Is Perfection Your Secret Disease? – Oracle for Monday 6 March 2017

“Ring the bells that still can ring
Forget your perfect offering
There is a crack in everything
That’s how the light gets in.”

~ Leonard Cohen

Hello, Lovelies!

The oracle card I have chosen to guide us this week is ‘Perfection’ from the Chakra Wisdom Oracle Deck by Tori Hartman.

If you read my forecast for March, you’ll remember that March is all about creating systems and structures which make your everyday life more supported and sustainable.

So, what gifts does Perfection bring for you this week?

Perfection is a trap that steals time, momentum and positivity. It’s a sickness, a weakness that masquerades as something worthy.

We tell ourselves that we strive for perfection because we care so much. We want to do a good job. We want to get it right. We hold ourselves to a high standard.

In fact, sometimes we can’t even see that the reason we’re not moving forward is a perfection thing.

But so often it’s a perfection thing…

Perfection stops us from making decisions. Because what if there is a better one? What if we get it wrong? What if what we choose or decide fails us in some way?

Perfection stops us from even starting.

Instead we build entire worlds in our heads about how it could look, or even worse how it should have looked. (Yep, we spend time looking at the past, wishing we could have done things differently!) We use all our energy on thinking and worrying and comparing instead of simply DOING.

Perfection gets us into such a knot of not-good-enough that we procrastinate endlessly, and wear ourselves down into dust. We’re exhausted and spent before we even begin.

Perfection is an insidious disease that robs us of momentum, optimism and satisfaction.

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This week the Perfection card reminds us to stop for a moment and examine our patterns of thought. And to look carefully at our patterns of action, or inaction.

What’s stopping you? What thoughts are going through your head? What’s worrying you? Why are you hesitating?

If necessary get it all down on paper. Just to get it out where you can see it clearly instead of having all those subversive joy-killing thoughts at the back of your head.

Then find a starting point and DO SOMETHING.

Not starting because of fear of failing is actually failing anyway. Had you ever realised that?

So – say yes. Or no. Start something. End something. Get some action happening and some choices made.

You may feel very wobbly as you start out, but action creates momentum and momentum creates stability and clarity. If you keep waiting, not doing anything, that clarity and momentum will continue to elude you. And you’ll stay a victim of the perfection disease.

Be a beginner, and then keep going. That’s how you get to mastery.

But above all, just be yourself!

Supportive crystals this week?

Lapis Lazuli is a stand out for its ability to strengthen both wisdom and self-belief. Carnelian is fabulous for energy, courage and creativity. Tourmaline in Quartz will build courage and help you to stand by your choices and decisions. Sodalite will help you to understand and speak your truth.

Helpful essential oils?

Young Living’s Believe or Common Sense essential oil blends are good choices this week. Believe works to boost our self-confidence and self-belief.  Common Sense oil is a super stress-buster that will help with allowing you to become clear about what you want, and to feel secure with your choices and decisions, especially around change. If you want to make your own combination or use a single oil, choose from grapefruit, basil, geranium and frankincense. Use one to two drops of each in your diffuser – they blend beautifully together.

Holding you, as always, in my thoughts, prayers and meditations, and intending for a you a life of abundance and joy, where you are no longer limited by your doubts.

All my love,

Nicole ❤ xx


Listening To My Body


“The world is too much with us; late and soon,
Getting and spending, we lay waste our powers;
Little we see in Nature that is ours;
We have given our hearts away, a sordid boon!
This Sea that bares her bosom to the moon,
The winds that will be howling at all hours,
And are up-gathered now like sleeping flowers,
For this, for everything, we are out of tune;
It moves us not.–Great God! I’d rather be
A Pagan suckled in a creed outworn;
So might I, standing on this pleasant lea,
Have glimpses that would make me less forlorn;
Have sight of Proteus rising from the sea;
Or hear old Triton blow his wreathed horn.”
~ William Wordsworth


Yesterday I stopped.

Although I am on holiday and had a million exciting events planned I decided to cancel all of them.

Instead I put myself to bed and slept. Rising in the late afternoon I took a short walk, ate a simple meal overlooking the world from the top floor open-air cafe of our hotel. I watched the river flowing. I watched the sun set. I watched the play of lights in the night sky, and then put myself back to bed again.

