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It’s Okay To Ask for Help
Problems are not the problem; coping is the problem. ~ Virginia Satir Hey, Lovelies. I know, I know. You are great at helping others. So good at it. You are also good at advising others to seek help. Because, we all need it from time to time, right? I also know that when we […]
Advice for strong people who are overwhelmed or not coping right now
“Courage isn’t having the strength to go on – it is going on when you don’t have strength.” ― Napoleon Bonaparte Hey, Lovelies! *Let me preface this by saying that I am okay, and that I have good boundaries in place, excellent support, and I am in a great headspace. I wrote this not for […]
Inviting Stillness…
When I dance, I dance, when I sleep, I sleep; yes, and when I walk in a beautiful orchard , if my thoughts drift too far off matters for some part of the time, for some other part I led them back again to the walk, the orchard, the sweetness of this solitude, to myself. […]
Empty
The best thing about the bedroom was the bed. I liked to stay in bed for hours, even during the day with covers pulled up to my chin. It was good in there, nothing ever occurred in there, no people, nothing. Charles Bukowski Lovelies, my lovelies, it’s important to know when to push ahead. But […]
Questions To Empower You On Your Health Journey
Health is physical. It’s how our body feels, how it moves, how it responds to things, how it behaves. It’s our mobility, our energy levels, our vitality when we get out of bed in the morning, our capacity to respond to stress, our ability to fall asleep and stay asleep each night. It’s how our body reacts to foods, smells, chemicals, mould. It’s our immune systems and our sensitivities. It is teeth and bones and muscles and gut and fertility and skin and eyes and ears and so many moving parts. Moving parts we usually only notice when they aren’t working so well all of a sudden.
I’m Not Ashamed
When I was first diagnosed with neurological incontinence (which comes and goes in me – I last had an attack a few years ago!) I looked everywhere for information and found almost none. It’s something no-one talks about.
Shiny Unicorn Attack (Cos It Had To Happen…)
“Never laugh at live dragons.” ~ J R R Tolkien So, I’m standing in a health food store yesterday, waiting while someone finds a product I’d ordered. I’m miserable. My eyes are streaming and one is gummed closed. My face is blotchy and puffy. I have a UTI and a chest infection and I am […]
Why Being ‘Nice’ Can Be Poisonous To Your Soul
“Share your weaknesses. Share your hard moments. Share your real side. It’ll either scare away every fake person in your life or it will inspire them to finally let go of that mirage called “perfection,” which will open the doors to the most important relationships you’ll ever be a part of.” ~ Dan Pearce Lovelies, today I […]
How to Self-Care When Life Is Challenging!
“Self-care is how you take your power back.” ~ Lalah Delia It’s simple enough to be well-intentioned and kind to yourself when life is going smoothly. Or if you are on holidays. Or in a really good head space. But when we are hard up against it – when we have crushing deadlines, or horrible […]
Coffee Trumps Blogging
“Are you ready?” Klaus asked finally. “No,” Sunny answered. “Me neither,” Violet said, “but if we wait until we’re ready we’ll be waiting for the rest of our lives, Let’s go.” ~ Lemony Snicket Cafe Dog has had a hard time of it lately. While I’ve been feeling so poorly there have been no […]
10 Easy Steps For Self Care During Troubled Times
“They called her witch because she knew how to heal herself.” ~ Te’ V. Smith It’s simple enough to be well-intentioned and kind to yourself when life is going smoothly. Or if you are on holidays. Or in a really good head space. But when we are hard up against it – when we have crushing […]
It’s Phone A Friend Day
“True friends walk in when the rest of the world has walked out.” ~ Walter Winchell There’s no great governing body that has declared today Phone A Friend Day. No. Sorry. It’s just me. But still, I think it’s a good idea, and I hope you pay attention and adopt this worthy challenge. In a […]
Seeking Help Is Not Failure
“You are never strong enough that you don’t need help.” ~ César Chávez I had a long chat with a close friend yesterday. She’s been struggling for a while – I’ve heard it in her voice, I’ve seen it in the way her usual happy disposition had given way to a furrowed brow, a […]
Sometimes You Need to Be The Lighthouse
“There are times when the ocean is not the ocean – not blue, not even water, but some violent explosion of energy and danger: ferocity on a scale only gods can summon. It hurls itself at the island, sending spray right over the top of the lighthouse, biting pieces off the cliff. And the sound […]
5 Ways to Be Kind to Yourself Today
“To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all.” ~ Oscar Wilde I’m working today, conducting some psychic appointments. There’s such a joy for me in that – both the joy of spiritual connection, and the joy of being of service. And I’m also choosing to be extra kind to […]
Join Me for a Magical Carpet Ride?
