A little note from us…

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“Three things in life – your health, your mission, and the people you love. That’s it.”
~ Naval Ravikant

Hi Lovelies!

It is with great sadness that Nicole and her team have made the decision to cancel the Fairy Solstice High Tea Party on 22nd June.

With Nicole’s health being precarious at this time, the amount of energy she would need to expend for this event may just tip her over the edge and back into hospital…. Which is something we wish to avoid.

And so – as much as it pains us to cancel, please know that Nicole (and Sokli) SOOOOO value your support and understanding.

The online course and resources Nicole had mentioned in her Facebook Live events will still go ahead, so the juicy contents of this event will be made available to all in due course.

Should you have any questions or concerns, please don’t hesitate to contact me (Trish Nicole Cody PA) at nicolecodyinfo@gmail.com. I’m disappointed to not have the opportunity to connect with those of you coming to the event personally on this occasion but look forward to doing so in the future.

Much love and gratitude, from Nicole and her Team xx

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Shiny Unicorn Attack (Cos It Had To Happen…)

“Never laugh at live dragons.” ~ J R R Tolkien

So, I’m standing in a health food store yesterday, waiting while someone finds a product I’d ordered.

I’m miserable. My eyes are streaming and one is gummed closed. My face is blotchy and puffy. I have a UTI and a chest infection and I am herxing badly from Lyme die-off. I’m wearing an adult diaper under my jeans. I am wheezing and coughing. I’m in pain. I look like death. I feel like death. I’m sleep deprived. It’s not my best day. (see yesterday’s blog for the full update)

I’m so uncomfortable. To distract myself while they find my stuff I go for a wander through the aisles. I could use some new lip balm. A sales assistant sidles up beside me and asks me how I am. ‘Awesome,’ I respond.

She looks at me and I smile.

‘Ok,’ I add. ‘Not awesome, but I’m doing okay. Thanks for asking.’

And then she does it. She hits me with the big New Age Shiny Unicorn.

‘Your problem? It’s a mental thing,’ she says. ‘You created it and you’re in charge. Just use some positive affirmations and you can turn it all around. You’ll be feeling better in no time.’ She attempts to lead me towards a helpful display of positive thinking books and Louise Hay affirmation cards.

I had to seriously reign in my violent thoughts.

‘Actually,’ I say, ‘it’s not a mental thing. I’m in pain. A lot of pain. I’m quite unwell. I’m happy, and I have a great life and a lot of gratitude and a good attitude, but I also have pain. No amount of positive affirmations are going to fix that right now.’

She tries again, beaming at me. ‘Oh, come on. You won’t know if you don’t try! You’re a master manifestor who is just doing it wrong. What else is possible? How could you create a happier day?’

I’m sure I’ve wet my pants. I think I can feel urine trickling into my shoe. My skin feels like insects are biting me. I excuse myself and go back to the front counter.

After I’ve paid for my supplements I have a quiet word with the manager about her overly-cheerful staff member and explain the conversation I’ve just endured. The manager has the good grace to look horrified and we agree that some staff training might be appropriate.

Rant over. If you don’t know what the problem is here then refer to this blog post.

Hugs and love, cranky Nicole who is actually still mostly happy and with a good attitude xx

Why Being ‘Nice’ Can Be Poisonous To Your Soul


“Share your weaknesses. Share your hard moments. Share your real side. It’ll either scare away every fake person in your life or it will inspire them to finally let go of that mirage called “perfection,” which will open the doors to the most important relationships you’ll ever be a part of.” 
~ Dan Pearce

Lovelies, today I want to share my perspective on ‘making nice’ with you.

Kindness is a loving balm, understanding is a mental tonic, compassion grows our hearts, love is food for the soul, but niceness? Far too often niceness is a poison administered to ourselves by our own hand.

There is a trend (and I recognise it because I once was in that same place!) where people beginning to become spiritually aware try to live from a place of unconditional love. That’s a beautiful thing, but too often what gets practised is not actually unconditional love but ‘niceness’.

Many people consider niceness to be a virtue; a sign of living from heart, and acting from love. I’m not referring to kindness, or good manners, or amiability. I’m talking here about pleasing others, not wanting to hurt someone’s feelings, and being agreeable and amenable, even if it comes at a high cost to yourself.

Speaking our truth honours us, and it teaches us honest and direct communication that honours and respects others. Can we come from a place of unconditional love and still speak our truth? Absolutely! Because the premise of unconditional love is that we also love ourselves.

Authenticity requires us to live with honesty – not with silencing ourselves or suppressing our true thoughts and emotions.

