I’d rather have an enemy who admits that they hate me, than a friend who secretly puts me down.Karen Salmansohn
I had an interesting day yesterday.
A writer friend of mine saw that I had successfully completed the NaNoWriMo challenge and messaged to congratulate me.
It’s good to see you writing again, she texted. You have so much talent. Maybe next year will be the year you get some work published.
I am published, I said. My blog is out there in the world and my Planner is a book.
No, Nicole, she answered. Your Planner is stationery. You published it yourself. It doesn’t count. When you’re a real writer you will understand.
As I sat in my packing room last night, wrapping Planners (the book that is not really a book by the writer who is not really a writer) to ship out to people, I read messages people had sent through with their orders.
Good morning Nicole, I just wish to say thank you so very much, my journey planner has been the best thing for me over the past few months – I’m not the best at it but holy moly I can feel and see the change, I like me and I thank you
Hi Nicole, Thanks again for your lovely planner, this will be my 3rd year of using it. Merry Christmas to Yourself, Ben and the Pupsters Xxxx
Hi Nicole, just a note to say thank you. Your Planner has changed my life in so many positive ways. It has so much goodness between the covers, and I love reading every word. Thanks for your blog too. You, your blog and your Planner have helped me through some tough times.
I have purchased the previous 2 years journals and I can’t be without it, now. It is the best spiritual self-help tool I have found… absolutely brilliant!
Nicole, I love your Planner so much. It is so packed with great content and I love the illustrations and all of the practical tips. It’s my favourite gift to myself every year. Thank you xx
That made me feel better.
Then I thought about what it is to be a writer.
A writer is someone who writes.
Whether I ever get anything traditionally published by a publishing house or not, I am a writer at my core.
And as of last night I am a writer who no longer hangs out with judgmental frenemy writers. I lost too much confidence and too much direction with my writing for years by listening to people to whom I gave agency and authority, and who never had me or my best interests at heart.
I wish you well.
But I choose me. And to do that, we can’t be friends anymore.
Love, excellent stationery, and evidence of real-life happy readers of words I write (which surely makes me a writer, no?), Nicole xx
PS – My Planner really IS excellent.
Grab one now, so you’ll be ready for my next free challenge to help you get your year off to a strong start.
The digital version of The Journeymaker’s Planner 2022 is available at ETSY.
It makes a great gift too, and if you order from ETSY it comes gift-wrapped (by me, of course!)