The Week Ahead – Oracle Reading for Monday 16 January

Grief

“Grief does not change you… It reveals you.”
~ John Green

Hello, dear friends!

I apologise that today’s post is late in coming. In fact I was unsure if I would even be able to write it at all. But here it is.

Here’s the oracle card I have chosen this Monday, and my take on the energetic outlook for the week ahead.

‘Grief’ is from the Chakra Wisdom Oracle Deck by Tori Hartman.

On Saturday morning I chose this card for the week ahead. I thought I might get organised and write my weekly post early, before my unplugged Sunday, and so that I might spend Monday morning (today) working on my almost-finished memoir.

When I pulled this card, I did a double-take. Oh, I thought, looking closely at the picture. It’s a heart-broken girl holding her dead dog. I can’t post that! So, I put the card down, and I moved onto another project and then some client readings and suddenly it was Saturday afternoon, and I forgot all about that card, and I went for a swim on that hot afternoon, with Ben my husband, and with Harry and Bert our dogs.

Well, some of you already know what happened next. Bert collapsed without warning. The next minute we were racing him to a vet. And then racing him from our country home back to a big veterinary hospital in the city. Our beloved dog Bert died at 4am on Sunday. We are all heartbroken. Yesterday was just a wash of tears.

And then this morning I remembered the card, and wept anew.

But, that’s enough of me. I need to talk about this card, and how it relates to you.

Grief is actually a beautiful card. An important card. I’m sure some of you are feeling these energies right now. These energies of grief and loss and tragedy and yearning and heartache and regret and disappointment and emptiness, right as the year began fresh. What an awful energy, you might think, to strike right when we need to be  hopeful and optimistic and to enjoy our fresh start.

It’s okay. The Grief card has a powerful message for you this week.

This is what grief reminds you: Grief is just love with nowhere to go.

That’s as it should be when you first lose something. Until you learn how to keep loving without it.

If you let grief keep rebounding inside you with no expression and no flow, eventually it can lead to frustration, anger, and then to depression.

All of that love, if you don’t eventually give it form again with something else, all of that love held as grief will weigh you down, and prevent you from living truly and fully in your life.

So, feel into the energy of grief this week, for in it are the seeds of so much locked-up positive emotion, so many gifts, so much power to propel you forward again.

This might be grief around relationships, choices, changing circumstances, mistakes, outcomes, all manner of loss…

Where have you got energy locked up in grief? Where is there energy trapped in your life with nowhere to go? How can you untangle that and repurpose it and give it somewhere to flow again?

How can you take all of this love with nowhere to go, and channel it into something new and good?

You might be surprised at the breakthroughs you have this week!

Supportive crystals this week? Rose Quartz, Chrysocolla, Green Aventurine and Citrine. Helpful essential oils? Young Living’s Inner Child essential oil blend, or  a combination (or singly!) of any of orange, jasmine, rosemary and geranium.

Feelings are a part of our lives for a reason. They help us to understand ourselves and the world around us, and they light the path for us, if we can be brave enough to follow where they lead.

Holding you, as always, in my thoughts, prayers and meditations.  All my love,

Nicole ❤ xx

 

 

Why I Know The Universe Supports My New Friday Scheme

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“These are the days that must happen to you.”
~ Walt Whitman

 

I decided recently, as part of my yearly Year of ME Planning Summit, to make Fridays ‘Ben and Nicole Days’.

I already have ‘Unplugged Sundays’. I started that last year, and it has been one of the best things I’ve ever done.

This year ‘Ben and Nicole Friday’ has been added into the mix. Ben’s always helping me out, or bending his days to fit around me. Fridays are now about me doing that with and for him. It’s a day where I will spend the day with my husband, doing whatever he needs me to do, or whatever we decide on collectively. This will help us to get some writing projects done, and some collaborative schemes. It gives us time for tidying and sorting and doing tax and working on our businesses and finance.

So, how did our very first ‘Ben and Nicole Friday’ go?

Well, we started with bloodtests for me. Lots and lots of bloodtests. Not so exciting. But necessary. After that the day was all uphill.

There was a trip to town. Coffee and croissants. Swims. Writing time. Naps in the air-conditioning because HEATWAVE just now in Australia!

Then the neighbours came round for a late afternoon swim in the pool.

Which turned into drinks and dinner.

And then this.

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I’m liking Fridays already. 😀

How about you? Are you making sure you’ve got time for what matters this year?