So much sleep, and I feel as if I could still sleep some more. So it’s likely I will.


Once I would have pushed through this exhaustion. I would have allowed stubbornness to keep me upright and engaged, no matter how fatigued I might be.

No more.

Part of my holiday plan is to listen to my body and give it what it needs. It needs sleep. So I will happily comply.

How about you? If you take a moment, close your eyes and tune in, how do you feel? How much charge is in your physical battery? Your emotional battery?

What do you most need right now?

Try to give yourself some of that today.

Thinking of you, and sending so much love,

Nicole ❤ xoxo

The Strange Dream

“Dreams are today’s answers to tomorrow’s questions.” ~ Edgar Cayce


I had the strangest dream last night.

A dream that seemed less like a dream and more like a garden party.

My grandfather was there, handsome and charming as ever. Dressed in his best summer nautical whites.

My grandfather passed away some years ago. I knew instinctively that all of the other people in the dream had also died. But there was no solemnity or sadness. We were celebrating something, waiting for an honored guest, and it was very social.

My grandfather introduced me to an older woman, and a girl in her early twenties perhaps.

We chatted for a moment, and then the happy young girl fixed her eyes on me in a way I could not ignore. She asked me to give her mother a message for me. She told me her mother’s name and where she was from.

And then she gave me the message, which was short but clear.

The message was in two parts. Both for her ‘mom’, but one private and one I could share.

Here’s the share message.

God is love, and love is everywhere.

So this morning I am looking for Dani’s mom. I hope I find her…


Pop Up Shop Changed Hours for Friday!

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All my crystals are chosen by me, and then their meanings are channelled. Very special stones!

Hi Lovelies!

We have just found out that the Anglican Hall has accidentally double-booked us!!!

We will still have access to the hall today, but not until 4pm.

I’m so sorry for any inconvenience!

We’ll set up just as quickly as we can, and if you want to help us out with that your help would be much appreciated too.

The pop up shop will still go ahead as planned and tonight’s activities will be unaffected.

The shop will be open all day tomorrow – 10am to 4pm.

I’m doing my very best to be calm about it all.

See you very soon,

Much love,



The Week Ahead – Oracle Reading for Monday 29 August 2016

Serendipity oracle card, Colette Baron-Reid

“According to Vedanta, there are only two symptoms of enlightenment, just two indications that a transformation is taking place within you toward a higher consciousness. The first symptom is that you stop worrying. Things don’t bother you anymore. You become light-hearted and full of joy. The second symptom is that you encounter more and more meaningful coincidences in your life, more and more synchronicities. And this accelerates to the point where you actually experience the miraculous.” ~ Deepak Chopra



Hello Lovelies,

Here’s this week’s oracle card and my take on the energetic outlook for the days ahead.

‘Serendipity’, from Colette Baron-Reid’s Wisdom of the Oracle deck reminds you of your place in the Universe this week, and that place is a place of magical interconnection.

You’re not alone. You’re being watched over and guided. There is so much love directed your way. Tune in to those energies this week. Reach out to your Guides and Angels for answers and assistance. Talk in your head with your loved ones who’ve crossed over. Know that you are supported and aided when you ask for help. Trust in a benevolent Universe.

Know that either someone has your answer OR you are theirs… Sometimes it isn’t about finding the solution to your own problems. This week is also encouraging many of you to become the solution for others by sharing your ideas, opinions, talents and wisdoms with the wider world.

This is also a fantastic time for soul connection and awakening psychic energies. Listen to your intuition this week. Make space for quiet time with your cards and some journalling.

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This is a great week for looking for and receiving signs. For that light-bulb moment or idea for a business. Expect solutions or a new or clarified direction. It’s a week of good fortune, blessings, and blessings in disguise. A great week for launching new projects, or for finishing up old ones. For entering or leaving relationships with right timing. A week for insights, breakthroughs, celebrations and lucky breaks.

Hooray for that!

Don’t be afraid to reach a little higher this week. Be okay with your dreams unfolding in unexpected ways and the path of life taking you in unplanned directions, and for feeling ‘not quite ready yet’ even as you are being propelled forward. It’s all okay.