Niceness is not about unconditional love – it is about giving up honesty in order to avoid disapproval, confrontation, rejection, ridicule or embarrassment. It elevates the happiness and well-being of others above your own. It is based on falseness, and by its nature, niceness prevents honesty and authenticity. When you come from niceness you teach others to devalue you, and disrespect you. You do not set clear boundaries.

Niceness does not come from a heart-centred life. It grows out of fear and a lack of self-worth. It is a behaviour that goes counter to our intuitive wisdom, and to those gut-based mechanisms that keep us safe.  We tell people what they want to hear, we do and say things to keep others happy or to keep the peace. We act in a way that pleases others but that robs us of a little (or a big bit!) of ourselves.

There is always a way to tell the difference between being nice and being kind.  Kindness comes from a place of being centred, and it empowers us.  It strengthens us, as it strengthens others. We can act with generosity or compassion and there is no cost to us, or it is a cost we willingly bear.  We give without expecting anything in return, for the sake of uplifting others.

Niceness always leaves you with an aftertaste – you know you have’t spoken truthfully; you feel that twang of inauthentic energy, that twinge of discomfort, or you even get that sense of being taken for granted or taken for a ride.

Niceness diminishes us, even when it strengthens others. We bite our tongue in order to say the flattering thing, we do the act with a little flame of resentment in our heart. And sometimes it starts out as kindness – but our kindness becomes expected, or disrepected – we are taken advantage of but we are unable to speak up about that and voice our own feelings. So we act nice instead.

When we choose niceness it poisons us.  It leads to depression, anxiety, shame, emotional distress, guilt, anger and despair.   Life-long patterns of niceness leave us open to exploitation and invite difficult, damaging and dangerous relationships into our lives.

We end up doing things we don’t want to do – we can become an entirely different person to who we are on the inside. We can lose ourselves so completely that we have no idea any more what makes us happy, what our preferences are, what we want in life…

Taken to extremes, through living a life of niceness we can cease to exist. Instead, we become a support role in someone else’s life. We become Cinderella, at home scrubbing the floors while her stepsisters are out having fun!

Are you too nice?

Maybe it’s time to start honouring your own truth. Love starts with the self, and healthy self-esteem can only be built by standing up for yourself, giving your feelings a voice, and attending to your own needs.  You can do that and still be polite.  You can do that and still be kind.  You can do that and still be likeable, lovable and accepted.  Don’t keep drinking that from that poisonous niceness bottle!

And if your acts of self-respect and kindness aren’t taken well by others? Maybe it’s time to  get some space, maybe it’s time to stop giving, maybe it’s time to move on… If you have to be ‘nice’ in order for your life to work, the price will always be too high.

You might be surprised. As you begin voicing your honest thoughts, you give others permission to do the same. Being authentic can create great change. It invites miracles. And this week supports that kind of energy, so be brave and embrace your truth then live from that space and watch the magic begin to happen in your life. Choose love. Choose kindness. And above all, be true to yourself. It’s worth it! 

Much love, Nicole ❤ xx

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Intuitive Oracle Card Reading Challenge – Day 8

“Sometimes you don’t know when you’re taking the first step through a door until you’re already inside.” ~ Ann Voskamp

 

Today’s the last day of our online Oracle Card Challenge. Thanks so much for having been a part of it!

For our final question, we’re throwing things open to the Universe and our own Inner Wisdom. Expect ah-ha moments, validation, breakthroughs and Divine Inspiration.

Remember that using cards is a way to access your intuition and inner knowing. If a card comes up that looks negative or upsetting, consider that this may be a situation which can now be healed, a pattern to be broken, or an issue that is coming to an end. Universal Guidance and our own intuition always and only speak from love. Trust that all messages will have a positive and useful insight to help you learn, heal or transcend.

Let’s get started!

Mini Meditation with your Crystal

Take your crystal, and complete this short guided meditation:

Hold your stone in your cupped hands, close your eyes, and slow your breathing. Bring white light into your body until you feel peaceful and calm. Then bring white light into the crystal too. Allow yourself to connect to the stone. You may feel it tingle, or you may experience colour, images or guiding thoughts. When you are ready, open your eyes.

Keep your stone near you, and hold it when you write. If any insights have already emerged take a moment to write them down!


Card of the Day – What’s the first and most important step I need to take to change my life?

This is an important question, although the answer may be simple. Honour this by taking a moment to centre yourself, to calm yourself, to become fully present. Then tune in to your heart.

Shuffle your cards, while silently asking the question to yourself  What’s the first and most important step I need to take to change my life?

When you have shuffled the cards and they feel ‘done’, select just one card. Place the card face up in front of you. Clear your mind by closing your eyes and taking one deep breath in and then out. Open your eyes again. Take a minute and look at the picture on the oracle or tarot card. What stands out for you? Is it an image or a colour? Is it a number or a word? What are your first impressions? Write these down in your journal.