Lots of love, Nicole xx

 

The Weirdest Thing Happened to My Blog This Morning…

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“Weird stuff just follows you around, Nic!”

~ Ben (Husband!)

 

I was trying to get a blog post loaded this morning.

A recipe.

With lots of food action shots.

But when I went to upload them I got this:

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And this:

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And this:

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All photos from a long ago beach trip.

I could not upload one single photo of honey pepper beef stir-fry!

But I did get the message.

We are going to the beach. No recipe blog today!

Full Moon Meditation and Journalling Exercise for Releasing Fear – January 2017

“There is no illusion greater than fear.”
~ Lao Tzu

 

Are you done with fear holding you back and keeping you small?

Me too.

Fear is the big thing that stops so many of us from living a more fully expressed life. Fear limits us. It stops us from being ourselves. It stops us from taking risks, from starting, from trying, from becoming. Tonight’s full moon brings favourable energies to help us move past fear and into connection with our authentic selves. From that place of truth we can then dream a new life, a new self, a new future into being. This is perfect timing as we sit in the first month of the first cycle of a whole new energetic era!

For the next four days we’ll be influenced by the Full Moon in Cancer. This moon supports us as we travel into and through our deepest fears and insecurities. It’s a time for exploring and owning what has been repressed, forgotten or shoved to one side in our lives. It’ a time for naming and letting go of these old beliefs and behaviours. It’s a great time to facilitate a gathering awareness of our truth and a strengthening sense of wholeness for ourselves.

Wholeness centers us. It returns flow, hope, strength and inspiration to our lives. We need more of that in the world right now. As you move from fear back into flow you hold a strong and stable vibration that will exert a positive energetic influence on the world around you. So, thank you for doing this! Your participation means so much to me. ❤

The following meditation and journalling exercises can be done at any time over the next four days, while the influence of the moon is at her strongest.

Image from www.iqquotes.com

Image from www.iqquotes.com

Let’s Begin!

Choosing a Crystal

You may wish to choose a crystal to work with this while you journal. It is entirely optional, and you’d be fine without one too – but for my fellow rock lovers, read on…

(If you’re working with my Year of ME Planner, please choose a different stone to your 2017 Gratitude Crystal! – You could use your citrine or chrysocolla stone though. )

You can hold this crystal as you write or meditate, place it under your pillow or beside your bed while you sleep, or carry it in your pocket to help you stay focused.

You could choose your stone based on what most appeals to you. That’s a very valid approach. But if you need a little direction, good crystals to work with this week include:

  • Clear Quartz or Quartz with Inclusions or Phantoms
  • Citrine
  • Smoky Quartz
  • Hematite
  • Fluorite
  • Amethyst
  • Tiger Iron
  • Chrysocolla
  • Petrified Wood

Here’s what I’ll be using – it’s a natural Smoky Quartz and Citrine Phantom with Barite inclusions. Feel free to let us know what kind of crystal you choose by leaving a comment below or over at our facebook page or on Instagram.

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Preparatory Meditation:

We can’t think, or be in flow, if we are stressed and uptight. Before you begin to reflect on and journal your exploratory questions, take a minute or two to perform this simple meditation.

Belly Breathing Technique

Before you begin writing, sit or lie quietly. Place your crystal in one hand and then put that hand over your heart. Place your other hand low on your abdomen. Close your eyes if it feels comfortable to do so.

Feel for the moon. It doesn’t matter if it is day or night when you do this. The full moon’s energy is strong. Draw this energy down and imagine the moon’s energy wrapping around you like a silvery cloak. Let this energy calm, nurture and hold you.

Now take 6 deep breaths.

For each breath, when you inhale focus on your belly rising out further than your chest.

Take 6 long, slow and unforced breaths, gently allowing your hands to rise and fall with your chest and belly.

You’ll feel your body relax and unwind. You can breathe normally after six breaths or do another cycle of six.

Visualise a colour in your crystal, or if you are just using your hands, visualise a colour in the palm of your hand above your heart. Breathe in to activate your hands and let that colour expand, so that it links both of your hands. You’ll now have a glow of coloured energy sitting from your throat to your groin. That light is healing and energising. Don’t think about it too much. Just let it be there in the background.

Now take 6 more long, slow and unforced breaths, gently allowing your hands to rise and fall with your chest and belly. Feel all of the tension drain away. Feel yourself open to your intuition and to the moon’s guidance.

