“Do your little bit of good where you are; it’s those little bits of good put together that overwhelm the world.” ~ Desmond Tutu
Can you do me a favour?
Be kind to yourself today. Be kind to those you meet. Smile. Give encouragement, or a compliment. Even if your own road is hard, or your heart is breaking, or you have nothing left in the tank.
The Universe acts in response to and amplifies energy. So every act of kindness anchors love and goodness and helps counteract those other energies – the ones that would tear us apart and break us down to rubble.
Be kind to yourself and everyone you meet. Life’s road is sometimes hard and you don’t know what positive ripples will flow out from you in life-changing ways just by living from your heart-space.
Thank you, and much love, Nicole xx
PS – I’m grateful for the outpouring of love and support for Matt and his family, and for the kindness and care you’ve shown me after yesterday’s post. Matt is off life support, but still in ICU. He’s stable and he and his family are being well looked after. As expected I ended up with an inbox full of hate-mail so your love was a beautiful counter-balance to that. I needed that sunshine on such a hard day. Thank you <3
“A friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you.” ~ Elbert Hubbard
I just wanted to thank you for the outpouring of support and love that you showed me yesterday when I updated you on why I’ve been so stuck with my memoir.
Not long after I posted my blog Facebook brought up a memory from six years ago for me to look at. It was a flock of Black Cockatoos that I had photographed as they flew over our farm. And most of you will know that Auntie always promised me her mob would show up as Black Cockatoos when they had a message for me or to keep an eye on me.
Later in the day they turned up in person, roosting in the hoop pines and calling loudly to me and to one another.
I took all of these things as strong signs that I need to bravely press on and just keep on writing til this story is done.
Thanks again. Your support means the world to me. It can get very lonely on this side of the screen, and your responses really helped remind me of WHY I am writing this book,
Biggest love and hugs, Nicole ❤ xx
PS – the short video below is for anyone who doesn’t know these beautiful birds and their haunting cries.
“Make new friends, but don’t forget the old. One is silver, the other is gold. ” ~ Joyce Cody (My Nana, from my Autograph book, 1976)
I’ve had a dear friend staying at the farm these past days. She’s someone I’ve known since school. Someone who knew me before Ben, before my first serious boyfriends, before the openly psychic stuff, before illness, before so many of the big events of my life. When we met we were still children and we were both young, idealistic and clever. We made big plans for our lives and we expected that nothing would stop us. Any barriers? We’d just work through or bust through them. We were eighties women – it was what we did.
Who would have thought, all those years ago, as we stayed at each other’s houses and grew to know each other’s families, that one day we would still be friends and that the lives we thought we would have for ourselves would look so very different to how they have turned out?
Who would have expected there to be so much suffering between then and now? So much pain? So much strong outer appearance accompanied by inner upheaval and doubt? So much joy? So much unexpected wisdom and grace? So much music and books and laughter and travel? So much growth? So much love?
And seriously, who would EVER have thought that 1980s high-waisted jeans, undercuts, plaid and shoulder pads would be back in style?
When my Nana wrote that quote in my Autograph Book (remember those!) all those years ago I thought it was a bit dumb – as you would at age nine. But at fifty I finally get it. Nana was right after all. New friends are silver, old friends are gold.
To share memories, common history and a deeper sense of knowing about each other is a rare, powerful and special gift. But don’t worry if you don’t have someone like that in your life right now. True friends may not always walk in step with you. Your life paths may draw you away from each other and then back together again over the course of your life.
The rest of 2019 is wonderful for all kinds of reconnection, so if you’ve been thinking about someone from your past, or a loved one with whom you lost touch don’t be afraid to instigate contact. At worst nothing will happen, or you’ll find you grew apart. That’s okay. You will have lost nothing by trying. But somewhere you may find gold, and that gold will be precious and wonderful for you both.
“Rainy days should be spent at home with a cup of tea and a good book.” ~ Bill Watterson
Down in our part of the world we’ve been in drought all Summer. The land has been so dry that the pasture has become crunchy and brown beneath our feet. Great cracks have opened up in the land. Our dam is down to a few bucketfuls of water, a little mud and a last few waterlilies grimly hanging on. So many plants have died. And all the moss, the lichens, and the soft native grasses.
I haven’t planted out my usual Summer vegetable garden. Too hot. Too dry. Too hard.
The staghorns and elkhorns are dying and falling from the trees from lack of water. The ground is covered in leaves as if it were Autumn aa the trees have struggled to survive.
Slow and steady, gentle, easing rain.
My cheeks are wet too. Thought not from the sky. From gratitude.
Is there a more beautiful fragrance that rain upon parched earth?