Now let’s go a little deeper. What feelings or words does this card evoke in your mind when you think about the card and its images in relation to the question What’s the first and most important step I need to take to change my life? Take two minutes and just write some stream-of-consciousness thoughts down. Don’t censor or judge them. Trust the process. Finally, read back over what you have written.

Expect that more insights may come up for you during the day. Write anything important down in your journal so that you can continue to reflect upon it.


Question of The Day Three Card Spread (optional activity, if you have the time and inclination)

Trust that you’ve been shown something that is truly useful to you.

Return your Daily Card to the pack and shuffle the cards, asking the question ‘How can I best use this Insight?’  Choose three cards and lay them face down in front of you.

The card on the left is The Opportunity. The card in the middle is your Helpful Action. The card on the right is The Outcome.

1. Turn the first card over and let it give you insights into the opportunity and direction today’s information could create for you.

2. Turn the second card over. This card shows you the way forward. Let it show you what you can do, what choices you can make, actions you can take, to get you moving forward in a positive and aligned way to create momentum, progress or change.

3. Turn the third card over. This card will help you gain insights into how acting on this opportunity can potentially transform your life

Write notes in your journal if this is helpful.


Self-Care Action

Based on the insights you’ve received from today’s cards, what small action can you take today to look after yourself well and to show yourself nurture and kindness? Write that down in your journal and make sure to action it!


Where to from here?

Spend some time between now and the end of the year in reflection on the answers you have journaled. Build on the knowledge that you’ve accessed. Let it shape and inform your future decisions and life direction.

If you’d like extra support and a guidance system for the year ahead consider ordering one of my YOM Planners – which is a system for planning and living a mindful year using techniques similar to what you’ve practiced here. You can read all about those offerings and take advantage of our pre-launch bonuses by clicking here.

You’ll also enjoy my Mystical Manifesting Workshop on November 11, 2018. This workshop, co-facilitated with channelling with my energetic companions Silith and Rollo, utilises all of the rituals I use to close out one year and herald in the new one. We will guide you on a journey to open you up to your highest potential and clearest direction for 2019. You’ll learn:

  • An intuitive card reading to clear and learn from the energies of 2018
  • An intuitive card reading and journaling technique to determine your personal power and mystical energies for 2019
  • Creation of a personalised essential oil blend to support your mystical and personal powers for 2019
  • An intuitive card reading to establish a clear path forward for 2019
  • How to program a crystal as your 2019 Manifestation Stone
  • How to make a sacred symbolic lexicon
  • How to use your sacred symbolic lexicon to create a visionary talisman (like a Vision Board but SO much more powerful!) for 2019

You’ll be given a workbook, manifesting crystal and a personalised essential oil blend during this workshop. You will make your own Visionary Talisman to take home.

A delicious morning tea, lunch and afternoon tea will also be provided. Bookings Essential!

Cost: $265 adults

For tickets  Click Here

Sending you love, and my intention that these insights from the Oracle Card Challenge illuminate your life in positive ways,

Nicole ❤ xx

Intuitive Oracle Card Reading Challenge – Day 7

“Folks are usually about as happy as they make their minds up to be.” ~Abraham Lincoln

 

In these last few days of our Challenge we’re examining directions we can follow that will be meaningful and enjoyable for us.

Remember that using cards is a way to access your intuition and inner knowing. If a card comes up that looks negative or upsetting, consider that this may be a situation which can now be healed, a pattern to be broken, or an issue that is coming to an end. Universal Guidance and our own intuition always and only speak from love. Trust that all messages will have a positive and useful insight to help you learn, heal or transcend.

Each day’s Challenge will take the same format:

  1. Mini-meditation with your crystal
  2. Card of the Day
  3. Question of the Day Three card spread (optional)
  4. Self-Care action

Mini Meditation with your Crystal

Take your crystal, and complete this short guided meditation:

Hold your stone in your cupped hands, close your eyes, and slow your breathing. Bring white light into your body until you feel peaceful and calm. Then bring white light into the crystal too. Allow yourself to connect to the stone. You may feel it tingle, or you may experience colour, images or guiding thoughts. When you are ready, open your eyes.

Keep your stone near you, and hold it when you write. If any insights have already emerged take a moment to write them down!

Card of the Day – What will actually make me happy?

We have an incredible wisdom within us, informed by our soul, our intuition, our personality and our life experiences. Let that wisdom guide you now as you star to chart a way forward for yourself.

Shuffle your cards, while silently asking the question to yourself  What will actually make me happy?