When you’re ready open you eyes, still feeling your connection to your crystal and the moon.

Now you’re ready to write!

Image from www.drramsey.com

Image from www.drramsey.com

 

Journal Questions:

Write the answers to your questions on loose sheets of paper, or paper that can be easily removed from a book or notepad. At the end of this activity you will burn these sheets to complete the meditation and release ritual.

If you are working on a computer or tablet, you will need to delete the file. (Or print, delete file and then burn pages!)

You can choose any or all of the questions below. Write as much or as little as you need. It could be three words or three pages. Spread it out over a few days, or spend a solid hour or two over one day – it’s up to you! If you’re in flow, keep going and see where it takes you. Be brave, and write from your heart. Let all your fear, worry and insecurity fall onto the page as you write.The idea is to get to out of your head, and out of your body and onto the page.

If you’re using a crystal, hold it in your non-writing hand, or place it in your lap or pocket.

 

If you don’t know how to answer something, ask yourself What am I resisting here? What can this teach me about myself? And then be brave and go deeper. Breathe into it. Keep writing.

When you have finished, and there is no more to say about that question, write I now release these fears and limiting thoughts. With the Moon as my witness I move back into flow. I open myself to new and better possibilities. Then sign your name. Do this for each question that you answer.

Questions:

  1. When I think about money, and being able to support myself, my fear is that…
  2. When I think about my health, and living with vitality, my fear is that…
  3. When I think about my sexuality, and about taking pleasure in my body, my fear is that…
  4. When I think about my family, my fear is that…
  5. When I think about love relationships my fear is that…
  6. When I think about my partner, my fear is that…
  7. When I think about my art, my fear is that…
  8. When I think about my home and my living space, my fear is that…
  9. When I think about travel, my fear is that…
  10. When I think about my career, my fear is that…
  11. When I think about my business, my fear is that…
  12. When I think about friendship, my fear is that…
  13. When I think about what others think of me, and how they may perceive me, my fear is that…
  14. When I think about my personal appearance, my fear is that…
  15. When I think about who I could become, my fear is that…
  16. When I think about this idea I have, my fear is that…
  17. When I think about my country, my fear is that…
  18. When I think about the environment, my fear is that…
  19. When I think about world events, my fear is that…
  20. When I think about the future, my fear is that…

When you are done, sit for a moment and close your eyes. Place one hand back on your heart and one low on your belly. Breathe in and out six times, being aware of the rise and fall of your chest and belly, being aware of the radiating colour that links your hands. Feel yourself connected to the moon and to a place of deep calm.

Open your eyes.

In your own time, and in a way that is safe for yourself and for those around you, burn your pages. You could do this outside, or over a barbeque, fireplace or in a large heatproof pot or bowl. Let the flames render your fears into ash. Let the ash be scattered on the winds, or washed down the drain and returned to the earth. You are done with it. It’s time to move on.

Keep being aware of your breath. Be aware of the energy in your hands. Be aware of the moon above you. Be aware of this new energy of calm and possibility you carry with you. You can use the crystal you have carried through this process as a reminder and talisman – linking you into this place of calm and flow.

Thank you for participating.

Thank you for being part of the positive change in our world.

Much love and hugs, Nicole ❤ xx

Let The Dying Live!

Painting by Iain Vellacott at www.inoils.com

Painting by Iain Vellacott at www.inoils.wordpress.com

“You’ve got this life and while you’ve got it, you’d better kiss like you only have one moment, try to hold someone’s hand like you will never get another chance to, look into people’s eyes like they’re the last you’ll ever see, watch someone sleeping like there’s no time left, jump if you feel like jumping, run if you feel like running, play music in your head when there is none, and eat cake like it’s the only one left in the world!”
~ C. JoyBell C.

 

This post is the next in my Wednesday series on death and dying…

Many years ago, my friend Pixie was diagnosed with advanced breast cancer. It was caught late because she was breast-feeding, and doctors kept telling her she had mastitis. It was only her continued urging that led to her ultimate diagnosis. Despite using both aggressive traditional and alternative medicine the cancer continued to progress.

With her initial diagnosis and surgery came much attention from friends. But then Pixie’s illness dragged on.

And on.

Friends stopped calling. Family came much less frequently. The immediate crisis had been averted, and other folk went back to their regular lives. Some also stopped visiting or calling because they didn’t know what to say, or what to do. Chronic and terminal illness can be very lonely.

