh*t Done.
  • Access to our exclusive Facebook Page and Community, where this month of madness will unfold. It will be a place where you can share your progress and support each other. Everything we teach will happen on the Facebook Page.
  • Weekly videos to help you start strong and keep going.
  • Facebook Live events where I will coach you and answer your questions.
  • Daily motivational tips.
  • Heaps of very cool competitions.
  • Super-Ninja fabulous prizes!!!
  • An Awesome Certificate of Completion if you get Get Your Sh*t Done by November 30.

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Interested in becoming a #GeSHiDoMo Ninja? Click HERE!

To join #GeSHiDoMo will cost just $33 Australian for the month. (That’s about $24 USD).

 

Here’s what some of our participants had to say about  #GeSHiDoMo Challenge:

  • Loved #GeSHiDoMo 2017. The group interaction and Nicole’s support. It was inspiring and the bingo sheets with my own diary system worked really well for me. Thank you to all xx
  • I loved this challenge and wish it ran more than once a year.
  • I loved it! I almost finished everything I set out to do, and realized I was trying to do too many things at once, which is something I need to get better about. Really enjoyed doing this exercise. Thank you!
  • It was so much fun in the group and so motivating and a super idea, thank you so much.
  • Loved this! Halfway through the challenge I changed the things I wrote on my bingo sheet and I went in a different direction. It made me realise things are so much easier when they’re broken down into bite-size pieces. So, Thank You. A great life lesson!
  • It was very uplifting to be a part of this group. The videos and live events kept me motivated, and I loved watching everyone’s progress. A very honest and kind group who helped each other over the finish line. I learned a lot, and got heaps more done than I had thought I would.
  • I finally found time for me, and ended the month rested and with some healthy and supportive routines in place. No more burn-out for me. Thank you x
  • Let me do it again. …I’ve been so productive!

It’s almost time to #GeSHiDoMo – See you soon!

Love and encouraging hugs, Nicole  xoxo

Yep, if you have scrolled all the way down to the bottom of the page looking for the link to join here it is again! Join #GeShiDoMo here

PS – YOMMERs and YOMpreneurs

Happy News! If you are already a member of my Year of ME or one of our YOMpreneurs it’s free to join! You’ll be automatically added to our Facebook Group and the downloadable files will be ready for you to download.

 

Energies of October – 2018

“The heart has its reasons which reason knows not.”
~  Blaise Pascal

Hello, Lovelies :)

October  brings  our  focus  back  to  our  home  environment,  our  heart-space  and  our  soul’s  journey.  We’ll  feel  a  need  to  nest,  to  clean  and  beautify  the  spaces  where  we  spend  most  of  our  time  (this  could  be  your  body,  home,  work  or  even  your  car!)  and  to  have  to  hand  the  things  we  need  to  make  our  time  in  these  spaces  comfortable  and  productive.

 It  will  also  be  important  that  these  spaces  reflect  who  we  are,  and  who  we  are  becoming.

Cards for the Month:

I’ve chosen two cards for October for you: one from Colette Baron-Reid’s Enchanted Map and one from Steven Farmer’s Earth Magic Oracle. Please note I don’t use these cards in a conventional way, but rather as a stimulus for channeled information.

Here is what I have received from each card:

“When you want to hurry something, that means you no longer care about it and want to get on to other things. I just want to get at it slowly, but carefully and thoroughly, with the same attitude I remember was present just before I found that sheared pin. It was that attitude that found it, nothing else.”

~  Robert M. Pirsig

It’s  a  time  for  inviting  people  into  our  heart-spaces,  and  for  deepening  our  soulful  relationship  and  connections.  This  could  be  candlelit  dinners  with  a  romantic  partner  where  you  talk  about  your  hopes  and  dreams,  it  could  be  time  spent  planning  an  important  trip  or  a  life  goal,  or  even  a  backyard  picnic  with  friends  reminiscing  about  the  good  old  days  and  reaffirming  your  connections  and  shared  experiences  over  time.

Use  a  little  time  this  month  for  reflection.  Think  about  what  makes  you  happy  and  what  fills  you  up.  Find  ways  to  get  more  of  that  into  your  life.

The second card I’ve chosen is Gaia. 