When you have shuffled the cards and they feel ‘done’, select just one card. Place the card face up in front of you. Clear your mind by closing your eyes and taking one deep breath in and then out. Open your eyes again. Take a minute and look at the picture on the oracle or tarot card. What stands out for you? Is it an image or a colour? Is it a number or a word? What are your first impressions? Write these down in your journal.

Now let’s go a little deeper. What feelings or words does this card evoke in your mind when you think about the card and its images in relation to the question What will actually make me happy? Take two minutes and just write some stream-of-consciousness thoughts down. Don’t censor or judge them. Trust the process. Finally, read back over what you have written.

Expect that more insights may come up for you during the day. Write anything important down in your journal so that you can continue to reflect upon it.

Question of The Day Three Card Spread (optional activity, if you have the time and inclination)

Sometimes the things that will truly make our lives meaningful are obvious, and sometimes they’ve been hidden away under the overwhelm of life. Now it’s time to look at the opportunities we’re being shown in relation to our heart’s true desires.

Return your Daily Card to the pack and shuffle the cards, asking the question ‘How can I best use this Insight?’  Choose three cards and lay them face down in front of you.

The card on the left is The Opportunity. The card in the middle is your Helpful Action. The card on the right is The Outcome.

1. Turn the first card over and let it give you insights into the opportunity and direction today’s information could create for you.

2. Turn the second card over. This card shows you the way forward. Let it show you what you can do, what choices you can make, actions you can take, to get you moving forward in a positive and aligned way to create momentum, progress or change.

3. Turn the third card over. This card will help you gain insights into how acting on this opportunity can potentially transform your life

Write notes in your journal if this is helpful.

Self-Care Action

Based on the insights you’ve received from today’s cards, what small action can you take today to look after yourself well and to show yourself nurture and kindness? Write that down in your journal and make sure to action it!

Sending you love, and my intention that these insights from the Oracle Card Challenge illuminate your life in positive ways,

Nicole ❤ xx

Upcoming Events

If you’re looking for some extra support for your spiritual and creative flow come check out my upcoming Pop-Up ShopChannelling Night and One Day Workshops in Brisbane 9-11 November. I’ll be teaching half-day workshops about fairies and how to create your own portable Fairy Garden, as well as basic sacred geometry and Crystal Gridding Skills to support you for 2019. My one-day Mystical Manifesting Workshop utilises all of the rituals I use to close out one year and herald in the new one. I will guide you on a journey to open you up to your highest potential and clearest direction for 2019 (and I am so excited about this workshop I could spontaneously break out into a happy dance!). No matter what level you’re at I’ll have something for you on my program. More details here!

Intuitive Oracle Card Reading Challenge – Day 4

“Within you lies your strength.”
~Lailah Gifty Akita

 

Over the next few days we’re looking at the things we’ve forgotten or are neglecting that could bring meaning, wellness or peace back into our lives.

Remember that using cards is a way to access your intuition and inner knowing. If a card comes up that looks negative or upsetting, consider that this may be a situation which can now be healed, a pattern to be broken, or an issue that is coming to an end. Universal Guidance and our own intuition always and only speak from love. Trust that all messages will have a positive and useful insight to help you learn, heal or transcend.

Each day’s Challenge will take the same format:

  1. Mini-meditation with your crystal
  2. Card of the Day
  3. Question of the Day Three card spread (optional)
  4. Self-Care action

Mini Meditation with your Crystal

Take your crystal, and complete this short guided meditation:

Hold your stone in your cupped hands, close your eyes, and slow your breathing. Bring white light into your body until you feel peaceful and calm. Then bring white light into the crystal too. Allow yourself to connect to the stone. You may feel it tingle, or you may experience colour, images or guiding thoughts. When you are ready, open your eyes.

Keep your stone near you, and hold it when you write. If any insights have already emerged take a moment to write them down!

Card of the Day – What Have I forgotten or neglected that could help me with living a more fulfilling life right now? 

Your body knows, your soul knows, but sometimes the mind forgets! Today’s card will help you to tune in to something important that can support your health and wellbeing in the days ahead.

Now shuffle your cards, while silently asking the question to yourself  ‘What Have I forgotten or neglected that could help me with living a more fulfilling life right now?’

When you have shuffled the cards and they feel ‘done’, select just one card. Place the card face up in front of you. Clear your mind by closing your eyes and taking one deep breath in and then out. Open your eyes again. Take a minute and look at the picture on the oracle or tarot card. What stands out for you? Is it an image or a colour? Is it a number or a word? What are your first impressions? Write these down in your journal.

Now let’s go a little deeper. What feelings or words does this card evoke in your mind when you think about the card and its images in relation to the question ‘What Have I forgotten or neglected that could help me live a more fulfilling life right now?’ Take two minutes and just write some stream-of-consciousness thoughts down. Don’t censor or judge them. Trust the process. Finally, read back over what you have written.