In celebration I’m going to have a Flash Sale tomorrow. My way of giving thanks. One day of deep discounts and bundled bargains. Stay tuned!
“ Your greatest self has been waiting your whole life; don’t make it wait any longer. ” ~ Steve Maraboli
At the beginning of every month, I discuss the energies and gifts of the month ahead and how we can best use them to make our lives satisfying, meaningful and productive.
I also choose a card to support the energies of the month. The deck I am using this year is The Good Tarot by Colette Baron-Reid, and February’s card is Ace of Earth.
What you focus on multiplies in February.
February is a month for action as you move into self-empowerment. It’s a busy month, with lots happening, so make sure you get some quality downtime when you can. You’ll find that there will be situations and behaviours you can no longer tolerate this month, including from yourself. Instead you’ll look to new behaviours, better relationships and healing or change within existing situations. If change can’t be negotiated you’ll be ready to let go and move on. You’re coming more and more into alignment with your inner wisdom and core values, and it shows!
This is a month for standing your ground – speaking your truth, standing up for what you believe in, adding your voice to the voices of others so that you can create change in the world. It’s a big month for activism and social change, standing up for justice and fundamental rights – so speak out for yourself and on behalf of those who need your voice because theirs has been silenced or is too small to be heard.
In February you can create strong foundations for future wealth. It’s a great month for all forms of investment, including investment in yourself, your ideas, your education, your health and wellbeing as well as improving your financial position. Call upon trusted experts. Get your will, insurances and finances in order, join a mentoring program or start/resume a course of study, get back to the gym, launch your business or product, and start a savings or loan repayment program.
This month you can step out of the shadows and into the light for everyone to see you as you truly are. It’s a month for embracing your individuality and unique quirks and qualities.
The energies of February will top up your gratitude tank and help you appreciate the richness you already have, as well as anticipating the riches still to come.
Best crystals this month?
Blue Lace Agate and Sunstone
Blue Lace Agate (blue colour) supports your Throat Chakra, helping you to find your voice and speak your truth. It’s a great stone for all forms of communication, and it also brings a sense of calm.
Sunstone helps us to sit in a place of abundance thinking so that we see the blessings and possibilities in our life. In Sweden and Norway, in the old ways, it was often referred to as the Fire and Ice stone, as was considered to bring both passion and logic to a person. It is a form of Feldspar.
Essential oils to support your journey?
Combine Basil and Bergamot Essential Oils for an uplifting and focusing diffuser blend this month.
Basil is a fabulous oil for motivation and for overcoming exhaustion and overwhelm. It will help with moving you to a place of emotional and spiritual renewal, and aids focus and concentration.
Bergamot’s complex citrus and floral aroma is one of the favourite ingredients in my French Earl Grey tea! As an essential oil Bergamot boosts optimism and confidence, and is relaxing and calming while maintaining energy levels.
I’m passionate about essential oils and their capacity to support our wellness journey and our spiritual and emotional wellbeing. If you’d like to know more or want to source the oils I recommend and trust visit this site or contact me at email@example.com
Want to make the most of your year in 2019?
I have limited hard copies of my beautiful YOM 2019 Planner left. And plenty of copies of the digital version. If you purchase one, or one of the Planner packs (that also have new year direction readings, meditation malas or crystals with them) I’ll gift you a month’s free access to my community and membership site (and a chance to win a year’s free membership!) so you can experience my work, and be well supported in the year ahead. Membership to my online group, courses and community – by subscription or a yearly fee – is also available
I’ve bundled together four powerful guided downloadable meditations and created a companion workbook to support you in your spiritual journey. The Stardust Connection MeditationBundle will help you to connect with and explore Earth Energies, Ancestor Energies, your Solar Plexus energies and personal power, and the Stardust Energies. There is over an hour’s worth of Guided Meditations and a 38-page workbook. The workbook holds specific instructions for using the four guided meditations, as well as journalling activities and reflection/awareness exercises.
The material in the Stardust Connection Meditation Bundle can be used at any time over the next four years, and beyond. My intention with this bundle is to help you become confident in your direction, your intuition, and your contribution to the unfolding history of the world and humanity. To access the bundle or to learn more about it go to my store or click on this link.
“The sky grew darker, painted blue on blue, one stroke at a time, into deeper and deeper shades of night.” ~ Haruki Murakami
After a short holiday we arrived back at our little farm in the Byron Hills yesterday. It was so good to be home, so good to be in our own space, to find our dogs happy and content, to see our friend who housesat for us tanned and relaxed and well.
I’d thought I would tumble into bed early, but as all the lights turned out and night wrapped itself around us I found that I was wide awake. Leaving everyone sleeping I snuck outside and sat on the steps, looking up at the dark bowl of the sky above my head.