“Nourishing yourself in a way that helps you blossom in the direction you want to go is attainable, and you are worth the effort.” 
~Deborah Day

No  matter  what  we  do  this  month  it  needs  to  be  in  alignment  with  our  soul  energy  and  truth.  Too  tired  for  connection?  Then  say  no  and  have  an  early  night  all  to  yourself.  Work  doesn’t  feel  right?  Tune  in  and  see  if  it’s  still  for  your  highest  good  or  if  it’s  time  for  a  change.  In  every  instance,  no  matter  what  you  are  doing,  take  a  moment  and  breathe  deeply  to  centre  yourself,  close  your  eyes  and  then  tune  in  to  your  body  –  your  energy  levels,  your  emotions  and  your  intuition.  Let  that  be  your  guide  this  month  and  always  as  we  move  forward  in  this  new  era.  It’s  time  to  be  more  aligned  with  yourself,  your  values  and  your  needs.

Best crystals this month?

Bronzite and Angelite

Bronzite promotes inner harmony, reduces worry and allows you to feel grounded, calm and safe. 

Angelite nurtures your soul, gifting you expansive connection and deep emotional
nourishment. A stone for revelations and insights about what is good for you.

Essential oils to support your journey?

Young Living’s Joy essential oil blend, or Orange and Lavender essential oils are my picks for October. 

Joy opens our hearts and tunes us in to our own inner wisdom and is uplifting, comforting and empowering. Dab a drop of Joy on your Crown Chakra, back of neck, over heart, on wrists and the soles of your feet, inhale directly or add to your diffuser. 

Orange essential oil helps us to see the possibilities for ourselves and our life and is reaffirming, uplifting and happy-making! It’s also one of the best anti-depression, anti-anxiety and anti-burnout oils I know! Use Orange in your diffuser or add a few drops to your bath. To bring a sense of tranquillity, optimism and safety to your home or workplace add equal drops of Orange and Lavender essential oils to your diffuser or your bath.

You can find the oils here.

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Wishing you a love-filled, satisfying and wonder-full October.

Lots of love, Nicole❤ xoxo

Teacup Oracle – For Life Guidance

 

Who would then deny that when I am sipping tea in my tearoom I am swallowing the whole universe with it and that this very moment of my lifting the bowl to my lips is eternity itself transcending time and space?
~ D.T. Suzuki

 

Will you join me for a cup of tea and a little magic?

Every so often I like to create an oracle for you. The very first one I ever posted was The Healing Power of Flowers and Fairy Blessings.  We offered a selection of flowers for you to choose from, and each flower came with a message – a mini-reading if you will. It was so well received that I’ve been creating oracles for you ever since.

Today I’m so pleased to offer you another of my Magical Oracles! This time, I’m offering a cup of tea to provide you with the wisdom, guidance and support you might need right now.

Instructions for using today’s post

Scroll down through the following teacup images and then let yourself come back to the one you are most drawn to.

When you have chosen your teacup, scroll further down for your oracle message. Trust that what you most need to know is exactly what you shall choose.

Love and Light,

Nicole ♥ xx

Let the Teacup Blessings Begin…

1.  Violets Teacup

2.  Blossoms and Birds Teacup

3.  Everything Golden Teacup

4. Very Deco Teacup

5. Wonderland Teacups

6. Skull and Roses Teacup

7. Italian Lace Teacup

8.  Peacock Teacup

♥ Your Teacup’s Message ♥

Each magical teacup has a message for you. I have also selected a crystal to best support the message and energies of your teacup.  You could wear or hold this crystal, pop it in your pocket, under your pillow or beside your bed. (If you’d like to know more about working with crystals click here) The Power Word is a word to remind yourself of the quality you most need and that you are strongly attracting right now.  You can turn it into your own personal mantra by saying “I choose ___________ ” (insert your Power Word). Your Magical Healing Environment is a place or activity you’ll find supportive and healing.

1. Violets Teacup You’re being so strongly supported by loved ones who’ve crossed over, and by your Guides and the Angelic Realms. Call on them for help and guidance, and know that you are deeply loved, even as you feel so alone. They have a message for you to let you know that everything, ultimately will be okay, and they are sending you strength, grace and love.  Best Crystal – AMETHYST   Power Word – SUPPORT  Magical Healing Environment – Quiet time on your own to fill yourself up with nurture, to give yourself time to think and plan, and to learn from all of these lessons in your life.  It’s breakthrough time. You’re almost there!