“Logic will get you from A to Z; imagination will get you everywhere.” ~ Albert Einstein I’m a firm believer in the power of imagination. Connecting in to pleasurable memories, imaginings or visualisations has a proven positive affect upon our mood, our creative ability and our energetic vibration. It reduces stress, inflammation and anxiety and helps […]
Sometimes You Just Need to Take a Deep Breath…
“You have to just relax, calm down, take a deep breath and try to see how you can make things work rather than complain about how they’re wrong.” ~ Tom Welling We’ve all been there. Disappointments. Things that don’t go to plan. Endings we weren’t expecting. Futures that don’t conform to what we’d been led […]
Thoughts on Housekeeping
If your house is really a mess and a stranger comes to the door, greet him with, “Who could have done this? We have no enemies.” ~ Phyllis Diller I’m finally home at my beautiful farm. We arrived early yesterday morning, and I enjoyed a whole sunshiny day at home, doing homey kinds of things. I’d […]
Reminding yourself why…
“Difficult things take a long time, impossible things a little longer.” ~ Author Unknown Sometimes the thing we need to do isn’t pleasant, isn’t fun, isn’t anything we really want to do. Or it might have started out easy, and fun, and then suddenly we reach the hard bit! Now, to get to where we […]
Chronically ill and Happy!
“The individual who says it is not possible should move out of the way of those doing it.” ~ Tricia Cunningham I’m not happy because I have a chronic illness – I’m happy because I still love my life! It’s possible, and in fact I think it’s necessary, to find happiness when life has dealt […]
Self Care isn’t Selfish
“Nourishing yourself in a way that helps you blossom in the direction you want to go is attainable, and you are worth the effort.” ~ Deborah Day A friend of mine has finally taken time out from her crazy over-giving-to-everyone-else-but-herself life to focus on her health. She’s run herself ragged, and her poor body […]
Meanwhile, back in Lymeland, an Owl showed up!
“The universe is full of magical things, patiently waiting for our wits to grow sharper.” ~ Eden Philpotts I’m sorry to keep you hanging for my Owl and Orchard Man Story, and for my ongoing adventures in the Kimberley. Truth is, I’m just not up to writing much right now. So instead, I shall share […]
My story, interrupted!
“Nourishing yourself in a way that helps you blossom in the direction you want to go is attainable, and you are worth the effort.” ~ Deborah Day I was going to keep writing about owls and fairies and those sorts of things, but I can’t this morning. Instead I have to go to work. Psychic […]
Healing Old Hurts
“We are often haunted by important relationships from the past that influence us unconsciously in the present. As we work them through, they go from haunting us to becoming simply part of our history.” ~ Norman Doidge, The Brain That Changes Itself: Stories of Personal Triumph from the Frontiers of Brain Science Why is it that […]
Simple ways to make your week look better
“We must not, in trying to think about how we can make a big difference, ignore the small daily differences we can make which, over time, add up to big differences that we often cannot foresee.” ~ Marian Wright Edelman Another Monday’s rolling around and that means that you have the opportunity, in small ways, […]
On illness and being unreliable…
“I’m a very loyal and unreliable friend.” ~ Bono One of the issues you need to deal with when you or a family member lives with chronic illness is your unreliability factor. When I speak of chronic illness, I am talking about any condition that lasts for more than a few weeks, that doesn’t conform […]
Making My Life Work for Me – Week 5
“Holding on is believing that there’s only a past; letting go is knowing that there’s a future.” ~ Daphne Rose Kingma “There’s an important difference between giving up and letting go.” ~ Jessica Hatchigan Welcome to Week 5 of our six week Making My Life Work for Me Program. (If you’ve only just stumbled upon us, pop […]
How to do Tonglen Meditation – a Beginner’s Guide
“No one is useless in this world who lightens the burdens of another.” ~ Charles Dickens At times it is easy to feel small and insignificant – unable to help when all we feel in our hearts is an urge to try. When those we know are suffering, or when there is a catastrophe in another […]
Sometimes you get there faster by going slow
“If you’re having difficulty coming up with new ideas, then slow down. For me, slowing down has been a tremendous source of creativity. It has allowed me to open up — to know that there’s life under the earth and that I have to let it come through me in a new way. Creativity exists […]
How to take a Blessings Bath
“The unthankful heart discovers no mercies; but the thankful heart will find, in every hour, some heavenly blessings.” ~ Henry Ward Beecher Today’s post is all about nurture. I want to share with you a process that I call a Blessings Bath. I usually take a Blessings Bath when I am feeling anything but blessed; when […]
Howling at the Moon
Those are the same stars, and that is the same moon, that look down upon your brothers and sisters, and which they see as they look up to them, though they are ever so far away from us, and each other. ~ Sojourner Truth It’s 2 o’clock in the morning and I’m wide awake; fretful […]
Honouring your Intuition – Why aren’t you doing it?
second-guess: definition: Second guess is defined as to question a decision or action that has already been completed. (verb) An example of second guess is when you make a decision and then you start to think about it a little more and decide another decision might have been better. ~ Websters New World College Dictionary We’ve […]
Remembering to take care of YOU!