The air was alive with the call of frogs and crickets, the chitter of bats, the grunts of koalas, the flap of owl-wing. The soft night was tinged with chill, and fragrant with spring blossoms and that honest smell of cows and damp earth. The sky was bright with stars.
The trees breathed in rhythm with me. The world turned. And gently, gently something within me clicked back into place again. I was home!
I finally put my weary body back to bed, sliding between the cool clean sheets in the darkened room. I woke this morning not remembering having fallen asleep, but having slept deeply and well.
There is such comfort to be had in embracing the fullness of my life.
Today I’m wishing that heart-fulness for you too.
All my love, Nicole ❤xoxo
“The heart has its reasons which reason knows not.” ~ Blaise Pascal
October brings our focus back to our home environment, our heart-space and our soul’s journey. We’ll feel a need to nest, to clean and beautify the spaces where we spend most of our time (this could be your body, home, work or even your car!) and to have to hand the things we need to make our time in these spaces comfortable and productive.
It will also be important that these spaces reflect who we are, and who we are becoming.
Cards for the Month:
I’ve chosen two cards for October for you: one from Colette Baron-Reid’s Enchanted Map and one fromSteven Farmer’sEarth Magic Oracle. Please note I don’t use these cards in a conventional way, but rather as a stimulus for channeled information.
Here is what I have received from each card:
“When you want to hurry something, that means you no longer care about it and want to get on to other things. I just want to get at it slowly, but carefully and thoroughly, with the same attitude I remember was present just before I found that sheared pin. It was that attitude that found it, nothing else.”
~ Robert M. Pirsig
It’s a time for inviting people into our heart-spaces, and for deepening our soulful relationship and connections. This could be candlelit dinners with a romantic partner where you talk about your hopes and dreams, it could be time spent planning an important trip or a life goal, or even a backyard picnic with friends reminiscing about the good old days and reaffirming your connections and shared experiences over time.
Use a little time this month for reflection. Think about what makes you happy and what fills you up. Find ways to get more of that into your life.
The second card I’ve chosen is Gaia.
“Nourishing yourself in a way that helps you blossom in the direction you want to go is attainable, and you are worth the effort.” ~Deborah Day
No matter what we do this month it needs to be in alignment with our soul energy and truth. Too tired for connection? Then say no and have an early night all to yourself. Work doesn’t feel right? Tune in and see if it’s still for your highest good or if it’s time for a change. In every instance, no matter what you are doing, take a moment and breathe deeply to centre yourself, close your eyes and then tune in to your body – your energy levels, your emotions and your intuition. Let that be your guide this month and always as we move forward in this new era. It’s time to be more aligned with yourself, your values and your needs.
Best crystals this month?
Bronzite and Angelite
Bronzite promotes inner harmony, reduces worry and allows you to feel grounded, calm and safe.
Angelite nurtures your soul, gifting you expansive connection and deep emotional nourishment. A stone for revelations and insights about what is good for you.
Essential oils to support your journey?
Young Living’sJoy essential oil blend, or Orange and Lavender essential oils are my picks for October.
Joy opens our hearts and tunes us in to our own inner wisdom and is uplifting, comforting and empowering. Dab a drop of Joy on your Crown Chakra, back of neck, over heart, on wrists and the soles of your feet, inhale directly or add to your diffuser.
Orange essential oil helps us to see the possibilities for ourselves and our life and is reaffirming, uplifting and happy-making! It’s also one of the best anti-depression, anti-anxiety and anti-burnout oils I know! Use Orange in your diffuser or add a few drops to your bath. To bring a sense of tranquillity, optimism and safety to your home or workplace add equal drops of Orange and Lavender essential oils to your diffuser or your bath.
“Take time daily to reflect on how much you have. It may not be all that you want but remember someone somewhere is dreaming to have what you have.” ~Germany Kent
This morning I’m counting my Blessings. Such a simple thing to do, and it always makes me feel richer. I like to count them off on my fingers – a tangible act, and a way of really anchoring their truth in my life. Blessings to me are always the simple things in life, and often the things we take for granted. Even on the worst of days we can find something to be grateful for. Counting blessings gets my attention OFF the things I don’t want, and back on the things I do. It’s an instant mood lifter that keeps things in perspective for me. It never takes much to find something that’s a blessing.
Today I am grateful for:
1. The sound of wind in the trees as I go to sleep, and birdsong as I wake up.
2. The warmth of the fire, and the sweet smell of woodsmoke in the cold morning air. (I’m also grateful for my husband, who chops the wood and loads the wheelbarrow, and stokes the fire for me!)