2.  Blossoms and Birds Teacup It’s a time of accelerated progress right now, and a wonderful time for both expanding and sharing your knowledge. Trust your abilities, and take small consistent steps towards your goals. Keep company with others from your tribe, and if you have no tribe, seek out like-minded people who can support you, believe in you and help you grow.  Best Crystal – LABRADORITE  ♥ Power Word – KNOWLEDGE ♥ Magical Healing Environment – Places that allow you to develop your craft, your wisdom and your skill. This could be courses, seminars and conferences, books, teachers and mentors, journalling, dreaming and goal setting, or a room or studio where you work on your projects or study. It can also be you stepping up to be the mentor and teacher, and you putting your gifts out into the world. Embrace possibility!

3.  Everything Golden Teacup  A time of turning corners, of new beginnings, fresh starts and remaking yourself and your life. You are being encouraged to actively create the life of your dreams. It’s your life, and you are worthy of every good thing, so step up and claim it. Situations are easing, there is support at ever turn, and you’re moving back into flow and abundance.  Best Crystal – CITRINE   Power Word – RENEWAL ♥ Magical Healing Environment – Anywhere that supports your growing sense of self-worth. Look to positive friendships and relationships that make you feel good about yourself, to clothes and hair that allow you to reclaim your confidence, to trusted advisors and teachers who can support you in making all of these much-needed changes. Take yourself on outings to places and events that inspire and uplift you. Dream yourself a new life, starting today!

4. Very Deco Teacup  This is a time on your life where you can finally begin to see, with great clarity, both the truth of your current situation, and the best way forward. A time of inspiration, vision and sound decision-making. A time of great personal power, and of establishing sovereignty in your own life – a place from which all good things will flow.  Best Crystal – CLEAR QUARTZ   Power Word – CLARITY  Magical Healing Environment – Time for planning your life, creating a vision board, or writing in your journal. This is a fabulous time for you to truly work out how you feel, and what actions and decisions need to be made to make your life more authentic and fulfilling. You’ll surprise yourself with how easily you step into your own power now!

5.  Wonderland Teacups Friendship and helpful people is the theme of this delightful teacup. What you need most right now is good company – the company of a friend or lover, of family or your favourite pets, of new friends and old. Of like-minded people who can share your journey. And it’s also letting you know that so many of the things you enjoyed in childhood are still available to support you now, and to enrich your life.  Best Crystal – ROSE QUARTZ  ♥ Power Word – FRIENDS  Magical Healing Environment – Time spent connecting with friends Catch up with old friends you haven’t seen for the longest time. Have a cup of tea with the neighbour across the way. Organise coffee, a quick meal, a picnic or an outing. Join a group. Let your heart spend time on friendship, laughter, shared problems and shared joy. Love, laugh, live!

6. Skull and Roses Teacup  The message of this teacup is self-expression and self-care. Your soul is longing to be heard – it yearns for individuality, for attention to detail, for beauty and for art. You could find these qualities in nature, in architecture, in cultural pursuits or in your own creative expression.  Best Crystal – FLUORITE   Power Word – INDIVIDUALITY  Magical Healing Environment – Time that allows you to express or experience things that define you as an individual   Dress in ways that help you identify with your soul energy. Choose eclectic, individual, vintage, recycled and bespoke over mass-produced. Nourish yourself with culture and beauty. Spend time in beautiful, artsy or quirky environments. Embrace your uniqueness and be your best self!

7.  Italian Lace Teacup You’re stepping into a delicious time of creative energy. Expect ideas, insights and innovation. Challenge yourself and the status quo. Travel and open yourself to new ideas and the joy of thinking outside the square. This is a magical time for you, and you’ll be strongly guided and supported in this space of creative flow. Plan adventures, and then go! Start something new. Get things finished – there are also powerful energies for completion here.  Best Crystal – GARNET  Power Word – INSPIRED  ♥ Magical Healing Environment – People and places that stimulate you  Travel, go to new places, even if it is just a coffee shop or restaurant. Plan holidays and major life changes. Embark on new projects. Make things. End things or finish things. Think bold thoughts. Believe in yourself and in magic!