“Right in the difficult we must have our joys, our happiness, our dreams: there against the depth of this background, they stand out, there for the first time we see how beautiful they are.” ~ Rainer Maria Rilke Recently I received a message from a lovely lady, asking about balance: I thought of you […]
My Favourite Crystals for Grounding
“In my opinion, it’s more interesting to see magic happening in a world that feels grounded. If the world is already crazy, then anything can happen. So it’s better to start with something real.” ~ Michel Gondry Being grounded is all about being centered within our body, having a sense of calm, and enjoying a deep connection […]
Enhance Your Creativity
“To be creative means to be in love with life. You can be creative only if you love life enough that you want to enhance its beauty, you want to bring a little more music to it, a little more poetry to it, a little more dance to it.” ~ Osho Sometimes life loses its shine, and gets […]
When the Muse vanishes – thoughts on the loss of creativity
“Creativity is our true nature; blocks are an unnatural thwarting of a process at once as normal and as miraculous as the blossoming of a flower at the end of a slender green stem.” ~ Julia Cameron If you’ve ever had some sort of creative block, where the juices stop flowing and the ideas dry […]
10 Ways To Be A Friend
“A friend is one of the nicest things you can have, and one of the best things you can be.” ~ Douglas Pagels After I posted about receiving all of the lovely letters and packages in my mail a few days ago (most in response to me being unwell), I had a number of […]
Inviting Stillness…
“When I dance, I dance, when I sleep, I sleep; yes, and when I walk in a beautiful orchard , if my thoughts drift too far off matters for some part of the time, for some other part I led them back again to the walk, the orchard, the sweetness of this solitude, to myself.” […]
Sad Unicorns OR Is your New-Age Thinking Positively Unhelpful?
“Great heroes need great sorrows and burdens, or half their greatness goes unnoticed. It is all part of the fairy tale.” ~ Peter S. Beagle, The Last Unicorn “People are afraid of themselves, of their own reality; their feelings most of all. People talk about how great love is, but that’s bullshit. Love hurts. Feelings are disturbing. […]
Cups of Tea and Connection – A Challenge!
“A friend is one of the nicest things you can have, and one of the best things you can be.” ~ Douglas Pagels Today I have a small challenge for you. It will only take five minutes, although you’re welcome to spend longer. My challenge goes like this: Take 5 minutes out of your […]
Mummy told me to talk to the Angels…
“The guardian angels of life fly so high as to be beyond our sight, but they are always looking down upon us.” ~Jean Paul Richter *NB – The names have been changed to protect the identities of the family involved in the following post but I have permission to share their story. On the morning […]
A Guided Meditation for the end of 2012
“Every ending is a new beginning.” ~ Proverb 2012 has been such a big year, as we all knew it would be. So today I’ve recorded a simple guided meditation for you, to help you release the closing energies of this year, ready to welcome the positive shift that is heralded by 2013. All you need […]
Tibetan Singing Bowl – Healing Meditation
“Do you know that our soul is composed of harmony.” ~ Leonardo da Vinci, Notebooks (1451-1519) I meditate twice daily. And as a constant meditator I have come to use many different forms of this practice, so that I can choose a method best suited to my mood, energy and purpose each time. One of […]
Burning the Past – A Ritual for Cleansing Pain
A friend of mine has gone through some hard times recently, and now that they are behind her she asked me if I had a ritual to help her let go of that painful period in her life. I love the use of rituals in our lives. Rituals cause us to take pause, giving weight […]
Loving my dinged up life-battered Self – Part 2
“Real isn’t how you are made,’ said the Skin Horse. ‘It’s a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real.’ ‘Does it hurt?’ asked the Rabbit. ‘Sometimes,’ said the Skin Horse, for he was always […]
It’s Freak Out Week. So how are YOU feeling?
Let me ask you a personal question. Do any of the following sound like you right now (although a few weeks ago you were fine, or certainly more fine than you are now)? exhausted, for no apparent reason achy and unwell in a very non-specific way restless, or feeling like you want to run away […]
Guided Meditation for Emotional Support
Can miles truly separate you from friends… If you want to be with someone you love, aren’t you already there? ~ Richard Bach Life is a glorious adventure, but sometimes the road is hard. Sometimes we become overwhelmed by our troubles, we feel alone, and we think that we don’t have not enough strength to face […]
Failure to Connect…
“I made a nap this afternoon. I made it out of two pillows, a bed, a sheet, a blanket, and exhaustion.” ~ Jarod Kintz If you’re psychic, or intuitive, or creative, or a writer, or an artist, or a meditator, or a musician – if you have a passion or a skill or a hobby, or […]
3O Days of Gratitude to Change Your Life
Are you ready to change your life? Are you ready to attract things that make you smile, that improve your health, that attract better jobs and relationships, that make you laugh, that fill your bank account with money and your heart with love and gladness? If your answer is yes, then read on! I’m a […]
Don’t Play the Rescue Game!