Expect that more insights may come up for you during the day. Write anything important down in your journal so that you can continue to reflect upon it.

Question of The Day Three Card Spread (optional activity, if you have the time and inclination)

Now we have an idea of what we have been neglecting or have forgotten that can help us with having a more fulfilling life it’s useful to understand what has led us to be in this starting position. What is the background to this current situation in our life?

Return your Daily Card to the pack and shuffle the cards, asking the question ‘How Did I Get Here?’  Choose three cards and lay them face down in front of you.

The card on the left is The Issue. The card in the middle is your Helpful Action. The card on the right is The Learning.

1. Turn the first card over and let it give you insights into the issues/choices/actions that led to you being where you are now.

2.  Turn the second card over. This card shows you the way forward. Let it show you what you can do, what choices you can make, actions you can take, to get you moving forward in a positive and aligned way to bring healing or progress or change.

3.  Turn the third card over. This card will help you gain insights into how to avoid a repeat of a problem, how to break patterns or change your thoughts around this situation, or which things to keep doing so that your life works better for you in the future based on the current situation.

Write notes in your journal if this is helpful.

Self-Care Action

Based on the insights you’ve received from today’s cards, what small action can you take today to look after yourself well and to show yourself nurture and kindness? Write that down in your journal and make sure to action it!

Sending you love, and my intention that these insights from the Oracle Card Challenge illuminate your life in positive ways,

Nicole ❤ xx

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Intuitive Oracle Card Reading Challenge – Day 3

“Wellness encompasses a healthy body, a sound mind and a tranquil spirit. Enjoy the journey as you strive for wellness.”
~
Laurette Gagnon Beaulieu

 

Over the next few days we’re looking at the things we’ve forgotten or are neglecting that could bring meaning, wellness or peace back into our lives.

Remember that using cards is a way to access your intuition and inner knowing. If a card comes up that looks negative or upsetting, consider that this may be a situation which can now be healed, a pattern to be broken, or an issue that is coming to an end. Universal Guidance and our own intuition always and only speak from love. Trust that all messages will have a positive and useful insight to help you learn, heal or transcend.

Each day’s Challenge will take the same format:

  1. Mini-meditation with your crystal
  2. Card of the Day
  3. Question of the Day Three card spread (optional)
  4. Self-Care action

Mini Meditation with your Crystal

Take your crystal, and complete this short guided meditation:

Hold your stone in your cupped hands, close your eyes, and slow your breathing. Bring white light into your body until you feel peaceful and calm. Then bring white light into the crystal too. Allow yourself to connect to the stone. You may feel it tingle, or you may experience colour, images or guiding thoughts. When you are ready, open your eyes.

Keep your stone near you, and hold it when you write. If any insights have already emerged take a moment to write them down!

Card of the Day – What Have I forgotten or neglected that could help me with my relationship with myself right now?

Your body knows, your soul knows, but sometimes the mind forgets! Today’s card will help you to tune in to something important that can support your health and wellbeing in the days ahead.

Now shuffle your cards, while silently asking the question to yourself  ‘What Have I forgotten or neglected that could help me with my relationship with myself right now?’

When you have shuffled the cards and they feel ‘done’, select just one card. Place the card face up in front of you. Clear your mind by closing your eyes and taking one deep breath in and then out. Open your eyes again. Take a minute and look at the picture on the oracle or tarot card. What stands out for you? Is it an image or a colour? Is it a number or a word? What are your first impressions? Write these down in your journal.

Now let’s go a little deeper. What feelings or words does this card evoke in your mind when you think about the card and its images in relation to the question ‘What Have I forgotten or neglected that could help me with my relationship with myself right now?’ Take two minutes and just write some stream-of-consciousness thoughts down. Don’t censor or judge them. Trust the process. Finally, read back over what you have written.

Expect that more insights may come up for you during the day. Write anything important down in your journal so that you can continue to reflect upon it.

Question of The Day Three Card Spread (optional activity, if you have the time and inclination)

Now we have an idea of what we have been neglecting or have forgotten that can help us with our relationship with ourself it’s useful to understand what has led us to be in this starting position. What is the background to this current situation in our life?

Return your Daily Card to the pack and shuffle the cards, asking the question ‘How Did I Get Here?’  Choose three cards and lay them face down in front of you.

The card on the left is The Issue. The card in the middle is your Helpful Action. The card on the right is The Learning.

1.     Turn the first card over and let it give you insights into the issues/choices/actions that led to you being where you are now.

2.     Turn the second card over. This card shows you the way forward. Let it show you what you can do, what choices you can make, actions you can take, to get you moving forward in a positive and aligned way to bring healing or progress or change.