I was also seriously ill. So it was logical that Pixie and I should keep each other company. She would go to my house, or I to hers. We talked a lot about life. We talked a lot about death. Both of us had been given a poor prognosis. Both of us had experienced physicians tell us that we were dying.

Eventually I found a new doctor, and a new regime that seemed to promise better outcomes. My outlook improved. But Pixie continued to decline. Soon she needed a cane to walk. She was frail, and tired easily. She could no longer drive. Her life became an endless round of medical appointments and resting at home.

One morning she rang me. She’d had more bad news. There were no treatment options left for her. Her doctors could only suggest pain management and palliative care. Could I come over for a visit? Yes, I could. (this was back in the days when I was still driving!) Dress up in something pretty, she said. Wear a nice perfume. We are going out!

I drove to her house, and Pixie shuffled to the door to greet me. Instead of her usual dressing gown and slippers she was wearing a pink dress, pearls and flats. She had a scarf tied over her head where only patchy hair had ever regrown. Closing the house door firmly behind her she took my arm. Come on, she said. I’m taking you for coffee!

Are you drinking coffee, I asked, surprised.

I am now, she laughed. And so are you. Today we are ordering like we are living, not dying!

We ventured a short distance to a large local plant nursery that had a gift shop and a cafe attached. Taking my arm, Pixie and I walked slowly through the gardens and rows of plants for sale, and then took a seat in the little cafe. It was still so early that the staff were busy watering the plants and sweeping the paths, ready for the day ahead.

A waiter came and took our order and very quickly two excellent coffees arrived.

Pixie picked up her coffee, inhaled and smiled rapturously. I sipped mine tentatively. It was delicious. Neither of us had drunk coffee for the longest time. It wasn’t on our cure-everything-diets.

We were quiet for a moment, perusing the menus. None of it was the food we’d usually eat. The lemon tart looks amazing, Pixie said. So does the eggs benedict, I added. We got both, with extra side plates so that we could share. Pixie made sure that her lemon tart came with cream and ice-cream.

What’s the occasion, I asked, once the waiter had left with our orders.

I’m sick of dying, Pixie said. I’m still alive. I’ve been alive for ages and I’m going to be alive for a bit longer yet. Hopefully. So I’ve decided to live while I’m alive. Dying is overrated, and it isn’t any fun!

We were both quiet for a moment, sitting with the truth of that.

It is so easy for dying to sneak in and rob the colour and the pleasure from life while you’re still alive.

For the eight months before Pixie became completely bedridden and shifted into that final stage of life we continued to have little outings, or on days when Pixie wasn’t up to a car trip I’d bring the world to her via treats, flowers, conversation and news.

One of our most precious days was when I wheeled her bed out onto their patio so she would feel the dappled sunlight and smell the fresh air of the changing seasons. She could look up through the pergola and see green leaves and flowers. She could see trees. She said it made her feel connected to life in a way that she couldn’t experience from between the white walls of her room.

My dear friend taught me something very important about dying.

Even when you are dying you are still living. That time is precious. There can be so much pleasure and value in it if it is lived and savoured.

So, if you, or someone you know has a chronic or terminal illness, think about how to have more shared experiences of living. This goes for people who are aging too!

Take Pixie’s hard-earned wisdom and let it shape your life. Celebrate and live life. For yourself and for your loved ones. Let the dying live. Help them to live while they are still alive. It will enrich life for both of you.

Sending so much love your way, Nicole ❤ xx

 

My Top Five Ways To Get Some Reflection Time

Image from www.elsbro.com

Image from www.elsbro.com

“Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.”
~ Søren Kierkegaard

 

We’re sitting in a terrific month for reflection, reinvention and connection.

So how do we do that?

Here are my top five ways to find that headspace where we can explore the past and imagine the future…

 

1 – Going for a solitary walk

A long walk gives us time to move into a space of quiet receptivity. Thoughts can bubble to the surface. Insights can find us. We get quiet enough to be open. Ideas come. You can walk in nature, through city streets or around your suburb. What matters is that you’re moving, and that you’re on your own so that you don’t need to engage in conversation. (Walking the dog is fine though!)