I tried to carry you And make you whole But it was never enough I must go Lyrics from Watch Over You, Alter Bridge Many of my friends and clients are kind-hearted and compassionate souls, who feel compelled to help people. In fact many are healers, counsellors and lightworkers by trade. But no matter what […]
How to deal with Toxic People
“Toxic relationships not only make us unhappy; they corrupt our attitudes and dispositions in ways that undermine healthier relationships and prevent us from realizing how much better things can be.” — Michael Josephson What is a toxic relationship? It’s one that diminishes you, that erodes you, that defeats you. We all experience conflicts, disagreements and […]
A Powerful Time for Clearing and Change!
How have you been feeling, this past week or so? Not quite yourself? A little out of sorts? Take the poll below and see if any of this resonates for you – you might not have felt like this continuously (indeed, I hope you haven’t!), but if anything sounds familiar then tick the box! Maybe […]
Getting to the Heart of Things
There is a powerful journalling exercise that I use every so often. It is a very simple technique, but it never fails to give me clarity. It also highlights areas of my life that aren’t working, shows me where my resentments and frustrations are, and uncovers my deepest dreams and desires. It works best when […]
Are you too NICE?
Kindness is a loving balm, understanding is a mental tonic, compassion grows our hearts, love is food for the soul, but niceness? Far too often niceness is a poison administered to ourselves by our own hand. There is a trend (and I recognise it because I once was in that same place!) where people beginning […]
Too Busy? Relax!
The time to relax is when you don’t have time for it. ~ Attributed to both Jim Goodwin and Sydney J. Harris We’re coming into a weekend, and I have a mile long list of things that still need to get done. So, I should be doing them. Right? Well, actually… No! I’m tired. It’s […]
Using your Internal Compass to Navigate Life
At any moment, you have a choice, that either leads you closer to your spirit or further away from it. ~ Thich Nhat Hahn Inside each of us in a compass. Although we can’t see it, it spins and turns in ways we can feel, if only we learn to tune in to it. The […]
Invisible Acts of Love and the Importance of Uplifting Others…
‘Tis the everyday things that really count, And the everyday people we know; And everyday kindnesses go very far, Toward making a heaven below. Life can be a difficult ride, and each of us at times will know pain, trouble, loneliness and struggle. That’s why it is so important for us to practice love and […]
Failure is a winning strategy!
Do not fear mistakes. You will know failure. Continue to reach out. ~ Benjamin Franklin I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But I can’t accept not trying. ~ Michael Jordan As I ate breakfast at a local cafe the other day, a little boy pulled out one of his homework books to show his father. […]
Making Peace with Right Now while Holding a Picture of a Brighter Tomorrow
Don’t let your current reality dictate your future possibility. Hold true to your dreams. Miracles are entirely possible if you dispense with miserable thinking!~ Nicole Cody The reason for today’s post comes from something seemingly ordinary. But what’s ordinary for some can be positively miraculous for others. Yesterday I walked up the stairs carrying two laptops […]
Drinking in Colour – how to do a Healing Walk
Have you ever had a rough day? Silly question. Of course you have. Like you, I have my occasional difficult patch, that place in my life where emotionally (and sometimes phsyically) I am stretched thin. Sometimes it’s from psychic work, sometimes the dramas of life – it never really matters how I get there, once […]
Advice for strong people who aren’t coping…
Strong people are used to coping. They are used to leading. They are used to taking charge. Strong people are able to put their own hurt and exhaustion aside when others rely them, or the job needs to get done. They are not good at sharing their pain or asking for help. You know who […]
What to do when you don’t know where you’re going…
You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself in any direction you choose. You’re on your own, and you know what you know. And you are the guy who’ll decide where to go. ~ Dr. Seuss Feeling lost is a very normal human emotion. And it is […]
Writing Your Way to Better Health
It is health that is real wealth and not pieces of gold and silver ~ Mahatma Gandhi Your Body has its own wisdom; it knows what it needs to heal itself and be well, it knows what it needs to be energised, it knows what it needs to come back into balance. Your Soul knows what […]
Sometimes Your Only Job is to Ask for Help
Problems are not the problem; coping is the problem. ~ Virginia Satir I have a friend going through a tough time right now. For her everything seems to be going wrong. There are substance abuse issues, and she thought by cleaning up and getting that out of the picture, somehow everything would be fixed. But […]