3.     Turn the third card over. This card will help you gain insights into how to avoid a repeat of a problem, how to break patterns or change your thoughts around this situation, or which things to keep doing so that your life works better for you in the future based on the current situation.

Write notes in your journal if this is helpful.

Self-Care Action

Based on the insights you’ve received from today’s cards, what small action can you take today to look after yourself well and to show yourself nurture and kindness? Write that down in your journal and make sure to action it!

Sending you love, and my intention that these insights from the Oracle Card Challenge illuminate your life in positive ways,

Nicole ❤ xx

 

Upcoming Events

If you’re looking for some extra support for your spiritual and creative flow come check out my upcoming Pop-Up Shop, Channelling Night and One Day Workshops in Brisbane 9-11 November. I’ll be teaching half-day workshops about fairies and how to create your own portable Fairy Garden, as well as basic sacred geometry and Crystal Gridding Skills to support you for 2019. My one-day Mystical Manifesting Workshop utilises all of the rituals I use to close out one year and herald in the new one. I will guide you on a journey to open you up to your highest potential and clearest direction for 2019 (and I am so excited about this workshop I could spontaneously break out into a happy dance!). No matter what level you’re at I’ll have something for you on my program. More details here!

Recharge You and Your Chakras in Five Minutes!

“Are you managing your energy well and using it for things that matter? Do you stop to recharge before you push yourself to critically low levels? Unplug to recharge.” 
Susan C. Young

Chakras are energetic gateways or portals. Each has its own colour, and governs different areas and emotions within the body. I have meditated on each of the following images, and programmed each picture to energise, open, balance and heal your chakras.

How to use today’s blog:

  1. Slowly scroll down the page, gazing at each picture in turn.
  2. Notice which picture (or pictures) is more vibrant and attractive to you.
  3. Go back to that image (images) and spend a little longer.  Draw that colour deep into your body.  See if any words, impressions, emotions or images come up for you. You might even want to use that as the beginning of a journalling activity. These colours will feed and energise your chakras and are great indicators of what chakras are already flowing and working well or in the process of opening and healing.
  4. Also pay attention to any pictures that seem very flat and energetically unappealing. Note what chakra that picture relates to.  Once again see if any words, impressions, emotions or images come up for you. This flat energy will correspond to chakras that are blocked, stagnant or stuck.  Send them some white light and a little extra love.
  5. Run your eyes over the images again.  See if there is any change.  Eventually you’ll find that all of the pictures have an equal brightness as you come back into balance.

Base Chakra: Foundation, survival, security, safety, energy, money, grounding, physicality

Image of erupting volcano from styleofeye.com

Sacral Chakra: Creativity, well-being, sexuality, emotional expression, abundance, pleasure

Orange Flower by kamussen at deviantart.com

Solar Plexus Chakra: Self esteem, individuality, self-worth, self confidence, personal authority, I am

Yellow Marigolds image from jpegwallpapers.com

Heart Chakra: Love for self and others, inner peace, joy, giving and receiving

This gorgeous image from animalspot.net

Throat Chakra: Speaking your truth, asking for what you need, all forms of communication

This image from funxite.com

Third Eye Chakra: Imagination, intuition, vision, wisdom, innovation, decision making, spiritual connection 

Image from indianinthemachine.wordpress.com

Crown Chakra: Divine Connection, spirituality, bliss, purity, consciousness, unity, BEing

I’d love to know how this activity felt for you – so please feel free to share any of your experiences by leaving a comment below.  Much love to you, and all of my intentions, blessings and well-wishes for you to feel energised, balanced and harmonised.

Lots of love, Nicole  xx

Flower of Life – from jyoshita.com

Are you taking care of you?

 “Nourishing yourself in a way that helps you blossom in the direction you want to go is attainable, and you are worth the effort.” 
~ Deborah Day

 

Many of my friends are healers. They come from widely different schools and philosophies of healing – general medical practitioners, environmental medicine specialists, acupuncturists, naturopaths, herbalists, body workers, nutritionalists and all manner of other modalities. Over the past twenty years all of them have observed one thing; the number of people suffering long-term chronic illness, digestive issues, stress-related health issues and fatigue has soared. Not only that, many of the simple treatments that once worked so well for bringing people back into balance no longer are as effective.

Why?

There are many external factors – more exposure to pollutants and chemicals, little exercise, poorer diet, less sunshine.

But even when these things are addressed many people are slow to heal. I, and many of my learned practitioner friends, believe at least part of this is to do with the state of mind we are in.