 

2 – Time out for a coffee and some world watching

Find a coffee shop where you can sit on your own, with a view of the world. You might be facing a busy street, you might be at the back of the shop looking out over all the patrons, you might be perched at a window seat, or at an outdoor cafe under a tree. You could even sit in a busy shopping mall. Grab your favourite coffee (or tea) and then just sit and watch the world go by. Don’t read. Don’t talk. Just sit with the world and with your thoughts. Eventually you’ll find a meditative space that lets you think deeply. Let your mind ramble. It will go where it needs to. Pay attention to where it wanders. Explore that more. If you want, take that further with some journalling.

 

3 – Soak in a bath

Just you, some bubbles, and lots of lovely soak time. Let your mind wander, or just sit and soak and rest. Trust that you’ll be integrating and getting what you need from this time alone.

 

4 – Journalling, at the quiet end of the day

This could be first thing in the morning or last thing at night when the house is quiet and you have time and space just for you. Pick up your pen, and write. Dump your brain onto the page and then keep going. Let the words flow. You might be surprised where they take you.

 

5 – Journalling time with some oracle or tarot cards for further reflection

Oracle and tarot cards are a great way to reflect on life. Choose a card. Think about what it signifies for you. Explore this in your journal.

Here's my own 2017 Planner, and my 2017 gratitude stone, my 2017 crystal pack, and the oracle cards I'm going to use for the year ahead. Pretty delicious, huh?

Here’s my own 2017 Planner, and my 2017 gratitude stone, my 2017 crystal pack, and the oracle cards I’m going to use for the year ahead. Pretty delicious, huh?

My Year of ME Planner is also a great tool for tuning in! And it’s not too late to join our year-long course and community or to get some more intensive coaching with me for the year ahead. More details here and in my Shop.

Make time for yourself this week. You’re worth it!

lots of love, Nicole ❤ xx

The Week Ahead – Oracle Reading for Monday 9 January

Wisdom

“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.”
~ Aristotle

 

Hello, Lovelies!

Here’s the oracle card I have chosen this Monday, and my take on the energetic outlook for the week ahead.

‘Wisdom’ is from the Chakra Wisdom Oracle Deck by Tori Hartman.

The week ahead is so well suited to supporting us as we seek to find direction, a path to follow, or a deeper sense of who we are and why we are here.

This week, tune in. How you do that is up to you. Get quiet. Go for a walk. Spend some time journalling. Play with your oracle or tarot cards. Do some yoga. Be in your body. Be with your soul. Listen to music. Get into your heart space. Take yourself on a little adventure that reconnects you to your sense of self.

My Year of ME Planner is also a great tool for tuning in! And it’s not too late to join our year-long course and community or to get some more intensive coaching with me for the year ahead. More details here and in my Shop.

Here's my own 2017 Planner, and my 2017 gratitude stone, my 2017 crystal pack, and the oracle cards I'm going to use for the year ahead. Pretty delicious, huh?

Here’s my own 2017 Planner, and my 2017 gratitude stone, my 2017 crystal pack, and the oracle cards I’m going to use for the year ahead. Pretty delicious, huh?

This week things will become clearer. You’ll become aware of what needs to be healed or changed in your life.

Or you’ll suddenly see a way forward with these things that you were already aware of but were stuck on.

You’ll become better aware of what heals and nurtures you.

You’ll become better aware of what limits or poisons you.

Once you know that, move toward what is beneficial, and away from what is not.

Your heart will call to you. Your wise self will whisper to you. There is a place within you that always knows, and that will always guide you true.

All you need to do to work that out is tune in. Be still. And wait for the answers to come. As you slow down (even just for a few minutes each day) you begin to connect into your own intuitive wisdom, your own heart centre, your inner compass.

This week supports us to bring our lives back into balance and to do some physical and emotional spring cleaning.

It’s a great week for starting a new health regime, for cleaning up your diet, for getting your body moving again.

Get a massage.

Book in with a counsellor, a coach, a chiropractor, a therapist, your tax advisor or accountant.

What a beautiful week to help set us up in more balanced and healthy ways for 2017!

Supportive crystals this week? Citrine, Chrysocolla, Aventurine and Amethyst. Helpful essential oils? Young Living’s Clarity essential oil blend, or  a combination (or singly!) of any of basil, lemon, rosemary and geranium.

Let yourself move back to a place of hope and optimism this week. Know that you have the capacity to reinvent yourself and to follow your dreams.

Holding you, as always, in my thoughts, prayers and meditations.  All my love,

Nicole ❤ xx