Create Positive Change Program – Week 3

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“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” ~ Steve Jobs

Sometimes the advice we get, and the experts, mentors and people in positions of authority that we look to for direction end up giving us a bum steer.

Seriously.

When we are really strong in our own power and confidence, and fired up by what it is we want to be/do/have, then it doesn’t matter so much if other people disagree or don’t believe in us. The positive energy and vision we hold for ourselves will carry us through.

But when we’re just starting out, when we’re vulnerable and uncertain it can be very easy for other people to sink our ship.

Some folks persist in telling you not to get on the boat, or threaten to disown you if you do. Some like to blow our ship right out of the water, some smash it to bits while it’s still in the construction phase, and others sneakily let the bungs out and the water in while telling us they 100% believe in our ability to float that boat. Still others commandeer our ship and steer it to places we didn’t want to go, or limit our horizons.

But it’s still our own little ship of dreams, and what matters is that it’s ours – not anyone else’s.

This week we’re going to look at one of the biggest things that holds us back from positive change – believing the people who don’t believe in YOU!

Click on the video below for a little positive reinforcement – these are all people who were told they would fail, but who eventually (note that word eventually) succeeded beyond their wildest dreams. Imagine what would have happened if they’d stopped trying?

Okay – let’s do our foundation exercises.

Count Your Blessings!

How’s your Blessings Book going? I love looking back over mine, especially the ones from years ago.  This simple practice can bring enormous riches into your life by regularly focusing your attention on what matters to you.

Again this week write down three blessings in your life every day – three simple things for which you are grateful. When we count our Blessings we are inviting positive energy into our lives and putting ourselves into a receptive and abundant state of mind.

Write them like this: Today I am thankful for (the blessing) because (write down a simple reason). eg: Today I am grateful for rain because I get to wear my awesome purple gumboots!

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Affirm the Positive!

Take your rock from Week Two, and thank it. Write the Affirmation you used in your Blessings Book. You can now place the second rock beside your bed or somewhere where you’ll see it often.

Select the third rock from the eight you selected at the start of this course. This is your third Affirmation Stone. Carry it around with you, or place it somewhere where you can see and hold it every day.

Hold this third stone in your hands. Now think of something else in your life that you want to change. This week we’re focusing on what we CAN do. Affirm that as a statement of declaration to the Universe.

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Here are some examples:

I can manage money well.

I can create financial freedom for me and my family.

I can be healthy and happy.

I can be cherished in a loving, lasting relationship.

I can get published.

I can make money doing this _________ (thing I love – insert your own thing here)

 

Each day hold that stone in your hands and repeat your declaration, out loud, or in your mind. You can do this just once, or as many times as you like. Say your declaration with enthusiasm and commitment. Put lots of energy into the word CAN. Say it loud enough and strongly enough to defeat all of the doubters in your life. This simple act of declaration begins to align you with this energy, opening you to more of this thing in your life.

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Using your Gratitude Rock!

Using my Gratitude Rock is one of the favourite parts of my day. It makes me feel so connected to each of you, and very supported and loved. Because our Gratitude Rock anchors positive energy and gratitude at the end of each day we go to sleep in that beautiful bubble of healing energy, and remain connected, empowered and loved.

As you hold your stone tonight say to yourself I am richly Blessed. I have an Abundance of Good in my life.  Then hold in your mind one or more image of a thing you have been grateful for today.  It doesn’t matter if you review your Blessings from your Blessing Book, or add in something new.  Swell that positive energy up in your heart like a beautiful golden light, and give a heart-felt Thank You, Thank You, Thank You to the Universe. Visualise a tiny shower of golden light travelling from your heart into your Gratitude Rock.

Now imagine all of the other people who are taking part in this Positive Change Program with us – people from all over the world, just like you. Once again build up a strong positive energy in your heart, and then imagine shooting a stream of golden light out into the Universe to those people.