8.  PeacockTeacup This is a powerful time for healing for you right now. A time to get your body, mind and spirit back in balance. A time of drawing inwards for a while, in order to emerge renewed, healed, empowered and reinvigorated. Focus on your health and well-being. Pull back from stressful people and situations. Put your own well-being front and centre right now. It’s time for healing breakthroughs.  Best Crystal –CHRYSOCOLLA   Power Word – HEAL ♥ Magical Healing Environment – Any place or person that nurtures your health  Give energy to your best healthy diet, stretch, spend time in nature, get that body moving, breathe deeply, get some sunlight on your skin, plenty of rest and consult practitioners who can support you on this journey back to wellness. You’re being supported to find healing breakthroughs!

Overwhelmed and exhausted? Check your boundaries!

“Boundaries are, in simple terms, the recognition of personal space.” 
Asa Don Brown

I woke, overwhelmed and panicked, at 3am on Monday morning.

This isn’t usual for me. I’m by nature calm, centred and strong.

I knew part of why I was awake. An old friend had died the day before in an accident – and the news had left me shocked and upset. Apart from that I’ve got some pressing deadlines right now and I’ve had too much on my plate. We have ongoing family worries. Some of the people around me haven’t been carrying their share of the load, leaving me stressed and with more work to do and more decisions to make.

This is a week whose energies suit focus and mindfulness. I decided yesterday to revisit my priorities, to delegate more work, to clear a few more things from my to-do list or postpone them. I thought I’d sorted things out. I felt much better in myself.

And then I woke again this morning at 2am, crippled by anxiety.

Why, Nicole? I asked myself. What’s going on?

I meditated, which helped a little, and then sat down at my desk. And there was the problem…

Thirteen new facebook messages since 6pm with people asking for advice, guidance or support. Three of them serious, urgent issues. Twenty-seven new emails of the same nature. Six of those equally serious. Two urgent text messages on my phone. Somehow, over the past two years I have become an unofficial emergency help-line for my community and beyond.

It’s an avalanche of desperation, and I can’t keep up, although I have been trying.

As I deal with these urgent messages my own work is lagging behind, my own life is being relegated to second place. Or third. And none of that work is paid.

While I sat at my desk in the cold, lonely hours – overwhelmed by the pain of others, and my need to help everyone as best I could – I realised that my tank was almost empty. I’m neglecting my own relationships, needs and well-being to tend to the needs of others.

And I knew then what I needed to do.

I need to find a better way. A better way to help. Better boundaries for me. Some new fences and gatekeepers. A bigger team.

I knew I’d come to my truth because the sense of relief and clarity was palpable.

So this morning I’m asking you the same questions. Because I’m worried about you. Because I know you’re like me and you’re feeling it too:

  • Where do you need to build new fences?
  • Where do you need to create or maintain boundaries?
  • How can you find more time just for you?
  • What do you need to start doing differently, in order to make your life work better?

This is the only precious life you get – this one will never come again. And your wellbeing is tied to boundaries as much as it is also tied to living with an open heart.

I’m holding you in my prayers and meditations, and sending you so much love,

Please accept my apologies if I haven’t answered your message. I’m swamped. There is only one of me, and I just can’t keep up. Let me find a better way for us, okay?
All my love, Nicole ❤ xx

 

I Have A Present For You!

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“Self-care is how you take your power back.”
~ Lalah Delia

Hello, Lovelies.

Are you feeling exhausted, overwhelmed or completely over it all?

Congratulations! I’ve just gifted you a Free Pass. You might want to cut this out and store it in your wallet. You may also want to share this with someone else who would benefit from it.

This is a magical ticket. It allows you to decline a usual activity or responsibility, so that you may replace it with one of your choosing. Used responsibly, this magical ticket has been found to have restorative properties for Body, Mind and Spirit.

I’m using my own ticket this afternoon. I had planned a mass of admin work; catching up on emails, phone calls and filing. But I’m tired so I’m going back to bed for a nice big sleep after lunch. When I wake up I’ll decide how to spend the rest of my day. So far I’m leaning towards a bubble bath, soup and a good book.

PS – this ticket renews itself, so tuck it away after you’ve used it. Just knowing it’s in your wallet is often enough to get you through a rough patch. And when you really need it, it will be there for you.  Enjoy! ♥ xx