3. Chai tea, enough for two, sipped from big bowls, with just a dusting of cinnamon.
4. My Meyer Lemon tree, and its abundance of luscious fruit. And the fresh Lemon Curd I can spread on my morning toast!
5. Farmers’ Markets, and the dedication of our local growers to grow or make the best seasonal fresh produce.
6. My Kindle, and being able to snuggle under the doona on a lazy morning, sipping chai and reading books.
7. My dogs, Rufous and Harry, for their love and companionship.
8. Writing. It is my greatest love, and the thing that wakes me up in the middle of the night, brimful of ideas.
9. Red Jasper which grounds and nurtures, and feels wonderful to have tucked up within my aura.
10. Trees. My little farmhouse is cradled by hundred-year-old trees who whisper their secrets, one to another, and add an incredible energy to this place and to me.
How about you? What do you have to be thankful for today? Go on – count them off on your fingers!
“Once, poets were magicians. Poets were strong, stronger than warriors or kings — stronger than old hapless gods. And they will be strong once again.” ~ Greg Bear
I’m in Adelaide for a conference this weekend. The event began with welcome drinks at our hotel last night, but I was feeling tired and poorly and wanted soup, so I snuck out the main doors thirty minutes before our event began, hoping to find something more comforting than alcohol and strangers. It was my birthday on Thursday, and I’ve spent the last few days reflecting on my life and sitting in meditation and prayer as I asked for clarity about my road ahead. I wanted to prolong this soulful space just a little longer, so I honoured that need and heeded my intuition by heading out into the night.
As I wandered up the city street a man called to me. He was sitting on a small ledge outside a closed shop, rugged up against the cold. In his hands was an upturned empty cap, immediately marking him as some kind of busker or beggar.
‘Can I offer you a poem?’ he said.
I apologised and explained that I was in need of soup. But I promised him I would stop on the way back. As I walked off I saw his look of resignation, and I knew he’d been told such things many times before by people who hadn’t come back.
A block further along I found an excellent soup and dumpling house, ate a bowl of steaming oily broth with wontons and bok choy floating in the silky liquid, and then made my way back out into the busy Friday night streets.
I stopped in front of the poet, who was stooped and huddled on his seat. ‘I’m ready for that poem,’ I told him.
He sat up straighter. ‘This one is about the drought,’ he said, ‘and a message of hope and rain for our farmers.’ After which he launched into his poem.
He spoke eloquently, dramatically. It was a performance filled with emotion and delivered with care. I have long been a lover of poetry, and this one moved me deeply. It took me to the heart of my country. Within the words I also felt a strong message of hope for my own life – the symbolism a gift threaded with a secret meaning I was sure was just for me.
When the poem ended I stood for a moment, still wrapped in the imagery and sentiment wrought by his words. Then I reached for some coins.
‘Did you write that yourself?’ I asked as I fumbled in my handbag.
As I zipped open my purse I saw smaller notes, a handful of coins and tucked away right at the back my ’emergency hundred’ – a green crisp $100 note that I carry in case I am ever in need of a larger sum of money at short notice.
I thought about my capacity to earn money, and how much my work is valued in the world. And I thought about the poet, sitting on a cold city street, hoping to trade his words for coins.
It seemed inequitable. The poet had shared something original and good. Something that had given me insights and meaning and unexpected value. I reached for my emergency hundred and handed it to the poet.
He gazed at the note in his hands, then up to me, and then back to the note.
A tear came to his eye.
He tried to give it back to me. ‘Haven’t you got something smaller?’ he said. “I don’t mind if you give me something smaller.’
‘It’s fine,’ I said. ‘Please. Take it. I want you to know that I value your work. I value the gift of the poem you gave me tonight. It would mean a lot to me for you to accept my gift in return.’
He nodded, his eyes downcast. Silent.
Finally, he looked up.
‘What’s your name?’ I asked.
‘Justin,’ he said. ‘And you, you’re a true lady. Thank you, my lady.’
“The purpose of life, after all, is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience.” ~ Eleanor Roosevelt
We’re in the city right now, and last night something quite wonderful happened. Our neighbour joined Ben and I and we walked a few blocks down the road in the mild winter air to our local Japanese restaurant.
After a casual and delicious dinner we strolled home again.
That’s it. That’s all that happened.
No biggy, right?
Except that it was. When you live with chronic illness it’s amazing how small your world can become. For the first time in a long while I went out at night. I walked to a destination and home again. And had the energy to do all of that and still feel good about it.
I hardly ever go out at night, and so to combine dinner, friends and walking feels like some small kind of very tasty miracle.
Hooray for feeling better, and for life!
Hugs and love to you, Nicole ❤ xoxo