Say Thank you.  I Bless You.  I intend for you Positive Change, Love, Miracles and Abundance. Know that as you are saying this for them, they are also saying this for you. Feel that connection and gratitude and know that there is real love and support for you here. Place your rock back beside your bed, and go to sleep, cocooned in this good energy. I’ll send you a few extra sparkles this week! 🙂

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Homework:

This week we’re busting through the old negative energy and thinking caused by people making us feel small, inadequate, incapable or undeserving.

Who are they to tell you how to live your life?

Make a list in your journal of all of the people who have said or done things that have contributed to you giving up, holding yourself back, or never even starting. Write as much or as little detail as you need.

Then we’re going to do a little visualisation exercise to get our power back. We’ll see them saying/doing that thing to us and then we’ll affirm that it doesn’t matter what they say. We’ll allow ourselves to do or be that thing anyway. We can write it out or act it out in our imagination – whatever feels right.

If you need to stomp your foot, raise your voice, add a thousand exclamation marks or anything else that helps, do it! This is not a time to act small in the world.

Here’s my example:

Someone near and dear to me (I’m not going to name and shame them here in public) once said to me, “You’re not pretty like your sister, but at least you have a nice personality.” I totally took that on board and believed I wasn’t attractive, although I did get the consolation prize of a ‘nice personality’.

So now I’ll hold that person in my thoughts, and imagine them saying that to me again. And then I will visualise myself saying to them: Well, I’m sorry but that’s just your opinion. I forgive you and set you free. I AM pretty and I reclaim my prettiness. I’m pretty to me, and that’s all that counts!

If they’d said I couldn’t write well, I’d say Well, I’m sorry but that’s just your opinion. I forgive you and set you free. I CAN write well and I’m going to keep on writing. So there!

This might take a while, so feel free to do one or two people at a time, or to repeat the exercise as you need to. It’s very empowering, and you’ll be amazed at what comes up that you thought you’d forgotten.

Let go of all this old stuff that’s holding you back. It’s time! Reclaim your power.

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PS: If you’d like to review any aspect of this course, or start back at the beginning click here.

19 thoughts on “Create Positive Change Program – Week 3

  1. Nicole, your weaving your magic again. The first two weeks have seen amazing change for me, I’m blown away everyday. The last 48hours thinking about the guy I just dumped and how he didnt support my dreams and then reading your post. Guess who got his name of top of my list. Keep up the amazing work, and I’ll keep moving forward in leaps and bounds. Thanks.

  2. Dear Nicole thank you so much for all your blogs and this amazing Positive Change process in particular. It occured to me working through this today that I am the main person who has been holding me back and making the negative comments. And considering the only person we can ever change is ourselves, I am in a pretty powerful place to do something about that1 Yippe!! 🙂

  3. I often feel like people sunk my little ship of dreams years ago. I let them get inside my head and feel like its too late to bother trying. I’ve had a few glimmers of hope lately but then my insecurities win out. Being confident and creating positive change isn’t going to happen overnight I guess. I just have to keep trying.

  4. I can’t believe those are your P J ‘S ,,,want some and those really cool boots . Loved the post and i’m working on it …it feels so good .
    Cherry x

  5. i am finding it so hard to spend any of my thought time on this homework…arghh! i don’t want to think about all those times…i think they are all fairly pushed down too -so it’s not just difficult because i don’t want to think about negativeness, i’m pretty sure i won’t find much…altho it will probably be there, hiding…

    • Go on, Chaquita! It’s usually when we’re in fierce resistance that we make a breakthrough. If you want to, draw your thoughts and feelings rather than using words. Or sing it out. Get creative. I know there’s a whole treasure trove inside you of good stuff. You just need to dig a little to uncover it. And don’t dwell on the negative. Look it in the eye and say ‘I’m not afraid of you anymore!!!!’ and then give blow it a kiss, give it a wave, or the finger or whatever works for you, and move on 😀 xx

      • thank you so much for the reply of support & encouragement! i DID get there. it felt good. i’m sure there is more but i did some & that’s good. now…i’m finding it very difficult to do the week 4 homework!! of what i can give up financially…hmmmm…..anyway, many thanks 🙂 Love chaquita

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