Affirm to yourself often: “I am open to opportunity.All good things are coming my way!”


Some useful guided meditations for you:

Guided Meditation For Connecting With Your Ancestors

Guided Meditation For Anchoring Into The Expanding Universe

Guided Meditation For Anchoring Into Oneness Energy


Some advice for asking for a sign:


Mini Online Chakra Wisdoms Retreat – Day 1

“It’s more than ok to say no to the people and places that harm your peace.”
~ Nikki Rowe


Right now I am running a very special Chakra Wisdoms retreat here in Byron Bay – a delicious week of meditation, shamanic wisdoms and a facilitated journey deep within as we explore our chakras and how their energy shapes us.

I know how much some of you love to follow along and participate from home, so I’ve created a simple series of exercises to help you take your own inner journey using your chakras and oracle cards for guidance.

Each day we will have a series of simple reflection questions for you to contemplate.

Then you will be asked to choose a colour. That colour represents the chakra you will work with today. There will be a challenge for you based on the colour you chose.

Finally you will choose an oracle card to give insight into the chakra you are working with today.


Reflection Questions

Take ten minutes, sit quietly on your own, and answer these as truthfully as you can. These answers are just for you. No-one else will see them. Write them down. Let the answers stay with you. Write as little or as much as you need.

  1. Where do you feel or hold fear in your body? Are there any places that have been this way since you were a child? Are any of these places newer?
  2. When you feel really good about yourself and your life where does that feeling sit within your body?


Colour Questions

Pick the colour that most stands out for you:

  1. Orange – Sacral Chakra


2. Red – Base Chakra


3. Sky Blue – Throat Chakra


4. Yellow – Solar Plexus Chakra


5. White – Crown Chakra

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6. Purple – Third Eye Chakra

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7. Green – Heart Chakra


Now choose your challenge based on the colour you selected. Each of these activities will help to nurture and strengthen the Chakra you have chosen as today’s Chakra:

  1. Orange – Orange corresponds to our Sacral Chakra, our centre for Creativity and Sensuality. Choose one of the following activities to support your Sacral Chakra today: *enjoy a massage *have an aramotherapy bath or diffuse some oils *watch a movie *listen to music *go to a gallery *make some art *write *work on a favourite project *explore a new part of town *go to a new cafe or store
  2. Red – Red corresponds to our Base Chakra, our centre for Safety, Security and Abundance. Choose one of the following activities to support your Base Chakra today: *go for a walk *take a hike in nature *stand baefoot on the ground *participate in a team sport *create a sacred altar at home with some items that are meaningful to you *declutter or give your home or work space a tidy *spend quality time with your loved ones *pay a bill with an attitude of gratitude *start a savings account towards a meaningful outcome *plan a romantic interlude or enjoy one today *go dancing
  3. Sky Blue – Sky Blue corresponds to our Throat Chakra, our centre for Communication and Speaking Our Truth. Choose one of the following activities to support your Throat Chakra today: *sing – in the car or the shower or just in your lounge room *phone a friend *sign up for a course *write a letter *join a social or online group with common interests *begin planning a course you will teach or a book you will write *try laughter yoga *listen to music *make music *do anything that makes you deeply relaxed
  4. Yellow – Yellow corresponds to our Solar Plexus Chakra, our I AM centre for anchoring our personal authority and sense of self.  Choose one of the following activities to support your Solar Plexus Chakra today: *say yes to something you want *say no to something you don’t want *affirm your boundaries *choose to speak positively about yourself and others *create a life plan or a business plan *make a decision in an area where you’ve been procrastinating *take some time for a solo adventure – even if that’s just a cup of coffee on your own in a new place, or ten minutes exploring an interesting store *find yourself a coach or mentor who believes in you *make a dream board
  5. White – White corresponds to our Crown Chakra, our centre for Spiritual Connection and Higher Purpose. Choose one of the following activities to support your Crown Chakra today: *meditate *go for a long walk *take time to sit quietly in nature *journal and work with your oracle cards *have a crystal or reiki healing *pray or visit a temple, church, mosque or sacred site *rest or take some quite time for yourself *book into a spiritual course or yoga retreat *stretch your body *read a book *take a course to build your knowledge
  6. Purple – Purple corresponds to our Third Eye Chakra, our centre for Spiritual Insight and Life Vision. Choose one of the following activities to support your Third Eye Chakra today: *spend some time giving yourself an oracle or tarot reading, or visit someone who does these *visualise yourself having, doing or being something that is a life goal for you *make plans for the future *take a walk in bright sunshine or moonlight * burn some incense *journal your problems and consider solutions *meditate *play with your favourite crystals *give or receive energy healing *take a nap *have an early night *do something that stimulates your imagination
  7. Green – Green corresponds to our Heart Chakra, our centre for Love and Emotional Expression. Choose one of the following activities to support your Sacral Chakra today: *give or receive a heart-to-heart hug *forgive yourself *forgive someone else *make contact with someone you miss *declare your love *be kind to yourself *meet loved ones for a shared meal *plan an outing or holiday with friends or family *worship or give thanks in a way that is meaningful to you *celebrate your life by doing something that makes you happy *donate or volunteer *smile and be kind *spend time with your pets *seek help from a therapist if you are stuck in grief, loss or anger *place flowers by your bed or desk *treat yourself to a haircut or manicure *buy one small thing that makes your feel good and nurtures your soul
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Choosing your Daily Oracle Card:

