Being Careful About Being Me

Boundaries are, in simple terms, the recognition of personal space.

Asa Don Brown

Hey, Lovelies.

I found myself in a social situation recently with people I did not know.

Of course, one of the first things people usually ask in these circumstances is ‘What do you do?’

I’ll be honest.

I’m guarded with new people. And I trust my intuition.

I am many things. A businesswoman. A writer. An educator. A product creator and publisher. A metaphysical teacher. A psychic.

The trigger word, of course, is psychic. And that’s not something I do. It’s the way I was born.

Sometimes I tell people. Sometimes I don’t.

I use discernment, and keep my boundaries strong. Why? To keep myself safe. I’ve sat through social functions where as soon as I disclosed what I do I was judged, verbally attacked or disparaged. Gossiped about behind hands with people sitting just feet away from me. Ostracized. Where people thought less of me, and I ceased to be relatable, or respected. Where the vibe just changed somehow, and became awkward and no longer fun. Or where I was suddenly expected to be the entertainment, and to tell everyone about themselves and give free advice and insights.

When I hold back information about myself this isn’t me being dishonest. This is me protecting my personal space and mental wellbeing. This is me being able to navigate a social setting without creating angst and discomfort for myself or others.

I struggled for ages about what the best approach might be for myself. Experience has now shown that boundaries and discernment still work best, and I am good with that.

For a highly sensitive introvert, I’m comfortable to reveal myself slowly, as I feel safe to do so.

I hope you know it’s okay for you to have those kinds of boundaries too.

Much love, and a healthy dose of self-respect, Nicole xx

Hi! I'm Nicole Cody. I am a writer, psychic, metaphysical teacher and organic farmer. I love to read, cook, walk on the beach, dance in the rain and grow things. Sometimes, to entertain my cows, I dance in my gumboots. Gumboot dancing is very under-rated.
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