“To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all.”
~ Oscar Wilde
I’m working today, conducting some psychic appointments. There’s such a joy for me in that – both the joy of spiritual connection, and the joy of being of service.
And I’m also choosing to be extra kind to myself today. Why? Because I’m unwell still? Partly. But it’s much more than that. In fact I felt the need to blog about it because so many people tell me that they either don’t feel deserving of putting themselves as a priority in their own lives or they don’t really even know HOW to treat themselves well.
I was once notorious for NOT treating myself well. I’d drive myself into the ground, pick myself up and then do it all again.
How can I ever reach sustainable heights if I’m flying with broken wings?
Now I make a concerted effort at the start of every day, or as I go to bed the night before, to identify five things I can do that will be a kindness for myself. I look for ways to comfort, nurture, support, relax, ease my burdens or to create moments of stillness. (Pssst: Wanna know a secret? I prefer to be clear about how I’ll be kind to myself and list these things so that I actually do them. Otherwise my day might go by in a blur and I won’t have done a single thing for myself at all…)
Treating ourselves as precious and worthy sends a strong message to the Universe that we ARE precious and worthy. It helps magnetize us to relationships and opportunities that treat us with respect, with goodness and with integrity.
Treating ourselves with kindness fills up our cup, so that we can more sustainably keep giving to others. And I know how many of you are big givers, how much you support others, and how many demands you have upon your time.
Lovelies, treating yourself with kindness keeps you sane, helps you cope, and makes even the hardest days more bearable. And on the good days, your world will take on a new luminosity and grace. Things will simply flow better.
Treating ourselves well might feel odd at first, or even wildly wrong – especially if we have entrenched patterns of self-sabotage or low self esteem. But I promise it gets easier, and after a while it even begins to feel good.
Here’s how I’m being kind to myself today:
- Yoga breathing and meditation to start my morning while I burn a favourite aromatherapy oil blend.
- Early coffee with a friend for hugs and a catch up. (See you soon! xx)
- Home-made Thai pumpkin soup and salad for lunch and a half-hour sit in the sunshine doing perfectly nothing – with Bert the dog for company.
- An epsom salts bath with lots of lovely fairy-approved crystals at the end of my working day to ground, cleanse and relax.
- I’m then planning an early night, tucked up in bed with a good book (Inga Simpson’s Mr Wigg), before I head off to see my Lyme Doctor tomorrow.
How about you? How will you be kind to yourself today?
So often we have advice for our family and friends about self-nurture and the need to take care of themselves. Isn’t it about time we did the same?
Remember to talk kindly to yourself too. More gets done with love and encouragement than angry words, blame and meanness.