There have been numerous studies done which show that when a person is relaxed the surface tension of their skin changes. Their blood pressure lowers, their heart slows, the chemicals responsible for sleep, blood sugar and hormonal balance rise and stabilise. In a place of relaxation people become more creative, more connected, happier, more adept at innovative thinking and problem solving. In a place of relaxation our bodies find it far easier to heal. It is impossible to think a negative thought when you are in a deeply relaxed state.

What does negative thinking have to do with my health?

Go ahead. Think of something that really makes you mad. Or powerless. Feel the changes take place in your body. You will feel heavier, there will be a sense of tension in your face and body. You may have a surge of adrenalin or a sudden draining away of energy. Your heart speeds up, you may feel clammy and hot, agitated or ill. This is not your imagination – this is your body’s autonomic response to your thoughts. This is a natural reaction to perceived stress within your body. Worry, stress, fear, panic, over-thinking; this is what is stopping you from healing.

Over time, this sort of thinking has a destructive impact on the body. It exhausts our adrenals. It puts pressure on our thyroid and other parts of our endocrine system. Our liver becomes stressed and congested and can’t function as well as it used to as it deals with the flood of naturally occurring chemicals WE have created in our body through the stress response.

In this place of adrenal depletion we can become addicted to caffeine, energy drinks, sugar and carbs to keep us functioning.

The blood is always in our extremities as we ready ourselves to fight or flee (the stress response once again) so our digestion slows and becomes impaired. Even if we gain weight we may still be massively malnourished, and our body may struggle to absorb supplements, herbs and better food.

We may resort to anti-depressants or sleeping pills. We may self-medicate with drugs or alcohol. Or we may just go through life exhausted, sick and not coping but needing to get up and get on with it each day.

Our sleep becomes affected, and that avenue of healing becomes further reduced. No matter who we see, or what we try nothing seems to work. Or it doesn’t work for long.

Sound familiar?

If you are living with stress and anxiety, if there is something or someone in your life, orfrom your past, that causes you to feel unsafe, inadequate, fearful, anxious, angry, resentful, or shamed… then it’s going to be an uphill battle to become well and stay well.

Positive emotions impact your health positively. Negative emotions impact your life negatively.

The longer a negative emotion is the ugly background wallpaper in your life, the more you get accustomed to it, but don’t be fooled. It will still be affecting you. And not in a good way.

Let me repeat an important point. It is impossible to experience a negative emotion when you are in a relaxed state.

What this means for your health is simple. When you are relaxed, your body can know healing. When you are relaxed your body can do what it needs to do to put itself back into balance, and to put you back into flow, connection and clarity.

So, by all means find yourself a skilled healer, a physician, or a team to put your body back together. But remember you also need to do your part. You need to take care of the housekeeping of your mind.

Do things that relax you. Practice meditation, yoga or tai chi. Listen to music. Go for walks in nature.Take the dog! Make time for YOU in your life. Do the things that give you peace. Find people, places and activities that nourish, validate and support you.

Let go of what no longer serves you in your life.

And if you need to, seek a counsellor, psychologist, psychiatrist – someone trained in helping you undo what has bound you up in knots.

I know this to be true: When your mind can know peace, your body can know healing – or at the very least an improvement in pain levels and quality of life.

Honour your body, work with your mind, and live from your heart. Your body has an infinite wisdom, and that wisdom is free to reign when we are in a place of relaxation and ease. Do all you can to find or create that peaceful place within you. Healing can then be a natural flow-on effect of that energy.

Here are some guided meditations that may help you:

Nicole Cody’s Bee Breath Meditation
Nicole Cody’s Meditation for Inner Peace
Nicole Cody’s Guided Meditation for Reducing Stress
Guided Meditation to reduce pain and promote healing

Sending much love your way, Nicole ❤ xx

Me, Flu and You!

 

“There are in nature neither rewards nor punishments — there are consequences.” 
Robert G. Ingersoll

You might have noticed I’ve dropped off the face of the Earth these past few weeks.

There’s a reason for that.

I’ve just come face-to-face with a very nasty strain of influenza.

For most people flu is a mild illness that causes sore throat, runny nose, fever and chills which last several days. But for people like me who are immuno-compromised and for other high-risk categories such as the very young, the elderly and people suffering from chronic illness or underlying health conditions such as asthma and diabetes, influenza can be a very different illness.

If you’ve only recently arrived at my blog you might not know that I suffer from late-stage lyme disease, multi-organ and system compromise, and ongoing heart issues among other things. I’ve been to hell and back with my health and more than once in the past few decades the dark bird of death has sat companionably on my shoulder.