Don’t be scared about using Oracle or Tarot cards. They are simply a tool to help tune you in to your own intuition and inner knowing. It is possible that you may also choose the same card more than once over the course of this challenge. Each time you choose a card, treat it as a whole new message. You may find yourself having several interpretations from just one card over time, depending on the questions you have asked.

The following web pages will allow you to choose a daily oracle card without having to own your own deck:

Online Oracle Cards:

Colette Baron Reid’s Oracles – choose a deck, and then choose your card

Doreen Virtue’s Oracles – scroll down to the part of the page that says ‘Get your Reading’ and then choose the Simple Reading one card option


Take a favourite stone or crystal, and complete this short guided meditation:

Hold your stone in your cupped hands, close your eyes, and slow your breathing. Bring white light into your body until you feel peaceful and calm. Then bring white light into the crystal too. Allow yourself to connect to the stone. You may feel it tingle, or visualise a colour in your mind’s eye. When you are ready, open your eyes. Keep your stone near you, and hold it when you write.


Now shuffle your cards, thinking about the colour and chakra you have chosen today. Silently ask the question to yourself ‘How can this Chakra support me today?’

When you have shuffled the cards and they feel ‘done’, select just one card. How you choose that card is up to you. You can split the deck. You could take the top or bottom card. You could fan the cards out and take one from the array.

Place the card face up in front of you.

Clear your mind by closing your eyes and taking one deep breath in and then out. Open your eyes again. Take a minute and look at the picture on the oracle or tarot card.

What stands out for you? Is it an image or a colour? Is it a number or a word? What are your first impressions?

Write these down in your journal.

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Now let’s go a little deeper. What feelings or words does this card evoke in your mind when you think about the card and its images in relation to the question ‘How can this Chakra support me today?’ Take five minutes and just write some stream-of-consciousness thoughts down. Don’t censor or judge them. Trust the process.

Finally, read back over what you have written.

Expect that more insights may come up for you during the day. Write anything important down in your journal so that you can continue to reflect upon it.

See you tomorrow! Lots of love, Nicole xx


*PS – I often take a photo of my card on my phone, so that I can refer back to it later!

Graffitis and Curiosities

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“Graffiti is one of the few tools you have if you have almost nothing. And even if you don’t come up with a picture to cure world poverty you can make someone smile while they’re having a piss.”
~ Banksy


It’s the last day of my holidays today, and then I’ll be on a plane and heading home. I must say that as soul-nurturing as this trip has been I am ready for my own bed, some big puppy hugs, and a cup of good tea.

One of my favourite travel pastimes is wandering by foot, taking photos and getting far off the well-beaten tourist paths.

I’ve discovered all kinds of wonders on this trip. Here are some of the wall and door adornments that have caught my eye during my rambles through places as diverse as Salerno, Santorini, Naples, Venice, Athens and Bangkok.



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