Still, I’m so much better now. These past few months I’ve been the strongest and most vital I have been in years. My improved health is the result of a great team, a regime, ongoing management and many, many hours of my life. Most of that hard work is invisible to the world. Instead what I hear is how great I look these days. Thanks. I’m working on it! 35 years worth of working on it, and counting…

When you don’t live in the world of chronic illness you might not realise that even when we look and feel well we usually have ongoing issues we are managing and our underlying immune systems may be weak. If our immune systems are in fact stronger than they have been it still only takes a few bad nights of limited sleep, of stress or of us overdoing our physical energetic limits for us to end up in a place where it is so much easier for us to succumb to infections. Sometimes we succumb anyway, even when we are healthy, because our immunity is just not as strong as other members of the community.

So that’s where Influenza A H3N2 (also known as Aussie Flu) and I collided a few weeks ago.

I’m hypervigilant when it comes to germs. I never touch my face, especially when we’re out. I wash my hands well, and always before eating. If I’m out I’ll use a hand sanitiser before eating and after using a shopping cart or touching any surfaces. On planes and in confined spaces I’ll wear a bamboo fabric mask impregnated with anti-bacterial and anti-microbial essential oils. I avoid people who are ill, and will avoid crowds and places that might put me at a higher risk of infection. I’ve managed to travel overseas, go to festivals and events and to holiday well several times, all without becoming ill and even as those around me have been sick – which I put down to me being vigilant and also having a great medical team caring for me from week to week.

So how did I get sick this time?

A client came to my home while she was recovering from having been very unwell. She didn’t disclose this to me and as she greeted me she coughed directly into my face. She was less than thirty centimetres away from me and her spittle covered my face and went into my eyes. She laughed, a little embarrassed, and wiped at my face with her hands. ‘Sorry, Love,’ she said, ‘just getting over the flu.’

My heart sank. But I tried to be hopeful that nothing would eventuate.

Less than twenty-four hours later I developed a sore throat. My glands came up in my neck, groin and armpits. Within a few hours I had a raging fever and could barely stand. I cancelled the rest of my week and put myself to bed, hoping that rest and an aggressive regime of herbs and Vitamin C might limit the damage and have me up again in a few days.

None of that helped. Overnight I deteriorated in a way that really scared me. I went from high fevers to chills and back to fevers again, was so weak I couldn’t sit upright, my throat inflamed and swollen so it felt like swallowing razor blades, my entire body ached, and I had a stabbing headache bad enough that I lost vision in my left eye. Eventually I could barely breathe, and my heart went into tachycardia. Add in chest pain and vomiting. Yep, awful!

I stayed like that for days, alternating between sleep and delirium. My doctors and cardiologist checked me out and decided I was better managed at home to avoid the risk of pneumonia and advised me to only come back to the hospital if my heart rate went to a certain level and stayed there over an extended time, or if my chest pain or breathing difficulties became too severe.

The last fortnight has been scary and hard, especially with all of the chest pain and arrhythmias. If I am honest I’ve also struggled psychologically with being so ill again after having felt on top of the world just a few weeks ago.

I’m through the worst of it now. A year ago this infection may have killed me (and yes, every day I give thanks for having such awesome doctors in my life, and my amazing local GP-acupuncturist and team whom I’m convinced are my secret weapon in the return to vitality from Lyme – thanks Dr Adam and Jodi!).

My symptoms are slowly easing, although my heart is still misbehaving. I currently look like I went one too many rounds in the boxing ring with a hefty opponent. And I’m earth-shatteringly exhausted. I have no energy for anything at all.

That’s how I know I’m still unwell. All I want to do is sleep. And that’s how I’ll know when I am better. I’ll be itching to get up and do something!

Meanwhile I have made a promise to Ben, my staff and my doctors that I will respect the flu and keep resting. I will not come back to full-on life too quickly. I will not overdo it and set myself back.

So, that’s where I’ve been. You know it’s never good news when I go quiet…

Think you might have the flu? Stay home and in bed if you can. Rest and keep up your fluid intake. Please, if you’re unwell spare a thought for others whose immune systems might not be as robust as yours. Practice good hand hygiene, cover your mouth when you cough, cover your nose when you sneeze, and don’t leave used tissues lying around. If you know someone who is pregnant, elderly, very young or who has a health issue avoid them while you’re unwell.  Seek medical advice or go to hospital if you spike and sustain a high fever, have trouble breathing or become breathless, if you have chest pain or severe abdominal pain, if you become dizzy or confused or if you have sudden severe vomiting. Not sick? Think about getting the flu vaccination, especially if you are in a high-risk category.

Thanks to everyone who has sent messages and checked up on me. I’m so grateful for your love and support. I promise I’ll be back on deck just as soon as I have my doctors’ blessings and enough energy to share with all of you as well as having enough for myself. Another week or two and I’m sure I’ll be just fine!

Biggest hugs and love, Nicole xx